Guest guest Posted January 24, 2008 Report Share Posted January 24, 2008 Ron, Are you getting enough sleep? Eating properly? Taking your vitamins? I don't like the sound of any of what you said is happening. It could just be stress but I think you should see your doctor. If nothing else you MUST arrange yourself a day or two off. There are plenty of home care agencies around so you could get someone to give you a rest for a couple of days. I don't know if they have one in your area but Visiting Angels is the service we use and I LOVE THEM! If you can't do it for yourself than do it for your mom so that you can rest up and be the best you can for her. You won't be able to support her if you get sick or burnt out so you need to take care of yourself! I hope this gets better for you! keep us updated! Emma > > Ive had a really strange day today.This evening I toulk mom to the restroom and once I got her situated I went into my bedroom as always which is right next to the bathroom so she would have privacy.I dont remember anything after that.My girlfriend came tonight to find me sound asleep and mom sitting there in her chair unable to put her chair back.She had yelled for me countless times without me hearing.This has never happened to me before and It really bothers me that I did that to mom.So I went to get her evening meds and Im reading them right from the list I made out and get two meds mixed up and almost gave them to her.Luckily I caught myself before any damage was done.Then just now I have mom eating a snack and was going to the restroom and ended up in the laundry room standing there wondering what I came in there for.This really bothers me.Guess I just wanted to get it off my chest.Hope all is well. Ron > > RON > > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2008 Report Share Posted January 24, 2008 HI Ron, I'm really concerned about you. I think you body is trying to tell you something loud and clear - its time to get some help. This could be a matter of sleep deprivation but you really should get to the doctor and have a physical exam. Being on call 24/7 keeps our bodies in a hyper-alert state and this takes its toll on our bodies. Ron, I would strongly urge you to start getting outside help in caring for your mom. If your mom were well and was watching you caring for someone else I feel certain she would tell you the same thing. Ron, when we finally starting getting outside help I couldn't believe the positive difference it made and kicked myself for not doing it sooner. Please let us know how you are feeling today. Sending you a big hug, Courage OT Strange day Ive had a really strange day today.This evening I toulk mom to the restroom and once I got her situated I went into my bedroom as always which is right next to the bathroom so she would have privacy.I dont remember anything after that.My girlfriend came tonight to find me sound asleep and mom sitting there in her chair unable to put her chair back.She had yelled for me countless times without me hearing.This has never happened to me before and It really bothers me that I did that to mom.So I went to get her evening meds and Im reading them right from the list I made out and get two meds mixed up and almost gave them to her.Luckily I caught myself before any damage was done.Then just now I have mom eating a snack and was going to the restroom and ended up in the laundry room standing there wondering what I came in there for.This really bothers me.Guess I just wanted to get it off my chest.Hope all is well. Ron RON --------------------------------- Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2008 Report Share Posted January 24, 2008 Dear Ron, darling young man, you know that it is time for your Mom to go to a nursing Home. How many times has she needed you that you are unaware of? I know you mean well, but bless her heart, while you were out of it, she was not being attended. Not to mention what problems you are having. See your Doctor, and then see to getting your Mom in a nursing home. Talk to your family for help. It is no disgrace on your part. But, with you being sick, you don't need the care of a Loved One. Her neglect, whether intentional of not, can be considered Elder Abuse.Please don't delay in getting care for her, so that you can properly care for yourself. Your heart cries out to care for your Mom, but sometimes we have to use our heads instead of our hearts. We love you Ron, and sure don't like to see this pressure on you when you are sick. I'm gladyou are seeing a Doctor Love with all my heart, Imogene > > Ive had a really strange day today.This evening I toulk mom to the restroom and once I got her situated I went into my bedroom as always which is right next to the bathroom so she would have privacy.I dont remember anything after that.My girlfriend came tonight to find me sound asleep and mom sitting there in her chair unable to put her chair back.She had yelled for me countless times without me hearing.This has never happened to me before and It really bothers me that I did that to mom.So I went to get her evening meds and Im reading them right from the list I made out and get two meds mixed up and almost gave them to her.Luckily I caught myself before any damage was done.Then just now I have mom eating a snack and was going to the restroom and ended up in the laundry room standing there wondering what I came in there for.This really bothers me.Guess I just wanted to get it off my chest.Hope all is well. Ron > > RON > > > --------------------------------- > Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2008 Report Share Posted January 25, 2008 <snip> What a wonderful idea! That really needs to go into our files. I never thought of those door bells. <snip> Already in the Links section w/in folder entitled " Home Safety & LO Safety " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 25, 2008 Report Share Posted January 25, 2008 Well here I am again. One thought on the door bells. When a person gets sick enough they don't remember to use it. We have had one for years, because of Don's heart, but just the other night he had severe chest pain, and didn't call me. He didn't remember the bell. In the cold and all his pain he walked into me. The more he hurt the more scrambled his brain became. But he came to me at least. From now on I plan to keep him in my room. He doesn't know it yet. He is there now, and I have warmed the room for him. Love a big bunch, Imogene > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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