Guest guest Posted January 15, 2006 Report Share Posted January 15, 2006 I am dating someone who is all the time late. He never comes on time. So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it easy for me: I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for him there and I don't like waiting So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. I am all the time waiting for him. Can you offer me some help? T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2006 Report Share Posted January 17, 2006 Thank you ac I will try that. -- Re: Being late > > I am dating someone who is all the time late. > He never comes on time. > So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it easy for me: > I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for him there > and I don't like waiting > So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. > I am all the time waiting for him. > > Can you offer me some help? Sure This seems like an *easy* problem Ask him to call you 5 minutes [or however long it takes you to reach there] before he reaches your meeting place. Love, ac. > > T > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2006 Report Share Posted January 17, 2006 Today as I woke up, I told him that I am in a hurry And I asked him if he wants to drink coffee in a coffee shop with me Before I go to work He said yes. So I took a shower, and he was watching porn (he bought me as a gift a porn movie, how romantic of him ;-) I wore my cloths and said to him: Within 3 minutes I am out. Than he was ready on time to go out with me. He is an amazing man, I love him. The only thing that iritates me is him coming late. I guess I should not wait for him And do my things, and he will join me or not, ha? T -- Re: Being late Dear Tami, >he is supposed to be late Is this true? If so, who makes the rule? How late does he have to be before you are bothered. What determines whether you are bothered or not? What could happen if you set a time limit with him? What do you want help with - to change him, drop him, change you? What's important here? > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me You should/houldn't be bothered - is that true? What do you love? What's true or what you want to be true? >I am all the time waiting for him. Is that true? Do you love you? W Being late I am dating someone who is all the time late. He never comes on time. So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it easy for me: I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for him there and I don't like waiting So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. I am all the time waiting for him. Can you offer me some help? T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2006 Report Share Posted September 15, 2006 get yourself a paperback, come later, the time he comes later usually, watch people stand him up yourself .... .... .... > I am dating someone who is all the time late. > He never comes on time. > So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it easy for me: > I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for him there > and I don't like waiting > So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. > I am all the time waiting for him. > > Can you offer me some help? > > T > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2006 Report Share Posted September 15, 2006 watch people is my favourite. see these lovely kids, the dogs, mam's and dad's. kids in puberty. couples in love, hurrying business people. old ladies. " grandpas " . teenies. houses, streets. plants. insects. ... > get yourself a paperback, > come later, the time he comes later usually, > watch people > stand him up yourself > ... > > ... > > ... > > > > > > I am dating someone who is all the time late. > > He never comes on time. > > So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it > easy for me: > > I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for > him there > > and I don't like waiting > > So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. > > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. > > I am all the time waiting for him. > > > > Can you offer me some help? > > > > T > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 15, 2006 Report Share Posted September 15, 2006 > > I am dating someone who is all the time late. > He never comes on time. > So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it easy for me: > I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for him there > and I don't like waiting > So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. > I am all the time waiting for him. > > Can you offer me some help? Sure This seems like an *easy* problem Ask him to call you 5 minutes [or however long it takes you to reach there] before he reaches your meeting place. Love, ac. > > T > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2006 Report Share Posted September 16, 2006 Dear Tami, >he is supposed to be late Is this true? If so, who makes the rule? How late does he have to be before you are bothered. What determines whether you are bothered or not? What could happen if you set a time limit with him? What do you want help with - to change him, drop him, change you? What's important here? > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me You should/houldn't be bothered - is that true? What do you love? What's true or what you want to be true? >I am all the time waiting for him. Is that true? Do you love you? W Being late I am dating someone who is all the time late. He never comes on time. So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it easy for me: I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for him there and I don't like waiting So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. I am all the time waiting for him. Can you offer me some help? T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 2006 Report Share Posted September 16, 2006 hey darling, wayne came up with these wonderful questions. i woke up with some toughts, i just share