Re: Asperger's and Jr. High

[Guest guest]

I have a 22 yr old that is l deeply scarred from his "education" experiences. Can't even begin to tell you the horror stories of physical and mental abuse by bullies - best advice I can give ? Find a private school for the rest of his education..........you pay for it, therefore you are in control. Wish I could have afforded it. Much regret. Don't make the same mistakes I did...........your child will never get over it.

Good luck and blessings,

Amy

Subject: Asperger's and Jr. HighTo: Texas-Autism-Advocacy Date: Thursday, April 12, 2012, 6:48 AM

I have a child in Jr. High with Asperger's and this has been an awful year for him in school. These kids are so mean and the information they know about sex, etc is unreal. My son still has the same problems socially that he always has. We have made progress but he still has Asperger's. Now it seems instead of dealing with the issue of the blurting out, or him getting angry (which they see as senseless make sense when he tells you why he was angry)this year they just want to punish him by making him writing sentences for days or giving him a referral to the office.What is this going to accomplish? So let's take a boy that has issues being social and remove him from class and classmates for days so he can be alone and write sentences. Good gosh wally, if I thought writing sentences would cure Asperger's I would have had him write his first novel by now.Any advice?

[Guest guest]

In my experience ( which unfortunately is many, many years) Jr. high is just the

WORST for our kids. I coach a young adult in his first year of community college

and he says he was bullied in both Jr. and Sr. High but college has been great

for him. He attended a private school, by the way, with an excellent reputation.

What area do you live in? What is the system of school wide positive behavior

support being used? Isolating your son to " write sentences " is an archaic

practice. I am admittedly biased, but I believe the very best Tier One (whole

school) PBS system is The Nurtured Heart Approach. It is based on creating inner

wealth in all kids and while consequences are consistently applied, they do not

hurt a child's self esteem; rather, kids learn to recover quickly and are re-set

right back into an atmosphere of encouragement and positive recognition. Data is

showing " Nurtured Heart schools " have decreased behavior referrals and increased

test scores. Plus the kids and teachers really LIKE their days in the classroom.

I am a bit obsessed with this Approach after attending a five day intense

training a few months ago. There are Nurtured Heart Approach trainers in

Houston, Dallas and I'm in San . This is not only for school, but a

wonderful way for families to support an intense kiddo...ASD, ADHD, ODD....the

letters don't much matter, but the commitment to BE someone who nurtures kid's

hearts is critical.

Dema

Dema K. Stout, MA

Certified Nurtured Heart Approach Advanced Trainer

Professional Certified Coach

Certified RDI Consultant

www.greatnesscoach.org

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