(((((Jan)))))

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Dear Jan-

Sure wishing we lived closer so you would have

someone to have a glass of wine with.

Wishing you well, much peace, and keeping you

and Jim in our thoughts and prayers. This sounds

so familiar with what I went through with my dad.

My heart truly goes out to you. For every closed

door a window is opened. Please stay strong.

Love and Hugs to you-

Sandie and

-- I'm having a melt down

Hi,

Here's the scoop on Jim as of today. Yesterday,

Thursday, they moved Jim from ER to a hospital room

and said that if he could go 24 hours without being

combative he could go to the nh today, well the

hospital put a sitter in his room and then called

today and said, " Jim was very calm through the night,

but we can not transfer him, because there was a

sitter in his room throughout the night and the

nursing home policy is that no sitter can be in the

room and that Jim has to be alone for 24 hours without

being combative before they can transfer him to a nh.

$#@ & *! WHY WOULD THEY PUT A SITTER IN JIM'S ROOM IF

THEY KNOW WE ARE WORKING TO GET HIM INTO A NH?!!!!!!

So he did not go to the nh home today and he was calm

too! The hospital still has him. Unfortunately, I went

to visit Jim and found him laying naked on a soaking

wet bed pad with poop all up his back. The nurses

could not change him, because of his combativeness

with the toileting issues and just left the diaper off

of him. He was laying peacefully in all that and I had

to mention that he needs his bed pad changed and to be

cleaned up, which made Jim combative, which I am sure

now has to be recorded, so I am sure they will call me

tomorrow and say they can not move him, since he was

combative. If I had just kept my mouth closed, he

would have remained calm. I have a feeling he will be

coming back home with me. No one wants him. I should

probably just let them give him the Haldol, so he is

totally comatose and doesn't know what's going on. I

am so exhausted. I have done all the work I had to do

filling out the paper work at the nursing home and

getting everything in order for Jim to be transfered

there, but I have my doubts now. There is a new

policy with Jim's health care now too that I have to

pay $300.00 per day. He has already been there since

Wednesday. It is also $200.00 for them to transfer Jim

to the nh. Arghhhhhhh!!!!!

I canceled my caregiver for Mother's Day since I

thought Jim would be in a nursing home by then. I feel

so hemmed in right now with no way out!!! This has

been a total nightmare. Thanks for listening, I think

I will go and have a few glasses of wine to calm my

nerves now. I can't have a lemon drop, because that is

when you make lemonade out of lemons and I don't feel

like this is lemonade.

Jan

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