Guest guest Posted March 5, 2007 Report Share Posted March 5, 2007 Dear Hype, I was wondering if you could explain to me what you mean by *training* those around you to accept your shortcomings? I mean, why would you need to or want to train them? How do you overcompensate for your shortcomings? You tell them that you love them, I hear. What else do you do? Curious and wanting to hear your experience. Love, nne > > It makes life easier to 'train' those around you to accept your > shortcomings. (And that's done by loving yourself in front of others.) > It helps that they know I'm always well-intentioned and I've greatly > 'over'compensated in other aspects of my personality where being late > is just a slight nick off my character. If I'm a joy to be around, > people tend to be much more obliging. And if they are pissed at me, I > let them, but I also let them know it doesn't make me feel separated > from them (I feel no shame and no need to argue). > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2007 Report Share Posted March 6, 2007 > > Dear Hype, > > I was wondering if you could explain to me what you mean by *training* > those around you to accept your shortcomings? I mean, why would you > need to or want to train them? > > How do you overcompensate for your shortcomings? You tell them that you > love them, I hear. What else do you do? > > Curious and wanting to hear your experience. > > Love, nne > The 'training' happens naturally. (No need or desire.) My friends who get to know me get to know my shortcomings. They weigh what's good and bad for them about me. They know I'm not an on-time person so they do the 'on-time' thing for me by telling me to show up earlier than when I'm actually needed or they'll come pick me up, etc. I don't have the greatest capacity to be on time, so my friends help me along when it's important to be on time. What would you do for a friend that is incapacitated, say in a wheel chair? You would probably help them a little more than your friends that aren't in wheelchairs. Get the point? My overcompensation happens because I can talk to people on their level and am generally very nonjudgemental. I'm extremely outgoing and personable. I'm fun to be around. I've had numerous people come up to me and tell me that, for some reason, I'm inspirational. Whatever. I'm just being me. My band of friends take good care of me and I love them very deeply. The most rewarding relationships are the symbiotic ones. I think people try to be too independent and miss the opportunity to lean on others for support every once in a while. Besides, it's more healthy to say: I'm not good at this, can you help me with it or else I'm going to pull my hair out trying... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2007 Report Share Posted March 6, 2007 Thank you for answering my questions. nne > The 'training' happens naturally. (No need or desire.) My friends who > get to know me get to know my shortcomings. They weigh what's good > and bad for them about me. They know I'm not an on-time person so > they do the 'on-time' thing for me by telling me to show up earlier > than when I'm actually needed or they'll come pick me up, etc. I > don't have the greatest capacity to be on time, so my friends help me > along when it's important to be on time. What would you do for a > friend that is incapacitated, say in a wheel chair? You would > probably help them a little more than your friends that aren't in > wheelchairs. Get the point? > > My overcompensation happens because I can talk to people on their > level and am generally very nonjudgemental. I'm extremely outgoing > and personable. I'm fun to be around. I've had numerous people come > up to me and tell me that, for some reason, I'm inspirational. > Whatever. I'm just being me. My band of friends take good care of me > and I love them very deeply. The most rewarding relationships are the > symbiotic ones. I think people try to be too independent and miss the > opportunity to lean on others for support every once in a while. > Besides, it's more healthy to say: I'm not good at this, can you help > me with it or else I'm going to pull my hair out trying... > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2007 Report Share Posted March 8, 2007 Dear writers! What wonderful communication! It this nne mind manifastion true, I ask myself? Looking at her picture and her favorite sites I wish her all the best, to keep her luxurious integrity. But how can she absolutely know, that her mind keeps to her truth in times of troubles? Have not millions of politicians and priests preached water and drink as hypocrites wine ? How would this EGO-mind body identified nne manifest, when she could get more than her thoughts of 'respect' only? Would this nne mind not be enriched more by helping the handicapped in her wheel chair... ....and would steal with her friendly mind mask the wallet of this helpless handicapped