Re: Housework/Yardwork

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It's funny you brought this subject up Joyce. One

of the other groups I am a member of is a Messies

Anonymous group, which probably tells all of you more

about me than I originally meant to share. ;D Anyway,

I was already fighting a losing battle somewhat with

clutter before my husband Mike developed IPF. Now I

am in the position of not only getting my own habits

under control, but taking on what used to be Mike's

share of the chores as well. Speaking as a spouse of

someone with IPF, for those of you who are feeling

guilty because you can't help more....DON'T!!! I

admit at first the childish side of me sort of

resented his lack of ability to help me....but then an

amazing thing happened, I started to realize that I

CAN do all those things that need to be done. I'm

probably not going to get this to come across the way

I want it to, and I apologize in advance if I offend

anyone, but those of you who are finding yourselves

losing the ability to do some things are actually in a

way teaching your loved ones to be stronger people. I

know I'm not really addressing exactly what Joyce

asked, but I think it's important for you all to

realize that we (the spouses/loved ones) are already

so blessed to have you around for even one more day

that the day-to-day chores and such don't really hold

that much importance to us. Joyce, so what if your

tables get dusty, or the Spring Cleaning doesn't get

done the way you'd like it to...enjoy every moment you

can with your husband! I don't think when ANY of us

gets to Heaven our family left here on earth will be

wishing we had left the house a little neater before

we departed ... Well, that's just my 2 cents worth,

hope it made sense to somebody...

Later,

Chris

--- janne5303 wrote:

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> Just wondering??

>

> Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you

> do and not do? Do

> you get outside help?

>

> I have always been a stickler for a clean house.

> This weekend, I

> dusted. It had been three weeks! My husband helps

> but works full time

> and is not getting younger. He is also having to

> deal with outside now

> that Spring has sprung! Spring also means spring

> cleaning, which is not

> happening.

>

> What do you do?

>

> Joyce

>

>

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Thanks It's so hard to give up control. But I think we are all learning to let it go.

Take good care of you. I'm sure you are doing a great job.. My hubby is 6'4, 300 lbs. now

you should just see the sights around here.. God Bless ALL our care givers... Peggy

on 4/9/06 10:53 PM, at cmjonesohio@... wrote:

It's funny you brought this subject up Joyce. One

of the other groups I am a member of is a Messies

Anonymous group, which probably tells all of you more

about me than I originally meant to share. ;D Anyway,

I was already fighting a losing battle somewhat with

clutter before my husband Mike developed IPF. Now I

am in the position of not only getting my own habits

under control, but taking on what used to be Mike's

share of the chores as well. Speaking as a spouse of

someone with IPF, for those of you who are feeling

guilty because you can't help more....DON'T!!! I

admit at first the childish side of me sort of

resented his lack of ability to help me....but then an

amazing thing happened, I started to realize that I

CAN do all those things that need to be done. I'm

probably not going to get this to come across the way

I want it to, and I apologize in advance if I offend

anyone, but those of you who are finding yourselves

losing the ability to do some things are actually in a

way teaching your loved ones to be stronger people. I

know I'm not really addressing exactly what Joyce

asked, but I think it's important for you all to

realize that we (the spouses/loved ones) are already

so blessed to have you around for even one more day

that the day-to-day chores and such don't really hold

that much importance to us. Joyce, so what if your

tables get dusty, or the Spring Cleaning doesn't get

done the way you'd like it to...enjoy every moment you

can with your husband! I don't think when ANY of us

gets to Heaven our family left here on earth will be

wishing we had left the house a little neater before

we departed ... Well, that's just my 2 cents worth,

hope it made sense to somebody...

Later,

Chris

--- janne5303 wrote:

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> Just wondering??

>

> Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you

> do and not do? Do

> you get outside help?

>

> I have always been a stickler for a clean house.

> This weekend, I

> dusted. It had been three weeks! My husband helps

> but works full time

> and is not getting younger. He is also having to

> deal with outside now

> that Spring has sprung! Spring also means spring

> cleaning, which is not

> happening.