them. i do have a friend who would consider it as rather respectless if the other is coming late. he just leaves. you have your reasons to meet that person. i, in your case would get clear about why i want to meet that guy. if i feel fine and respected with him or not. if yes fine, get the benefit from it. if no, get the benefit from it. i was a chronical late commer for yrs. ) it didn't mean that i did not appreciate the " other " . it had other reasons. enjoy the show beautiful lady love, r > I am dating someone who is all the time late. > He never comes on time. > So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it easy for me: > I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for him there > and I don't like waiting > So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. > I am all the time waiting for him. > > Can you offer me some help? > > T > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2006 Report Share Posted September 17, 2006 Dear Tami, why do you wait? Because I don't hear he makes you. His job is being late. So, what are *you* going to do about it? It's not his being late that bothers you. What is your thought when he's late (besides of: he's late, duh! ;-) Love, Am 15.01.2006 um 19:49 schrieb Tami: > I am dating someone who is all the time late. > He never comes on time. > So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it easy > for me: > I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for > him there > and I don't like waiting > So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. > I am all the time waiting for him. > > Can you offer me some help? > > T ___________________________________________________________ Der frühe Vogel fängt den Wurm. Hier gelangen Sie zum neuen Yahoo! Mail: http://mail.yahoo.de Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2006 Report Share Posted September 17, 2006 Dear VV, (or is it UU? ;-) > Dear Tami, > >> he is supposed to be late > Is this true? Oh! I know, I know: reality does. According to Tami. She see's him being late. Over and over (Tami, was that " being " or " coming " ?) > If so, who makes the rule? I know!! Reality does! (Still, according to Tami, I haven't checked) > How late does he have to be before you are bothered. What > determines whether you are bothered or not? That's a good one! He's " late " is it true? What *is* " late " ? 5 sec, 1 min, 1 hour? Try, while you are waiting: " He should be here! NOW! " - is it true? (I like that one! :-) (Thinking of a witch that's conjuring someone) btw. does it work? > What could happen if you set a time limit with him? Well, obviously she's waiting. > What do you want help with - to change him, drop him, change you? > What's important here? The waiting. And the motive. The thoughts about the motive. >> But his " bad " habit seem to bother me > You should/houldn't be bothered - is that true? The bothering doesn't seem to bother. We're not there, yet. > What do you love? What's true or what you want to be true? Good one. >> I am all the time waiting for him. > Is that true? :-) > Do you love you? That *could* sound a bit out of place, don't you think? ;-) > W Love, > > Being late > > I am dating someone who is all the time > late. > He never comes on time. > So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it > easy for me: > I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for > him there > and I don't like waiting > So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. > I am all the time waiting for him. > > Can you offer me some help? > > T > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2006 Report Share Posted September 17, 2006 Dear Tami, > I guess I should not wait for him > And do my things, and he will join me or not, ha? Sure. And in the meantime you could explore why it's so important for you for him to be on time. And your motive for waiting for him. Like " he makes me wait/be late/someth. " ... Love, Am 17.01.2006 um 15:38 schrieb Tami: > Today as I woke up, > I told him that I am in a hurry > And I asked him if he wants to drink coffee in a coffee shop with me > Before I go to work > He said yes. > So I took a shower, and he was watching porn > (he bought me as a gift a porn movie, how romantic of him ;-) > I wore my cloths and said to him: > Within 3 minutes I am out. > Than he was ready on time to go out with me. > > He is an amazing man, > I love him. > The only thing that iritates me is him coming late. > > I guess I should not wait for him > And do my things, and he will join me or not, ha? > > T ___________________________________________________________ Der frühe Vogel fängt den Wurm. Hier gelangen Sie zum neuen Yahoo! Mail: http://mail.yahoo.de Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 17, 2006 Report Share Posted September 17, 2006 > > > > > I am dating someone who is all the time late. > > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. > > I am all the time waiting for him. > > > > Can you offer me some help? Hi Tami, Is he late EVERY time? If you can find just one time he wasn't late, perhaps your story will start to crumble. People should be on time. Is that true? Do you stress if you think you will be late? Maybe show up late sometime, meeting him or someone else. And just maybe, the world won't end. Or it might. I don't know. Sorry I am responding so late to your initial post. I thank you, I too am being anxious, mostly about the fire/court stuff these days. Sometimes I think 'I just want this to be over with so that I can go on with my life!' But this IS my life. Maybe I could investigate my thoughts on why I think I'm stuck where I don't want to be. I don't want to be where I am. Is that true? hmmmm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2006 Report Share Posted September 18, 2006 Dear , Am 18.09.2006 um 01:03 schrieb : >> >>> >>> I am dating someone who is all the time late. > >>> But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. >>> I am all the time waiting for him. >>> >>> Can you offer me some help? > > Hi Tami, > > Is