Guest guest Posted June 30, 2011 Report Share Posted June 30, 2011 Hi Couldn't resist the temptation to put in a quick response to your question below, even though I'm jumping my queue of other replies I owe you: ------ On Wed, 29 Jun 2011 at 22:24:45 +0000, you asked: > Another question for those: > > Can people who discover at older age still be able to learn social > skills and all that? I believe more senior Aspies learn their own coping mechanisms from their experiences, but in this case coping often doesn't include participating. We could benefit and learn a lot more though if we were given equivalent help opportunities to the those that are afforded to kids these days. Unfortunately I don't feel we are. From my point of view, there seems to be an age limit discrimination against us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2011 Report Share Posted June 30, 2011 Underdog wrote: > > Questions for all those involved (and who want to participate off course): Great questions, Chris. Everyone did so well at responding to each of them that I don't feel a need to add anything to the mix. I was so pleased to see that others addressed your questions in the depth (and shades of gray) that each deserved. Hopefully everyone who reads these responses will view the many stereotypes related to Aspergers in a whole new light. Best, ~CJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2011 Report Share Posted June 30, 2011 1. Do you consider asperger syndrome a handicap? And why? No. It is a different way of thinking that has implications regarding how you relate to others. It allows me to excel at a specific vocation or set of interests and make a difference in the world. 2. What are the most difficult things you had to face with asperger syndrome? Dealing with the pain inflicted on my family when I could not understand or relate to how they were feeling. I mentally understand it but the feeling side is a challenge. 3. Do you consider asperger syndrome to be ahead of evolution?- as mentioned in the link here. No. It is a another facet of the human condition. All facets are valid when personally experienced. 4. What would you suggest other aspies to do when facing some of their problems? Acknowledge that their own resources are not enough and that help is needed. Some aspies do not allow others to help them. Don't deny the condition and try to mask it by pretending to be someone else. 5. What gives you most joy? Solving problems in my work and getting results. 6. What should everybody know about asperger syndrome? That it manifests differently for different individuals with varying degrees of severity. The impact on the families of AS person can be far greater than the impact on the AS person in some respects. 7. What's lacking in this world, that coul!d really benifit aspies? Early diagnosis which requires education of parents and the medical profession. Greg dx AS at 53 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2011 Report Share Posted July 5, 2011 >> That was my first and last attempt at reaching out to adult AS in this community LOL. But that encounter left me with a disquieting question I have pondered ever since: do *I* affect some people that way too? > > Yes, that disquieting question worries me too, especially since I'm > so isolated and most of my contacts are on-line only. We really need > some face-to-face contact friends who know us well enough to honestly > tell us about the spots and the horns growing out of our ears! Even > to have an undiplomatic Aspie blurting out the awful truth about us > would be better than not knowing! Along these lines, a good friend said something surprising about me a week ago. B is a therapist, and a good one, specializing in gifted/LD kids. SHe understands AS very well, and can spot an Aspie a mile away -- except herself. She's mildly Aspie, though she doesn't admit it and she compensates *very* well. Anyway, she said I have a knack for getting people to take my side and want to help me. All I could think about from this was .... wow! This is not something deliberate on my part, and when I was a kid everyone teased/bullied me, so hearing this was quite a shock. But it will come in handy during the divorce proceedings, I hope. --Liz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2011 Report Share Posted July 5, 2011 Liz Cademy wrote: > Anyway, she said I have a knack for getting people to take my side and want to help me. I sure would like some of your knack, Liz. I tend to come off as so independent and self-sufficient that it doesn't seem to occur to others that I might ever require assistance with anything. Even when I make the effort to come right out and explicitly ask, people sometimes don't 'hear' that I have a genuine need. Best, ~CJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 6, 2011 Report Share Posted July 6, 2011 Me, too, and CJ, so make that a triangle with me being the one smack dab in the middle of Canadian Prairies - Helen > You and me both, CJ. So there's one of us on each coast! > > ~ > > -----Original Message----- >I tend to come off as so > independent and self-sufficient that it doesn't seem to occur to others > that I might ever require assistance with anything. Even when I make > the effort to come right out and explicitly ask, people sometimes don't > 'hear' that I have a genuine need. > > Best, > ~CJ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2011 Report Share Posted July 12, 2011 All the way up in Alberta or Manitoba.. hmmmm > > Me, too, and CJ, so make that a triangle with me being the one smack dab in the middle of Canadian Prairies > - Helen > > > You and me both, CJ. So there's one of us on each coast! > > > > ~ > > > > -----Original Message----- > > >I tend to come off as so > > independent and self-sufficient that it doesn't seem to occur to others > > that I might ever require assistance with anything. Even when I make > > the effort to come right out and explicitly ask, people sometimes don't > > 'hear' that I have a genuine need. > > > > Best, > > ~CJ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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