>

> What do you do?

>

> Joyce

>

>

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[Guest guest]

>

> >

> > Hi everyone,

> >

> > Just wondering??

> >

> > Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you

> > do and not do? Do

> > you get outside help?

> >

> > I have always been a stickler for a clean house.

> > This weekend, I

> > dusted. It had been three weeks! My husband helps

> > but works full time

> > and is not getting younger. He is also having to

> > deal with outside now

> > that Spring has sprung! Spring also means spring

> > cleaning, which is not

> > happening.

> >

> > What do you do?

> >

> > Joyce

> >

> >

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

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I don't do housework, but there are lots of other things I like to do...wash the truck, mow the lawn...etc. My doctor put me on synthoid. He said as long as my blood pressure stays under control, the synthoid will be good to raise my energy level. Since I'm still working as well....I really think it helps.JImjanne5303 wrote: Hi everyone, Just wondering??Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you do and not do? Do you get outside help? I have always been a stickler for a clean house. This weekend, I dusted. It had been

three weeks! My husband helps but works full time and is not getting younger. He is also having to deal with outside now that Spring has sprung! Spring also means spring cleaning, which is not happening. What do you do?Joyce "The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits." -Albert Einstein-

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Gosh, Jim, that is wonderful that you are able to do so much. Are you on oxygen? BarbJim wrote: I don't do housework, but there are lots of other things I like to do...wash the truck, mow the lawn...etc. My doctor put me on synthoid. He said as long as my blood pressure stays under control, the synthoid will be good to raise my energy level. Since I'm still working as well....I really think it helps.JImjanne5303 wrote: Hi everyone, Just wondering?? Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you do and not do? Do you get outside help? I have always been a stickler for a clean house. This weekend, I dusted. It had been three weeks! My husband helps but works full time and is not getting younger. He is also having to deal with outside now that Spring has sprung! Spring also means spring cleaning, which is not happening. What do you do? Joyce "The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits."-Albert Einstein- __________________________________________________

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Hi Barb, I'm new to the group. I thought I should probably find some sort of support group since there aren't a lot of people that get this disease. I'm trying to learn more about it. The standard stuff I read suggests that I get a will together in a hurry, but I'm not the give-up kinda guy. I am not on oxygen. I bought one of those oxygen measuring thingamagigs you put on your finger and my oxygen level stays about 90-93 unless I do something that requires a lot of exertion...like mowing the grass. I have a very small yard and I have to stop 2 or 3 times while doing it. It used to take me 30 minutes. Now it takes about 2 hours! My oxygen level drops to 85-88 but recovers after I rest for a while. Someone sent out a note on Market news on an oral form of therapy that has no side effects and might help me with this obnoxious cough. I called my Doctor and asked the nurse to see if he'd look into it for me. The coughing kills

me. After the lung biopsy I had last July, my chest is still healing and coughing makes the healing process seem endless. I think I've had the disease for about 4 years now, but only got diagnosed this time last year. Before they thought it was either Asthma or Acid Reflux disease. Right.... I still work, but know my stamina on the job is waning and I need to do something soon, because if I don't work I don't get paid. I seem to be okay in the mornings after a resting all night and then feel worse as the day progresses. Oh, well at least I'm still here! Funny in a way...my wife has Lupus and some of the side effects of the medicine she was taking and the disease made me think I was going to lose her about 5 years ago...and here I am in this precarious state at the time she is in remission and feeling better. Hang in there Barb!!!JimBarbara Soice

wrote: Gosh, Jim, that is wonderful that you are able to do so much. Are you on oxygen? BarbJim wrote: I don't do housework, but there are lots of other things I like to do...wash the truck, mow the lawn...etc. My doctor put me on synthoid. He said as long as my blood pressure stays under control, the synthoid will be good to raise my energy level. Since I'm still working as well....I really think it helps.JImjanne5303 wrote: Hi everyone, Just wondering?? Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you do and not do? Do you get outside help? I have always been a stickler for a clean house. This weekend, I dusted. It had been three weeks! My husband helps but works full time and is not getting younger. He is also having to deal with outside now that Spring has sprung! Spring also means spring cleaning, which is not happening. What do you do? Joyce "The difference between genius and

stupidity is that genius has its limits."-Albert Einstein- __________________________________________________

