loving what is--my children

[Guest guest]

I am only a year into this phenomenal journey but I am struggling with

trying to find a middle ground when it comes to my adolescent children

and expectations. " A 14 year old 'should' set the table on a regular

basis ... or do chores to build up character. " Shouldn't I insist

that they do their chores or is that fighting with reality? Sometimes

this feels a lot like a 'whatever' philosophy...letting go feels like

being a doormat sometimes. Any suggestions would be most welcome to

this new member of the community. Thanks.