Guest guest Posted April 12, 2012 Report Share Posted April 12, 2012 I have a child in Jr. High with Asperger's and this has been an awful year for him in school. These kids are so mean and the information they know about sex, etc is unreal. My son still has the same problems socially that he always has. We have made progress but he still has Asperger's. Now it seems instead of dealing with the issue of the blurting out, or him getting angry (which they see as senseless make sense when he tells you why he was angry)this year they just want to punish him by making him writing sentences for days or giving him a referral to the office. What is this going to accomplish? So let's take a boy that has issues being social and remove him from class and classmates for days so he can be alone and write sentences. Good gosh wally, if I thought writing sentences would cure Asperger's I would have had him write his first novel by now. Any advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2012 Report Share Posted April 12, 2012 If they remove him from his peers have his ARD state they must place him in an environment where he will receive services consistent with his needs. Work through the special ed folk and not the administration to get this done.To: Texas-Autism-Advocacy Sent: Thu, April 12, 2012 6:48:53 AMSubject: Asperger's and Jr. High I have a child in Jr. High with Asperger's and this has been an awful year for him in school. These kids are so mean and the information they know about sex, etc is unreal. My son still has the same problems socially that he always has. We have made progress but he still has Asperger's. Now it seems instead of dealing with the issue of the blurting out, or him getting angry (which they see as senseless make sense when he tells you why he was angry)this year they just want to punish him by making him writing sentences for days or giving him a referral to the office. What is this going to accomplish? So let's take a boy that has issues being social and remove him from class and classmates for days so he can be alone and write sentences. Good gosh wally, if I thought writing sentences would cure Asperger's I would have had him write his first novel by now. Any advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2012 Report Share Posted April 12, 2012 Does your son have a behavior support plan in place to address the challenging behaviors or social skill deficits? If not, I would recommend you consider convening an IEP meeting to create one. In this plan, target goals should be clearly related to consequences and methods of instruction. It might be helpful to ask the team what skill your son is learning through these " punishments. " You might also express concern that frequent withdrawal from the classroom is reducing his " access to appropriate education " (use those exact words). There is a lot the school could be doing to support your son in learning new skills and coping methods instead of punishing him. Hope this helps. -- Pasqua, Psy.D. Licensed Clinical Psychologist LA License # 1173 Ph: Fax: toll-free laurenpasqua.com > > I have a child in Jr. High with Asperger's and this has been an awful year for him in school. These kids are so mean and the information they know about sex, etc is unreal. > > My son still has the same problems socially that he always has. We have made progress but he still has Asperger's. Now it seems instead of dealing with the issue of the blurting out, or him getting angry (which they see as senseless make sense when he tells you why he was angry)this year they just want to punish him by making him writing sentences for days or giving him a referral to the office. > > What is this going to accomplish? So let's take a boy that has issues being social and remove him from class and classmates for days so he can be alone and write sentences. Good gosh wally, if I thought writing sentences would cure Asperger's I would have had him write his first novel by now. > > Any advice? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2012 Report Share Posted April 12, 2012 My son does have behavior support with a behavior specialist. She is the one pulling him out of class. I have told her writing sentences doesn't work. She says when she " arrives on the scene " he straightens up. Well that is because he is scared of her. So I should make sure my son is scared of everyone so that he will just sit there and never speak? She said that if he is not writing sentences then she will start to write him up and send him to the office and give him detention. How does this help my son? This makes him more anxious, more depressed and he gets nothing from this. This is not the right form of discipline for him. I am about to go into battle and I need all the ammunition I can get so any ideas, thoughts, whatever you have please advise. It is certainly not my first battle as I have had many wars but I like to be prepared and have any and all information i can acquire. Thanks > > > > I have a child in Jr. High with Asperger's and this has been an awful year for him in school. These kids are so mean and the information they know about sex, etc is unreal. > > > > My son still has the same problems socially that he always has. We have made progress but he still has Asperger's. Now it seems instead of dealing with the issue of the blurting out, or him getting angry (which they see as senseless make sense when he tells you why he was angry)this year they just want to punish him by making him writing sentences for days or giving him a referral to the office. > > > > What is this going to accomplish? So let's take a boy that has issues being social and remove him from class and classmates for days so he can be alone and write sentences. Good gosh wally, if I thought writing sentences would cure Asperger's I would have had him write his first novel by now. > > > > Any advice? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2012 Report Share Posted April 12, 2012 Hi Kari,3 of my 6 kids are on the spectrum. My eldest, , is HFA and it really became apparent in the 3rd grade. He was so socially awkward that we had to take him out of school and homeschool. We didn't know at the time that he had Asperger's (this was 13 years ago), but once my twins were diagnosed with severe autism, and we did the research, it became obvious. We ended up homeschooling all of our children, and looking back, I don't know how anyone with kids on the spectrum has a choice.I recently spoke with a couple whose HFA son in now in his 30s. He was constantly picked on in school, and ridiculed in HS. He blames his parents for everything, even though they really didn't know any better of felt that they had an option back then. I know it isn't fair, but it's human nature. Because he was spared the torture of school, never knew that he was any different than any other teenager except for the fact that he was smarter. He always had tremendous confidence. We gave him ballroom dancing lessons at the age of 15 to help him with talking to girls and he has gone on to be a professional instructor. When he felt that his conversational skills weren't up to where they should be he took a job at a call center to get training on how to talk to people on the phone. That mastered, he took another job doing door to door sales to get over his fear of speaking to strangers face to face. He excelled at both and became a manager. He now runs my IT company and does an amazing job. Needless to say, he would never have had the confidence to do any of these things had his self esteem been beaten down over years of school-age cruelty. I beg to differ with those who say that our kids need to "toughen up and take it" and that being bullied is some sort of necessary right of passage. As adults, one never has to deal with this sort of issue, we have the option to avoid unpleasant people, and they can avoid us if they choose.Homeschooling may be difficult for you if you are working outside of the home, but that is where we as parents need to get creative with other parent groups. There may be some sort of co-op in your area, or even babysitters and online resources can do the job. I know it may seem impossible, but there are many more options available to you than you would imagine. To: Texas-Autism-Advocacy Sent: Thursday, April 12, 2012 4:48 AM Subject: Asperger's and Jr. High I have a child in Jr. High with Asperger's and this has been an awful year for him in school. These kids are so mean and the information they know about sex, etc is unreal. My son still has the same problems socially that he always has. We have made progress but he still has Asperger's. Now it seems instead of dealing with the issue of the blurting out, or him getting angry (which they see as senseless make sense when he tells you why he was angry)this year they just want to punish him by making him writing sentences for days or giving him a referral to the office. What is this going to accomplish? So let's take a boy that has issues being social and remove him from class and classmates for days so he can be alone and write sentences. Good gosh wally, if I thought writing sentences would cure Asperger's I would have had him write his first novel by now. Any advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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