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Hey, Jim: You sound like a great guy...I hope it is a long, long time before you have to use oxygen...enjoy each day... BarbJim wrote: Hi Barb, I'm new to the group. I thought I should probably find some sort of support group since there aren't a lot of people that get this disease. I'm trying to learn more about it. The standard stuff I read suggests that I get a will together in a hurry, but I'm not the give-up kinda guy. I am not on oxygen. I bought one of those oxygen measuring thingamagigs you put on your finger and my oxygen level stays about 90-93 unless I do something that requires a lot of exertion...like mowing the grass. I have a very small yard and I have to stop 2 or 3 times while doing it. It used to take me 30 minutes.

Now it takes about 2 hours! My oxygen level drops to 85-88 but recovers after I rest for a while. Someone sent out a note on Market news on an oral form of therapy that has no side effects and might help me with this obnoxious cough. I called my Doctor and asked the nurse to see if he'd look into it for me. The coughing kills me. After the lung biopsy I had last July, my chest is still healing and coughing makes the healing process seem endless. I think I've had the disease for about 4 years now, but only got diagnosed this time last year. Before they thought it was either Asthma or Acid Reflux disease. Right.... I still work, but know my stamina on the job is waning and I need to do something soon, because if I don't work I don't get paid. I seem to be okay in the mornings after a resting all night and then feel worse as the day progresses. Oh, well at least I'm still here! Funny in a way...my wife has

Lupus and some of the side effects of the medicine she was taking and the disease made me think I was going to lose her about 5 years ago...and here I am in this precarious state at the time she is in remission and feeling better. Hang in there Barb!!!JimBarbara Soice wrote: Gosh, Jim, that is wonderful that you are able to do so much. Are you on oxygen? BarbJim wrote: I don't do housework, but there are lots of other things I like to do...wash the truck, mow the lawn...etc. My doctor put me on

synthoid. He said as long as my blood pressure stays under control, the synthoid will be good to raise my energy level. Since I'm still working as well....I really think it helps.JImjanne5303 wrote: Hi everyone, Just wondering?? Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you do and not do? Do you get outside help? I have always been a stickler for a clean house. This weekend, I dusted. It had been three weeks! My husband helps but works full time and is not getting younger. He is also having to deal with outside now that Spring has

sprung! Spring also means spring cleaning, which is not happening. What do you do? Joyce "The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits."-Albert Einstein- __________________________________________________

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Have you ever danced in the rain?Barbara Soice wrote: Gosh, Jim, that is wonderful that you are able to do so much. Are you on oxygen? BarbJim wrote: I don't do housework, but there are lots of other things I like to do...wash the truck, mow the lawn...etc. My doctor put me on synthoid. He said as long as my blood pressure stays under control, the synthoid will be good to raise my energy level. Since I'm still working as well....I really think it helps.JImjanne5303 wrote: Hi everyone, Just wondering?? Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you do and not do? Do you get outside help? I have always been a stickler for a clean house. This weekend, I dusted. It had been three weeks! My husband helps but works full time and is not getting younger. He is also having to deal with outside now that Spring has sprung! Spring also means spring cleaning, which is not happening. What do you do? Joyce "The difference between genius and stupidity is that

genius has its limits."-Albert Einstein- __________________________________________________