person? :-( O.K. - nne would have to leave her thought about herself as 'Holy Helper' behind --- --- but at least in even a more material world she could purchase more to get respect and attention! Would nne's EGO-mind-body identification not succeed better by leaving her thoughts behind? n0by :-) ..... What would you do for a > friend that is incapacitated, say in a wheel chair? You would > probably help them a little more than your friends that aren't in > wheelchairs. Get the point? Dear Hypegia, I will share that I would pick you up on time and help you in your wheel chair because it would be in my integrity to do so. I do it for myself, not for you. I do it for my own mind because I like the person I project or believe myself to be when I am kind, respectful, and helpful. It has nothing to do with you. I take care of my own mind because that is all I can take care of. ..... nne http://groups.yahoo.com/group/n0by/ http://www.n0by.blogspot.com/ http://n0by.de skype: n0by2call Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2007 Report Share Posted March 8, 2007 Such pre-occupation with nne's business! > Dear writers! > > What wonderful communication! It this > nne mind manifastion true, I ask myself? > > Looking at her picture and her favorite sites > I wish her all the best, to keep her luxurious integrity. > > > But how can she absolutely know, that > her mind keeps to her truth in times of troubles? > > > Have not millions of politicians and priests > preached water and drink as hypocrites wine ? > > > How would this EGO-mind body identified nne manifest, > when she could get more than her thoughts of 'respect' only? > > > > Would this nne mind not be enriched > more by helping the handicapped in her wheel chair... > > ....and would steal with her friendly mind mask > the wallet of this helpless handicapped person? > > > :-( > > > O.K. - nne would have to leave her > thought about herself as 'Holy Helper' behind --- > > > --- but at least in even a more material world > she could purchase more to get respect and attention! > > > > Would nne's EGO-mind-body identification > not succeed better by leaving her thoughts behind? > > > n0by > > > :-) > > > > > ..... What would you do for a >> friend that is incapacitated, say in a wheel chair? You would >> probably help them a little more than your friends that aren't in >> wheelchairs. Get the point? > > Dear Hypegia, > > I will share that I would pick you up on time and help you in your > wheel chair because it would be in my integrity to do so. I do it for > myself, not for you. I do it for my own mind because I like the > person I project or believe myself to be when I am kind, respectful, > and helpful. It has nothing to do with you. > > I take care of my own mind because that is all I can take care of. > ..... > > nne > > > > > > > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/n0by/ > http://www.n0by.blogspot.com/ > http://n0by.de > skype: n0by2call > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2007 Report Share Posted March 12, 2007 sure, Hanle, you're right - but why do you give me the feeling of such your pre-occupation with my business? n0by :-) Such pre-occupation with nne's business! > Dear writers! > > What wonderful communication! I..... http://groups.yahoo.com/group/n0by/ http://www.n0by.blogspot.com/ http://n0by.de skype: n0by2call p.s.: whatever this maybe ''my buisiness'' :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2007 Report Share Posted March 12, 2007 Here, let me help translate. *Mind your own business.* The holy helper, nne > sure, Hanle, you're right - > > but why do you give me the feeling > of such your pre-occupation with my business? > > n0by Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 12, 2007 Report Share Posted March 12, 2007 Yes, of course I am in your business with my reply :-) Isn't it funny to watch projection at work? > > sure, Hanle, you're right - > > but why do you give me the feeling > of such your pre-occupation with my business? > > n0by > > :-) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2007 Report Share Posted March 13, 2007 > Yes, of course I am in your business with my reply :-) Isn't it funny > to watch projection at work? 1) Is it true? Isn't it sad, to watch projections with wasting time, energy and nerves on and from anonymous people? Isn't it sad, to read from those people, who pretend to be or pretend to know something but are burning from envy to get attention for their words, web-sites and work? 2) Can you absolutely know that it's true? Isn't it sad, to fantasize about any ''absolute TRVTH'' like religious retarded fundamental fascists? 3) How do you react when you believe that thought? Isn't it sad, to believe that projections of anyone about anyone else could be funny? 