mona's blog

[Guest guest]

hey mona, i have been reading on your blog also.

i like the relief shared secrets can bring, a n d i want to

strengthen the point that it can be important not share it without a

save framework. an expressed word, spoken or written can be abused

one day. once people are lovers and then later they can end up in

quarrels and fights, abusing things which were shared in great trust

once. this doesn't mean this world is a dangerous or only painful

place, but again i would like to strengthen that aspect about sharing

secrets.

i don't want to play to role of an advocate of stinking moral, but on

the other end, i care about rules that make our common life fine and

relaxed. i truely agree with kt's " an open mind is a kind mind " and i

feel a kind mind is a caring mind. and in between, that is the time

we need all these rules like: don't steal, don't kill. (and yet i

know there are settings and circumstances which provoke what's called

nasty, bad and so on.

....

i also would like to introduce the thought once again, that it is a

choice where i want to put my attention towards. i have been very

depressed once, and i have learned the hard way about the effect of

thoughts. when i wake up, sick and weak with a feeling like: i want

to give up, i still have a little moment of choice which road i want

to follow. the road of thoughts which will continue to pull me down,

or the one which will help to build my strength up again.

so after the relief of shared secrets, and the experience that we are

not THAT bad, and still deserve to be loved, by ourself/ourselves and

others we can choose to continue to follow our hearts guiding voice

in trust and surrender.

love rose

> Amber -

>

> Thank you for introducing yourself to me. It's really nice to meet

you and I

> can see that we have lots in common. I can find those things in

myself too.

[...]

[Guest guest]

Hi Rose -

I really understand the desire to be mindful about where secrets are shared.

Thank you for voicing that. Isn't it great that there are opportunities to

share in " safe spaces " that are specifically designed for that, and that

people can also share things about themselves in any other space or

situation if they like? Everyone gets what they want/need. :-)

~Mona

http://www.questionthemind.com <http://www.questionthemind.com/>

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From: Loving-what-is [mailto:Loving-what-is ]

On Behalf Of gitoros

Sent: Wednesday, December 27, 2006 8:38 AM

To: Loving-what-is

Subject: mona's blog

hey mona, i have been reading on your blog also.

i like the relief shared secrets can bring, a n d i want to

strengthen the point that it can be important not share it without a

save framework. an expressed word, spoken or written can be abused

one day. once people are lovers and then later they can end up in

quarrels and fights, abusing things which were shared in great trust

once. this doesn't mean this world is a dangerous or only painful

place, but again i would like to strengthen that aspect about sharing

secrets.

i don't want to play to role of an advocate of stinking moral, but on

the other end, i care about rules that make our common life fine and

relaxed. i truely agree with kt's " an open mind is a kind mind " and i

feel a kind mind is a caring mind. and in between, that is the time

we need all these rules like: don't steal, don't kill. (and yet i

know there are settings and circumstances which provoke what's called

nasty, bad and so on.

....

i also would like to introduce the thought once again, that it is a

choice where i want to put my attention towards. i have been very

depressed once, and i have learned the hard way about the effect of

thoughts. when i wake up, sick and weak with a feeling like: i want

to give up, i still have a little moment of choice which road i want

to follow. the road of thoughts which will continue to pull me down,

or the one which will help to build my strength up again.

so after the relief of shared secrets, and the experience that we are

not THAT bad, and still deserve to be loved, by ourself/ourselves and

others we can choose to continue to follow our hearts guiding voice

in trust and surrender.

love rose

> Amber -

>

> Thank you for introducing yourself to me. It's really nice to meet

you and I

> can see that we have lots in common. I can find those things in

myself too.

[...]

[Guest guest]

Hi Mona, thanks for responding.

> Hi Rose -

>

> I really understand the desire to be mindful about where secrets

are shared.

> Thank you for voicing that. Isn't it great that there are

opportunities to share in " safe spaces " that are specifically

designed for that, and that people can also share things about

themselves in any other space or situation if they like?

yes it is. i agree.

Everyone gets what they want/need. :-)

yes. in a way you are right with this sentence. and yet thinking it,

makes me tensed somehow. perhaps, cause i know that this little

sentence can be abused a lot.

the solution for me would be to write a little intro on top of the

blog, telling people to care for their privacy/anonymity as much as

possible and to express clearly, in a loving kind, that there is on

one side acceptance and understanding, and also that it is not a

charter/carte blanche to DO what healthy common sense would

call " bad " (and then just confess it...). this is a tricky space, i

think. for on one side, we all do more or less harmful actions to

ourself/ves or our fellows, or the invironment (intenionally or not).

and i have clearly in mind, kt's period of being very aggressive,

overeating, overwatching etc.. my personal ideal is, when i notice

something like that on myself, i withdraw and try to find what's

going on, with or without help, but i try as much as i can, not to

hurt others with my disorder.

but again, that's only my personal religion, i do not even smash

that onto my children.

i hope my english is good enough to as be less misunderstaning

invoking as possible.

thanks for your attention.

love rose