Breezy Re: NT and Aspie

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Hi Breezy,

It's always so wonderful to hear from you too, long time member! I have learned

much from your gentle insights over the years.

cyber hugs!

- Helen

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> I dont post often. I have been reading all the recent posts though. I wanted

to say that I have learned a lot from this list and my marriage and my

relationship with my aspie husband has improved from what I learned.. I

appreciate all that has been shared here. Having said that I dont post because I

dont want to be seen as a another whiny NT wife who wants to " fix " her aspie

husband  nor do I want to have to defend him from other NT wives who want to

jump on whatever issue I may be having at the moment. I dont want to be told Im

not trying hard enough to understand him,accomadate him, or to just accept him

as he is. I also dont want to be told that Im being abused verbally or that I

MUST have Cassandras syndrome because Im married to Aspergers. All of these

things have happened on the various lists I joined and is the reason I no longer

post. I joined various lists in order to educate my self about Aspergers so that

I would  understand my husband

> better. I dont want to change him. I actually like him just the way he is. I

wanted to help him understand why he has always struggled with the people around

him and why he always felt   " out of sync "  (his words not mine) with the rest of

the world. I wanted to help someone I love dearly with the things they struggle

hard with. Its not easy. Marriage never is, but marriage to him is worth the

struggle and the frustration and the sacrifices I have had to make in order to

make it ok.

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> This particular list has been the source of particularly good info for me.

There have been good suggestions that I used and there have been less helpful

suggestions I simply ignored as they didnt apply to me or my situation. The

people here are generous with their experiences, thoughts and advice. This list

is a good place to learn and I want to thank everybody who contributes here.

> breezy  

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