Re: Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet

[Guest guest]

Dear ,

when you get to the turnarounds, they seem to be a pretty generous

interpretation of the original belief?

During the work, keep the orignal belief in mind. With all questions.

Find proofs why they are " Big fat liars " . You have some, because you

believed the thought.

Go through all beliefs.

When on questions 3 and 4, picture yourself being with them, and

having the thought. See what happens to your picture of them, and

also see how believing the belief influences how you feel when you

only think about them, and how you treat them when they are not

around. And how you treat people who don't share your belief.

Thank you for your work.

Love,

Am 10.05.2007 um 17:07 schrieb Genevachild:

> 1. I am frustrated with these men because they are BIG FAT LIARS.

> 2. I want them to get honest about their fear of awakening.

> 3. They should listen to me. And they should get honest about their

> resistance to acim.

> 4. I need them to hear me and respect me.

> 5. Don/Tom/Bill/////Bruce are dishonest,

> disrespectful, arrogant, unconscious know-it-alls.

> 6. I don't ever want them to get in my face again. I want them to

> drop dead. I want them to exit stage left. I want them to go

> away. I want all of them to disappear.

> ~~

>

> ONE-BELIEF-AT-A-TIME WORKSHEET

>

> Belief: Don/Tom/Bill/////Bruce are BIG FAT LIARS.

>

> 1. Is it true? You're damn tootin' it's true.

> 2. Can you absolutely know that it's true? Not really.

> 3. What happens when I believe this?

> a) I look down and go silent.

>

> I cut them off. No more talking. No more eye contact. I

> mentally attack them, saying they are no good bastards. Assholes.

>

> c) I reach for food, the TV remote, and pulp fiction. I hate

> myself for being fooled one more time. I think of myself as a

> foolish old woman, wondering: When will I ever learn?

>

> d) This thinking and behavior began in my early childhood in

> relationship with my Dad. I refused to talk to him and treated him

> with disdain.

>

> e) Underneath my anger is a terrible sense of abandonment,

> terrible loneliness.

>

> f) There is no good reason to keep this belief.

>

> g) Misery.

>

> 4. Without this belief I would be…

>

> a) a more understanding and compassionate daughter.

>

> Without my story of abandonment by God the Father, I would

> see a reflection of my belief in separation from love.

>

> c) Without this belief in abandonment I know myself to be The

> Beloved Child of God.

>

> Turn the thought around…

>

> Don/Tom/Bill/////Bruce did not abandon me. They

> help me by showing me what I believe about myself.

>

> I abandoned Don/Tom/Bill/////Bruce by rejecting

> them and blaming them for my choice.

>

> I hurt myself by not recognizing my choice to be separate.

>

> Turn around for number 6:

>

> I look forward to seeing Don/Tom/Bill/////Bruce.

> I am willing to see the reflection of my belief in separation.

>

[Guest guest]

>

Dear ,when you get to the turnarounds, they seem to be a

pretty generous interpretation of the original belief? During the

work, keep the orignal belief in mind. With all questions. Find

proofs why they are " Big fat liars " . You have some, because you

believed the thought. Go through all beliefs.

>

When on questions 3 and 4, picture yourself being with them, and

having the thought. See what happens to your picture of them, and

also see how believing the belief influences how you feel when you

only think about them, and how you treat them when they are not

around. And how you treat people who don't share your belief.

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Good morning, . Thanks for the feedback. Yeah, I think I

see what you mean. For me, THE WORK is an excellent way to unpack

the first step in the forgiveness process which is central tohealing

the mind in acim. I experience writing out the Judge-Your-Neighbor

Worksheet as a tremendous relief. It takes tremendous energy to

keep a lid on this stuff. This worksheet allows me to expose my

thinking. I cannot tell you how good it feels to get this out in

writing. What says about the importance of writing is true.

It also helps me to see that this is not a new problem and helps me

to back up and see that I have been doing this all my life. IOW,

it's not about my latest scapegoat. It's a lifelong problem. This

really helps me to back up and see it. Until I did this writing, I

did not realize that underneath my anger and name calling [bIG FAT

LIARS] was hurt and a feeling of rejection, and of course, the

ultimate rejection, the belief that God the Father has rejected me.

When I write this out, I can see how ridiculous this is. The lie is

exposed. When it is brought to the light it dissipates. Exposure

dissolves the false belief. I am feeling so much better this

morning. In the moment of writing out the turnaround to number 6, I

am simply doing what asks us to do, without much commitment.

Kinda like the kid who is dragging her feet or going along with the

exercise reluctantly, thinking she's not so sure about this.

Now, I just feel this tremendous relief...and gratitude. I feel

gratitude for these characters who keep showing up in my dream,

reflecting my belief that I am all alone out here. Reflecting this

stance. I can really see this in my mind's eye as I think about my

Dad and all these other guys. And I just feel so grateful.

Hope this answers your questions about my process.