Guest guest Posted February 17, 2008 Report Share Posted February 17, 2008 At least, there is something to laugh at once in awhile. I had to laugh at your sister's remark; she appeared to take her confession well. Is your mother mobile at all? If she isn't, I'm surprised it wasn't her that fell if she tried to get out of bed to help him. Good luck. --- gaat wrote: > Hi Jannis, > > Just wondering how things are going with your > mom/dad and family. I'm still getting a good laugh > when I read about your sister praying for > forgiveness - has your mom made you do the same yet? > Courage > > Re: Hello > > > I understand frustration with LO's. Just remember, > though, that they have no control and the disease is > the one controlling when things happen. > > This has been a really hard week for our family. > Dad (primary caregiver, age 84) got up during the > evening to check on something and he fell. When he > fell, my mother came to a little, decided to get out > of her bed and help him. She fell. Dad crawled to > the phone and called 911, and then lost > consciousness. EMSA came and took them both to the > hospital, didn't call any of us, and we didn't find > out until almost 8 hours later that they were in > hospital. They kept them overnight for observation, > and I had to miss three more days of work last week > in addition to the 5 that I missed the end of the > week before and the first of last week. My sister > and I are both jeopardizing our jobs trying to take > care of things. > > My dad refuses to accept even the IDEA of an NH. > He is supported in that feeling by my two brothers, > neither of whom are accepting any responsibility for > Mom's care. My sister and I are worn to a frazzle. > > Mom is quickly going downhill. I don't know the > progression of the disease, but it's my feeling that > she's probably in the final stages. She eats no more > than two or three spoonfuls of food per day, and > often spits that out. She drinks less than a cup of > water a day. She either sleeps or pulls the covers > over her head and doesn't talk to anyone for > probably 23 hours and 55 minutes of each day. > > As a family, we're opposed to feeding tubes or > artificial hydration to prolong her life. She is in > a living hell right now, having hallucinations and > seeing things. Tonight she looked straight at me, > and said, " Are you satan? " She knows my name, but > she calls me by my entire name, and has no memory or > connection that we are mother and daughter. She > refuses to take anything from my hands, and my > father is the only one who can give her the meds or > even a drink of water. > > She used the portable commode and then kept > checking to make sure my father flushed it. I asked > her what made her think we wouldn't flush it...what > did she think we were going to do with it. Her > response was, " Feed it back to me. " > > Last Saturday, she grabbed my sister's hand, and > asked her if she was saved. My sister said, " Of > course, Mom. You were there at my baptism. " That > wasn't sufficient...my sister had to repeat a prayer > for her salvation, and ask forgiveness for all acts > of adultery and fornication! I was standing in the > kitchen laughing my head off...when she came into > the kitchen, she said, " Well, at least it was > short...if it'd been YOU, you'd still be asking > forgiveness... " > > At times, I feel guilty for laughing at some of > the things that go on, but then I realized that my > laughter was a cover for the pain. It hurts. I know > that Mom's time is limited, and I still count each > moment as precious. > > Jannis > > > > > > --------------------------------- > Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your homepage. > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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