Guest guest Posted August 29, 2007 Report Share Posted August 29, 2007 [...] > In my experience, my energy got > consumed because of a particular kind > of thinking - when I > wasn't perfectly clear that what I was > doing was the right thing to do. My > energy got consumed when I had some > 'guilty' feeling inside, when I had some > 'resentment' inside, when my mind, body > and heart were not in prefect > alignment with my action . In other words, doing anything without wholeheartedly wanting to do it, was an energy drain. Doing anything without complete inner acceptance was an energy drain. Anything that I did without love was an energy drain. Anything that I wasn't happy doing was an energy drain. In other words, guilt, shame, resentment, grudge, complain, anger, hate, un-forgiveness manipulation, reactivity, revenge needs constant expenditure of energy. Peace, forgiveness, acceptance, happiness, love doesn't need expenditure of energy. > > > Things that consumed lot of my energy > were: > > - Self justification : justifying myself, > justifying my existence, justifying my > actions, trying to " correct " other's > opinion of me, trying to " prove " to > others the things that I knew to be > true about myself. > [...] > - Trying to please others. > > > - Trying to win other's approval, trying > to win someone else's agreement. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 29, 2007 Report Share Posted August 29, 2007 > > Doing anything without > wholehearted willingness, > was an energy drain. > > Doing anything without complete inner acceptance, > was an energy drain. > > Anything that I did without love, > was an energy drain. > > Anything that I wasn't happy doing, > was an energy drain. > > In other words, guilt, shame, resentment, > holding grudge or complain > needs expenditure of energy. Peace, forgiveness, > happiness, love doesn't need expenditure > of energy. > [...] I noticed that thinking about " future " , thinking about " money " , speculating/anticipating/guessing the " future " required constant effort and it SUCKED energy out of me. I noticed that focusing on results, working to achieve certain results, sucked energy out of me. When I focused solely on the action itself, it got much easier, natural and effortless. I noticed that focusing on others, trying to meet other's expectations, trying to win other's agreement, approval or praise... sucked energy out of me. When I focused solely on serving principles and values that I value - values like compassion, kindness, forgiveness, peace, reason, acceptance... it got much easier, natural and effortless. I noticed that trying to " avoid " what others might do, say or express... sucked even more energy out of me; focusing simply on doing what meets my own principles and values was much easier, effortless and natural. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 29, 2007 Report Share Posted August 29, 2007 > > It appears to me that those are > all stories and you can't know > any of it. I know it from my experience, as in: .....when I put my hand in fire, I get burn. .....when I shout at my wife, usually she shouts back. .....when I keep worrying, I get tired. > Also seems to be totally outside > the framework of The Work. Thank you, Vivian! But, it doesn't seem that way to me. When I am trying to win other's approval, I am trying to change thier opinion of me and I am worrying about 'what they think', when I do that, I step out of my business and as a result, I lose peace. When I worry about why people are the way they are, I fight against reality and thus lose peace. [...] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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