Guest guest Posted September 3, 2006 Report Share Posted September 3, 2006 Who write the article about the batsman? I really, really want to thank him/her. gitoros wrote: Hello AC > > i am more like LTW. don't get me wrong. > > Don't worry. I can be " like you " , no problem! i can see from your words, that you " must " be that way. it takes an attitude to live your situation. i have two friends, where the situations might be somewhat similar to what i sensed from your words. since she knows her man, he was never good enough for her. (she says " it is my problem that he is 'so and so' " ) i can only see a wonderful man, who lives with her, and their two kids. he is there reliable, caring ... . yet last year he had a heartattack. it is similar to the man i know from california. he too had an heart attack. his wife stood next to him, while he was laying on the floor. doing nothing. till the daughter came, shouting at her mum, why she's not doing anything, while dad was about to die. life happening. i know. i know also, there's lot's of bleefs in this world. we should/shouldn't behave like this or that. the meaning of life is this or that. ... ... it just goes on and on. can you cope with your situation without getting sick over it? to me that would be the indicator. the work is helping here. we are in a work forum. > > i too love your openness. > > Thanks. I appreciate your love. fine. thanks. > > > I was wondering why you write it. > > do you suffer from that situtation. > > I used to suffer a lot because of it. > Now, I suffer quite less. I'm pleased to hear this. > > do you want to " change " it. > > If I had " real " power and choice, > I might have already changed it. hm. this sounds good in the first moment. wise in the second, a little concerning in the third moment. i find it interesting and challenging in relationshiops when one is open to change, while the other tries to stay and keep things the way they were. A few days ago i read this: Life is like a cricket match. It is like a bowler throwing various kinds of balls at you – ball of pain, ball of pleasure, ball of hatred, ball of jealousy, ball of crisis. You are the batsman. Your life depends on how you play these balls. In a cricket match if the bowler knows you are afraid of leg-breaks, he'll constantly bowl leg- breaks at you. So is life. If you do not accept the balls it bowls, it will bowl only such balls since that is your weakness. Being a batsman you are expected to face every kind of ball. You cannot afford to say I would not face a particular kind of a ball or a bowler. If you say that then the opposing team captain would only make that bowler bowl. Life knows what you are afraid of and only such kinds of balls would come. Therefore, if you learn to play all the balls, your problems would get solved. Learning to play all the balls is nothing but Recognizing, Accepting and Experiencing events and incidents as they occur without trying to run away from them. You should not think life would be nice and kind. It would bowl all kinds of balls. A good batsman would not run away from the field saying it is a tough ball. If you are fighting jealousy then life would keep giving you situations where you would feel more jealous. But if you learn to play the balls of jealousy by experience it then the opposing captain would declare that you have won. He would concede because you are now hitting every ball for a six. And what is it to hit every ball for a six - To experience everything in life. The art of experiencing is the art of batting. If you could experience every thing, what ever be the situation you have won. If you can do that here, you are fully enlightened. An enlightened man is one who can hit every ball for a six. > > > do you look for solutions? > > Yes. Would you like me to also look a little bit around, and tell you if i find something interesting? > > e.g. when you > > read things like wiki, or tolle. > > Yes. i see. thanks. > > > > > in case you're looking for let's say relief, i wonder if i can be of any help. > > Sure. How would you like to help? > > > hm. are you looking for input? > > Sure. i know different therapists, which i could ask. e.g. > > > you mean you love the whole collection. did i get you right? > > I mean I love my wife, I love my life, > I love my family, I love my kids. i can sense that from your words. > > hm i am somehow impressed how people are willing to stand > > situations, i would not want to accept. > > I can understand that. > > I imagine that a severe desease or > disablity or extreme poverty will be > extremely difficult to stand and I have > great praise for them who do it > with peace, consciousness and grace! I know from experience that this also belongs to your inner attitude towards life. there seems to be a tendency in " humanity " to imagine " worst cases " . and then come back from that imagination with different outputs. i know from experience that some of these worst cases are not that terrible as they seem to be when they get imagined. and again, a lot depends on, how the " inner attitude/thinking " is. i can imagine that you found ways to cope better and suffer less in your situation. and as you are on your way and i can hear that you truely love your wife with all your heart and deeds you will most probably continue to find reliefing ways to deal with it. and i notice that you are also quite cute. she can damage your books, letters and so on. you still find your way. > > did you mean, you wonder how people cope with situations, where they > > are somehow exposed, like prison, or CC? > > Yes, that's what I meant. ok. > > > > > > > IOW... people do have their [seemingly] > > > just and fair freedom in many situations. > > > > do you sometimes think, a marriage is somehow like a prison? > > No. I don't think so. understood. > > I think there are many situations that involves > 'limiation' on freedom prision is one of them, > my situation is one of them. i see. would you marry her again? > > ask your heart. you have access to your own wisdom! > > I don't want to leave my wife. > > I love my wife. > > That is true for now. yes. maybe you are that indian man on one of these to photos. maybe you know this old indian structure. 1 quarter of life is for childhood and education, second build a life, family etc. 3. i cant quite remember, fourth, withdrawel and spiritual life. it can be great! to keep a family together as long as it is somehow possible. there are so many ways of living. can you talk with your wife heart to heart, genuinly? > > my ideal was and is, to live in a healthy happy relationship, or on > > my own. but not in an unhappy one. that's only my philosphy. > > I can undersatnd that. > I respect and appreciate your choice > and your courage to live in accordance > with your choice. i just shared a bit of my background to give you an idea. i had my share in " difficult balls " and i'm sure there will be more coming. but i can take them with less and lesser inner pain. this is what i wish for you, too. > > > > ok. let's ask differently. more specific. do you limit her in > > return? > > No, I don't think so. > And, she has never told me that I lmit her in any way. i see. thanks for your response. i see you love her. > > do you live tit for tat responses. > > No, I don't think so. fine. > > > Thanks for writing Rose! > > > > your welcome. when i read your posting (the one before), my physical heart started to ache immensly. > > I can undersatnd that too. > > I love you Rose! thanks. > > PS: and again the question: do you do any kind of fights, like > > marcial arts or fight clubs, or what? > > No, I don't. ok. i understand. i got that impression from a former posting of you. > > BTW... my wife doesn't want me to do yoga too! > In fact, she fights... if she sees me doing yoga! what is it, that she's so afraid of? > > Sometimes [like yesterday night] she looks > into my eyes... to check if had been > 'meditating' behind her back!!! > > Don't you find it hilarious!!! > > I do. in a way, yes. if i could manage to be in balance. yes. : ) hm. i think if i was in your place and i would have chosen to stay with my marriage-partner i would have gone through different phases. resistance, fight, resignation, acceptance (maybe). i would make sure that i have input. input in the meaning of that i do get my real needs and wants satisfied. i mean genuine contact with other humans. closeness/intimacy with myself. fun, getting nurtured from inside and outside. have you for example seen the movie " shall we dance " ? there is an japanese original that is much more im- /expressive than the hollywood remake. but even that is great. > > Thanks for writing Rose! you're welcome. thanks for answering. i'm learning from you. > > Greeting and love, > ac. greetins and love, too. rose --------------------------------- Stay in the know. 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Guest guest Posted September 4, 2006 Report Share Posted September 4, 2006 adriana, i found that on a site called onenessuniversity.com. love, rose > Who write the article about the batsman? I really, really want to thank him/her. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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