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hi all IAM VERY BEHIND ON MY E-MAIL its been 5 weeks since my last day of work short term dissabilty ends sept 10 and than lonterm begins yes I was aproved MSU didnt hassetate on this one anyway so I have been busy getting into my top physical shape and mentally ...well mostly goodays for the most part I do notice now that cold and wet together seem to affect my breathing for the day .as far as house work chores now that I have been off I dont know how I worked full mtime at a very physical job on kept up with my family and dogs and house ......,oh yeah I didnt ha... well I can say maybe my house is more organized......hmmmmok maybe but thankgoodness my son is still around and my duaghter will soon be home because yes I do not funtion alone they are a tremendouse help with everything what I do do alot of is cook I love to cook and it is not strenouse for me..I do have stairs they dont seem to bother me too much but than again if I need laundry taken down my kids

do it as far as gardening I do all but haevy shoveling mowing, spreading mulch cleaning up dog....they also do that so I guess Iam not just lucky but spoiled janne5303 wrote: Hi everyone, Just wondering?? Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you do and not do? Do you get outside help? I have always been a stickler for a clean house. This weekend, I dusted. It had been three weeks! My husband helps but works full time and is not getting younger. He is also having to deal with outside now that Spring has sprung! Spring also means spring

cleaning, which is not happening. What do you do? Joyce

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I think you are Blessed

on 5/2/06 10:53 AM, doris soliz-hill at solizhill@... wrote:

hi all IAM VERY BEHIND ON MY E-MAIL its been 5 weeks since my last day of work short term dissabilty ends sept 10 and than lonterm begins yes I was aproved MSU didnt hassetate on this one anyway so I have been busy getting into my top physical shape and mentally ...well mostly goodays for the most part I do notice now that cold and wet together seem to affect my breathing for the day .as far as house work chores now that I have been off I dont know how I worked full mtime at a very physical job on kept up with my family and dogs and house ......,oh yeah I didnt ha... well I can say maybe my house is more organized......hmmmmok maybe but thankgoodness my son is still around and my duaghter will soon be home because yes I do not funtion alone they are a tremendouse help with everything what I do do alot of is cook I love to cook and it is not strenouse for me..I do have stairs they dont seem to bother me too much but than again if I need laundry taken down my kids do it as far as gardening I do all but haevy shoveling mowing, spreading mulch cleaning up dog....they also do that so I guess Iam not just lucky but spoiled

janne5303 wrote:

Hi everyone,

Just wondering??

Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you do and not do? Do you get outside help?

I have always been a stickler for a clean house. This weekend, I dusted. It had been three weeks! My husband helps but works full time and is not getting younger. He is also having to deal with outside now that Spring has sprung! Spring also means spring cleaning, which is not happening.

What do you do?

Joyce

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Hey, Joyce: Housework, ugh... I don't seem to be able to sweep, vacuum, mop, do laundry, or clean the bathroom. God has blessed me with a very good friend, Deborah, who does these things for me. She pretty much takes care of my dogs and one cat too. Anything that has to do with bending, I just can't do. My oxygen level drops like mad and my heart races when I bend over. Barb in KYdoris soliz-hill wrote: hi all IAM VERY BEHIND ON MY E-MAIL its been 5 weeks since my last day of work short term dissabilty ends sept 10 and than lonterm begins yes I was aproved MSU didnt hassetate on this one anyway so I have been busy getting into my top physical shape and mentally ...well mostly goodays for the most part I do notice now that

cold and wet together seem to affect my breathing for the day .as far as house work chores now that I have been off I dont know how I worked full mtime at a very physical job on kept up with my family and dogs and house ......,oh yeah I didnt ha... well I can say maybe my house is more organized......hmmmmok maybe but thankgoodness my son is still around and my duaghter will soon be home because yes I do not funtion alone they are a tremendouse help with everything what I do do alot of is cook I love to cook and it is not strenouse for me..I do have stairs they dont seem to bother me too much but than again if I need laundry taken down my kids do it as far as gardening I do all but haevy shoveling mowing, spreading mulch cleaning up dog....they also do that so I guess Iam not just lucky but spoiled janne5303 wrote: Hi everyone, Just wondering?? Do you manage to keep housework done? What can you do and not do? Do you get outside help? I have always been a stickler for a clean house. This weekend, I dusted. It had been three weeks! My husband helps but works full time and is not getting younger. He is also having to deal with outside now that Spring has sprung! Spring also means spring cleaning, which is not happening. What do you do? Joyce How low will we go? Check out Yahoo! Messenger’s low PC-to-Phone call rates.

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