Guest guest Posted September 16, 1999 Report Share Posted September 16, 1999 It seems that they're just scared, . YOu have changed so the way how they interact with you changed as well. I don't think they're stupid, but they're probably don't know how to interact with you now that you're hearing's gone. If it really bother's you that much, I suggest you talk to them individually and say, " he what's up what's going on? " and they're probably tell you. A similiar situation like yours also happened to me and that's what I did. It got them talking so we were able to resolved the conflict. Good Luck! Mark ----Original Message Follows---- Reply-To: NF2_Crewonelist To: 'CREW' <nf2_crewonelist> Subject: inferiority complex Date: Thu, 16 Sep 1999 13:36:29 -0400 I have people at work who pass me and even though I give them a verbal greeting, there's no response from them. It's like they totally ignore me. We've known each other for twenty years and they know I am deaf now but if they do indeed reply there is no visual clue whatsoever. My conclusion is they are either so ignorant (read " stupid " ) to just mumble a reply or they are attempting to cultivate inferiority complex in me. (defining being " stupid " as a non-thought of received ideas) What should I do ? Should I tell them or should I let it ride ? V. Vesely, P.Eng. Atomic Energy Of Canada http://www.aecl.ca Software Design Engineer INSTRUMENTATION & CONTROL ELECTRICAL * x4673 (TDD) (FAX) * veselyp@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 1999 Report Share Posted September 16, 1999 , I do not work, but lost a lot of my so-called " friends " when I went deaf. They just did not know how to handle it! That might be the case with your coworkers. I would not take it personally. Those people that are worth anything will try to communicate with you. My 2 cents! DonnaHut Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 1999 Report Share Posted September 16, 1999 Dear , I notice you work in engineering too and I think it is a universal predicament not only in our field but in the general population - that non-speaking thing. I am pretty friendly. I came to Houston from a place where when you passed a car you waved whether you knew the person or not (since 99% of the time you knew them). So I speak to people. If I pass you in the hall or see you on an elevator or walking down the street, I say hi. I don't want to have a chat or give anyone my life history but I acknowledge the presence of a fellow human. I have started counting the number of times I get no response but a blank look or someone looking at the floor. It is unbelievable. I think some people just do not know how to act. I do not take it personally since friends of mine have talked about it too. At one point I would say, hello!!!! I said hello!!! It would annoy me so much. Now I just smile and keep on walking. One day I walked into my building on a Saturday passing 2 guys I have know for at least 10 years. Not friends but co-workers. I said, hey how are ya'll doing? No response. SO I was ugly and said something and still regret it. Good luck and keep saying hi! Maybe someone will learn something. Kim in Houston --- " Vesely, " wrote: > > > > I have people at work who pass me and even though I give them a > verbal greeting, there's no response from them. It's like they totally > ignore me. We've known each other for twenty years and they know I am deaf > now but if they do indeed reply there is no visual clue whatsoever. > > My conclusion is they are either so ignorant (read " stupid " ) to just > mumble a reply or they are attempting to cultivate inferiority complex in > me. (defining being " stupid " as a non-thought of received ideas) > > What should I do ? Should I tell them or should I let it ride ? > > V. > > Vesely, P.Eng. > Atomic Energy Of Canada > http://www.aecl.ca > Software Design Engineer > INSTRUMENTATION & CONTROL ELECTRICAL > * x4673 > (TDD) > (FAX) > * veselyp@... > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 1999 Report Share Posted September 16, 1999 , you work in engineering?? that explains it!! Engineers arenotthe most social people ya know. j/k!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 16, 1999 Report Share Posted September 16, 1999 Donna, that's so sad .... all my friends have become even closer friends now that I am going deaf. A few are even talking about learning ASL so they can communicate with me (one is already). I feel so loved =) > From: DonnaHut@... > > , > > I do not work, but lost a lot of my so-called " friends " when I went deaf. > They just did not know how to handle it! That might be the case with your > coworkers. I would not take it personally. Those people that are worth > anything will try to communicate with you. > > My 2 cents! > DonnaHut > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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