Guest guest Posted August 25, 2012 Report Share Posted August 25, 2012 > Gottman has studied heterosexual and same sex relationships. The challenges couples face turn out to be very similar. I'm sure this is a surprise to many, as it is logical to assume that there would be fewer misunderstandings in same sex partnerships. Ah, there is much we need to understand about the relationship " roles " that each partner assumes. .. Others? Whether heterosexual or same-sex relationships, each person is in a different place on the male/female continuum. Not only with respect to gender/relationship roles, but fundamental emotional wiring. IOW, some men are more in tune emotionally, much in the way that is more closely associated with women. The reverse is also true. Taken together, it all affects a couple's ability to communicate with each other. Best, ~CJ ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Let your wise mind be governing your words, not your emotions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 27, 2012 Report Share Posted August 27, 2012 Whether heterosexual or same-sex relationships, each person is in a different place on the male/female continuum. Not only with respect to gender/relationship roles, but fundamental emotional wiring. IOW, some men are more in tune emotionally, much in the way that is more closely associated with women. The reverse is also true. Taken together, it all affects a couple's ability to communicate with each other. Okay, I have run across this paradigm in many different discussions, and it still confuses me. If we are all in different places vis-a-vis male/female characteristics, such that a given male may be more "female" in certain ways than a particular female, how does it make sense to call these traits male and female? Thanks for any clarification. Andromeda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 29, 2012 Report Share Posted August 29, 2012 On 8/27/2012 2:48 PM, Luxenburg wrote: Okay, I have run across this paradigm in many different discussions, and it still confuses me. If we are all in different places vis-a-vis male/female characteristics, such that a given male may be more "female" in certain ways than a particular female, how does it make sense to call these traits male and female? Thanks for any clarification. They are only male and female traits and behaviors in the sense that they are traits and behaviors most common to males and females, based partially on cultural values and partially on temperament and biological differences. When people speak of male and female traits and behaviors, they are really referring to the conventional traits and behaviors that a society has come to associate with gender. In truth, a continuum has always existed, with people hiding or denying certain (opposite sex) traits and behaviors within themselves in order to be seen as 'normal' for their gender. Not sure I'm explaining this well... I know what I want to say, yet am just having trouble articulating the idea. Perhaps someone else can improve on it. Best, ~CJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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