my work on divorce

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Belief?

I should divorce my husband and move on with my life.

Is it true?

I don't know. . .some days (like today) I feel like it is. But I guess I can't

know for sure.

Reaction?

I feel panicked, like time is running out and I'm wasting my youth working on a

dead-end

relationship. I feel lonely, like I will never get a chance to be in a happy

relationship if I am

stuck in a bad marriage. I feel weak. . .why can't I find the strength to move

on when so

many others have, even though they've had more invested?

Treatment?

I treat my husband with ambivalence, indifference, anger, disdain. (This must

be

confusing for him since the rest of the time I am very gung ho and put my all

into

" working it out. " )

Life without the story?

I would appreciate the good things in my marriage. I wouldn't put so much

pressure on

our relationship. I would be happy and independent. I would feel loved and

free.

Turn arounds:

I should divorce my thoughts and move on with my life.

Wow, yes, for sure. I wish I could divorce some of my thoughts because they

suck and

they cause me lots of suffering! If I didn't have these thoughts weighing me

down, I think

life would be better for everyone.

My husband should divorce me and move on with his life.

I can see that this is what I'm afraid will happen. I think that he'll quit

before me so I want

to beat him to the punch to avoid feeling hurt, rejected. If my husband were so

up and

down, back and forth, it would sure make me want to divorce him! If I were him.

.. .I might

divorce me!

I should divorce myself and move on with my life.

Sometimes I want to. . .sometimes I feel like such a drag, such a burden even to

myself. . .if only I could be someone else, then life would be so much better.

Wow. . .

I feel better. The work really " works! "