Guest guest Posted July 30, 2006 Report Share Posted July 30, 2006 I appreciate you are where you're at. He is needy - is that true? > > ( ( ( HELLO ) ) ) > > Anybody home???? > > This mail is a follow up one > > Do you remember that I did the work about my dad last week? > > Well, today I was in the hospital again with him > And he didn't upset me at all!!! > > And I take all the credit for that!!!! > > He didn't change. > > But I was more willing to be there for him > Even in the things I know he can do on his own > Like putting his shoes. > > I just wanted to help him > And my mind stop judging him for being too " needy " > > I am telling you, this work works > > You might want to try it some times! > > And, I am in love with > I had to share. > > Group: " we love you, Tami " > > Any questions? > > T > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2006 Report Share Posted July 31, 2006 Answer the question. > > > > ( ( ( HELLO ) ) ) > > > > Anybody home???? > > > > This mail is a follow up one > > > > Do you remember that I did the work about my dad last week? > > > > Well, today I was in the hospital again with him > > And he didn't upset me at all!!! > > > > And I take all the credit for that!!!! > > > > He didn't change. > > > > But I was more willing to be there for him > > Even in the things I know he can do on his own > > Like putting his shoes. > > > > I just wanted to help him > > And my mind stop judging him for being too " needy " > > > > I am telling you, this work works > > > > You might want to try it some times! > > > > And, I am in love with > > I had to share. > > > > Group: " we love you, Tami " > > > > Any questions? > > > > T > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2006 Report Share Posted August 1, 2006 You might want to read the book " he is just not that in to you " . Basicaly, it says that if he does not show you true interest it is because he doesn't have one for you. nel > Dear > > > T, > > I am happy you were able to be there for your dad, truly just being > there. > > Thank you > Today was my second day in the hospital > I had fun being with him. > Every time he asked me to do things for him > I felt a privilege to serve him. > > Not bad, ha? > > > What I find with the work is that it works but this believe keeps coming > back over and over again. > > Yes, that is what thoughts do: > They come and go > > Doing the work doesn't prevent the thought from coming again > It is hopeless > The thoughts helps us to be less attached > By questioning what is true for us > > > I did the work on my husband not wanting to be with me, he does not want > to have intimacy with me (sex) and does not look to spend any time with me, > is that true? Yes, yes. When I do the work I an respect he wants to do his > own thing, it has been a while , maybe 3 -4 months, but then I find myself > last this weekend, obsess with the thought that he should be with me, > knowing is not true. > > First > We all have been there > Wanting out lover to please us, one way or another: > It can be wanting to have sex, or just wanting him to stop watching sport on > t.v > > Lets look at it closely > For example: > I want to have sex with my man > > Step 1: > I go and ask for what I want. > > He says: yes or no > > If it is a yes, I will take it from here > Please give us some privacy! > > If it is a no > > We need to go deeper > To understand what is it that you really want > > I want to ask you a question > And be honest with me > > Is *sex* is what you really want from him? > Are you looking for physical satisfaction? > Well... > Man is one way to get there > And > A good vibrator would do just fine. > > If you want sex for emotional reasons: > Wanting to feel loved, intimacy and close to him > Well... > Sex is one way to get there > Another way is: > Having an honest conversation > > A conversation in which you tell him what you really want > Without the fear of rejection > > Sometimes when we are so afraid to be rejected > We are not being honest > That is where true rejection take place: > We turn our back to ourself > > So saying something like: > Honey, I feel unloved, can you hold me? > Can open door to some great intimacy > Intimacy that is as profound as having sex > And even more > > > Just wanted to share, > > Any thoughts? > > > > You asked for thoughts > These where mine > > I hope it helped, T > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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