4) Who would you be without the thought? Wouldn't it be better, to be without thoughts - no matter if sad or funny? n0by with some more mental exercised projections :-) http://groups.yahoo.com/group/n0by/ http://www.n0by.blogspot.com/ http://n0by.de skype: n0by2call > > Yes, of course I am in your business with my reply :-) Isn't it funny > to watch projection at work? .... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2007 Report Share Posted March 13, 2007 Dear n0by, If you use the questions, or questions in general as a weapon or to defend yourself, keep in mind that it is your truth that is useful to you. By asking questions you don't want answered you can only keep yourself from listening. Love, PS: some ideas follow >> Yes, of course I am in your business with my reply :-) Isn't it funny >> to watch projection at work? > 1) Is it true? > > Isn't it sad, to watch projections with wasting time, energy and > nerves > on and from anonymous people? As far as I am concerned, neither time, nor energy nor nerves can ever be wasted. If it occurs to you they can, find out, how that can be done, explicitly. No one can cost me my nerves. That's my priviledge. Same with wasting time. You can not possibly waste my time. That would be me. And even that only by believing I have wasted it. And the good thing about that: it's over. > Isn't it sad, to read from those people, who pretend to be or pretend > to know something but are burning from envy to get attention for their > words, web-sites and work? Who is pretending, here? And who's business would that be? And what's not ok with that? (could be useful stuff, here. Put in more pettyness and see if enough material for a work comes up) > 2) Can you absolutely know that it's true? > Isn't it sad, to fantasize about any ''absolute TRVTH'' like religious > retarded fundamental fascists? Well, I can't find anything sad with that. And it's not about an absolute truth. It's about *your* truth. Are you aware of how a religion is born? > 3) How do you react when you believe that thought? > Isn't it sad, to believe that projections of anyone about anyone else > could be funny? These can all be put into " shouldn't " -sentences. Do you care? I believe what I believe. And I am aware that you believe what you believe. And if you ask, I can share. And if you share, it's for me to hear. And if I share, it's for me to hear. You do your job, and I take full responsibility for mine. > 4) Who would you be without the thought? > Wouldn't it be better, to be without thoughts - no matter if sad or > funny? Well, what is your experience? We want what we have. There's no other option. But sometimes we forget that and try to pretend that there are. > n0by > > with some more mental exercised projections > > :-) Love, ___________________________________________________________ Der frühe Vogel fängt den Wurm. Hier gelangen Sie zum neuen Yahoo! Mail: http://mail.yahoo.de Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 15, 2007 Report Share Posted March 15, 2007 > > > Yes, of course I am in your business with my reply :-) Isn't it funny > > to watch projection at work? > > > 1) Is it true? > > Isn't it sad, to watch projections with wasting time, energy and nerves > on and from anonymous people? > > Isn't it sad, to read from those people, who pretend to be or pretend > to know something but are burning from envy to get attention for their > words, web-sites and work? Apparently it's not sad for you. You have a reason to feel morally and superiorly better about your oh-so-open-to-the-world self because of 'anonymous' people like me. Thank me because it's a free service I provide to people with beliefs such as " People shouldn't post anonymously " , " I shouldn't have to ask a person directly about who they are " and " I should dilly-dally around the topic that irritates me until other people get it and provide me with what I desire " . LOL And thank YOU for making me feel better about myself. You provide a free service to me to make me feel morally and superiorly better when I believe " People should just write how they would really speak to a person instead of writing all high-and-mighty confusing zen-like crap. " > 2) Can you absolutely know that it's true? > Isn't it sad, to fantasize about any ''absolute TRVTH'' like religious > retarded fundamental fascists? I'm a religious retarded fundamental fascist! As long as I believe in anything, that is... Even if it's in the ever holy belief of: THE SUN SHOULD RISE IN THE EAST EVERY MORNING. > 3) How do you react when you believe that thought? > Isn't it sad, to believe that projections of anyone about anyone else > could be funny? Pfft. > 4) Who would you be without the thought? > Wouldn't it be better, to be without thoughts - no matter if sad or > funny? > > n0by WOULD it be better? How would you know if it IS better or not if you DON'T HAVE ANY THOUGHTS TO THINK THAT?? Thanks, nob(od)y, for the stimulating banter. Hypegia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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