he late EVERY time? If you can find just one time he wasn't late, > perhaps your story will start to crumble. > > People should be on time. Is that true? Do you stress if you think > you will be late? Maybe show up late sometime, meeting him or someone > else. And just maybe, the world won't end. Or it might. I don't > know. > > Sorry I am responding so late to your initial post. " Sorry " ? , you're LATE! ;-) > I thank you, I too am being anxious, mostly about the fire/court stuff > these days. > > Sometimes I think 'I just want this to be over with so that I can go > on with my life!' But this IS my life. > Maybe I could investigate my thoughts on why I think I'm stuck > where I don't want to be. Maybe you'd like to investigate your thoughts on where you should be. > I don't want to be where I am. Is that true? hmmmm AND who should take *your* place, if you're tired of being (the real one, not the one you sometimes want to be)? > Love, ___________________________________________________________ Der frühe Vogel fängt den Wurm. Hier gelangen Sie zum neuen Yahoo! Mail: http://mail.yahoo.de Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2006 Report Share Posted September 18, 2006 Being late > > I am dating someone who is all the time > late. > He never comes on time. > So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it > easy for me: > I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for > him there > and I don't like waiting > So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. > But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. > I am all the time waiting for him. > > Can you offer me some help? > > T > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2006 Report Share Posted September 19, 2006 Dear Wayne, >> Dear VV, (or is it UU? ;-) > Thanks for asking . It's W for Wayne, which I believe is > not in the German language. Itt? > Maybe I'll turn it into a VW. >>> Dear Tami, >>> >>>> he is supposed to be late >>> Is this true? >> Oh! I know, I know: reality does. According to Tami. She see's him >> being late. Over and over (Tami, was that " being " or " coming " ?) > Are we allowed to talk behind another member's back? I don't understand. How *could* we talk behind another member's back in this group? > For me thinking " he is supposed to be late " is less true than " he > is late " . Oh, good. Well, reality is the ultimate *should*. Because if you try to oppose it, you loose 100% of the time. So, if something happens, it *should* happen. I notice he is late, so that's his job. Not vice versa. And we are talking about *my* perception here. Everyone is his own judge on the case. Nothing else is possible. Ignoring your own judgements is " being spiritual " . So, I can go: he is late. is it true? Either I go with the 'yes', (if it is honest to myself), or I look at the evidence. Does it withhold my inquiry? Like: late... for what? And that's something that's supposed to happen, is *that* true? And so on. >>> If so, who makes the rule? >> I know!! Reality does! (Still, according to Tami, I haven't checked) > You are right. But given Tami wants help with this, I am not sure > whether she believes that he should be late. She said so. >>> How late does he have to be before you are bothered. What >>> determines whether you are bothered or not? >> That's a good one! He's " late " is it true? What *is* " late " ? 5 sec, 1 >> min, 1 hour? > Tami should love what is and not be upset. Itt? I don't know. Ask her. For now, it's her job to be upset (this could be *far* outdated, by the way). And she was asking. >> Try, while you are waiting: " He should be here! NOW! " - is it true? >> (I like that one! :-) >> (Thinking of a witch that's conjuring someone) >> btw. does it work? > I think that relationship is a bit unfair because Tami never gets > to be late And who's buisness is that? >>> What could happen if you set a time limit with him? >> Well, obviously she's waiting. > Who would want to say anything about someone waiting for someone > else whom they love? I am not game. If I do something for you, and I get angry about your reaction, then I know what I did was not because of love. I wanted something. So, if I wait for you, and you don't come, and I wait and I wait... The moment I get angry, I know that *I* am off. I thought you should be here on time. And what I do while I'm waiting is that I velcro into how unrespectful that is of him to *make* me wait, how nice it would be, if he had been on time, etc... And I'd find several people to join in! >>> What do you want help with - to change him, drop him, change you? >>> What's important here? >> The waiting. And the motive. The thoughts about the motive. > A great point I wondered about the motive too, but also wasn't game > to write it. >>>> But his " bad " habit seem to bother me >>> You should/houldn't be bothered - is that true? >> The bothering doesn't seem to bother. We're not there, yet. > Hmm. >>> What do you love? What's true or what you want to be true? >> Good one. > Thanks. >>>> I am all the time waiting for him. >>> Is that true? >> :-) > :-) >>> Do you love you? >> That *could* sound a bit out of place, don't you think? ;-) > Thank for the supervision. I'm just an apprentice at the moment. Oh, c'mon. Don't start being modest at your age! ;-) >>> W >> Love, >> > Thanks for the fun. Should we show Tami. Oops, I've posted it! Hey! I got the part about " behind someone's back " ! ;-) > LOL, > Wayne Love, >> Being late >> >> I am dating someone who is all the time >> late. >> He never comes on time. >> So, I know that he is suppose to be late, and I try to make it >> easy for me: >> I don't meet him at coffee shops cause I know that I will wait for >> him there >> and I don't like waiting >> So instead I come to his place and we walk there together. >> But his " bad " habit seem to bother me. >> I am all the time waiting for him. >> >> Can you offer me some help? >> >> T >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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