Re: Being in others business

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Dear

I love you and I am happy that you are back, writing in this group

I found your mail very helpful

Lately I have been in my boyfriend's business thinking that he should pay

attention to me

Today he called me and told me that he is a free man

And he doesn't belong to me or anyone

And if I can respect his freedom to do what he wants to do

I am most welcome to stay in his life

I told him that my ego was so hurt the other night

While he danced in the streets, while all the people in the streets where

watching him

And he didn't shown any sign of closest to me

I wanted every one to know that this amazing dancer is my boyfriend

But he danced with every one on the streets

Even with strangers

Now I know that if I want to be part of his life

I need to stop controlling him to please me

Cause he doesn't try to please my anyway!

So, at the moment I am mad at him for no " good " reason

And I need time to digest his requires

I don't know if I can be what he wants me to be

I love attention and it is hard for me to leave without it

I just wait and see how I feel within time

And,

I want to do the work with you

So please let me know when we could do it

T

-- Being in others business

Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is. I have been very

angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I stay out

of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly is in

your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I never

forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m there, and

if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very peaceful.

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I JUST DID THE WORK ON THE HOTLINE ON

HE SHOULD BE MORE SENSITIVE TO MY NEEDS

I came to see that:

I shouldn't be so sensitive to my needs (especially at his birthday)

And

My thinking shouldn't be so sensitive

So true, he is dancing on the streets

And my thinking is so sensitive

I am not ready to talk to him yet

But I am doing the work so I could forgive him

For harm that wasn't done

T

-- Being in others business

Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is. I have been very

angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I stay out

of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly is in

your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I never

forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m there, and

if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very peaceful.

[Guest guest]

my husband was saying this morning.. he feels stress when he gets

judgemental..

Of himself or of others..

I think that is so true.. and similar to staying out of others

business. when we are not judgemental.. its less stress.

MAria.. glad to see you posting again.. i love your work.

love,roslyn

>

> Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

> sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is. I have been very

> angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I stay out

> of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

> conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly is in

> your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I never

> forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m there, and

> if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very peaceful.

>

[Guest guest]

can you recall an earlier incidient when you were ignored.

or felt left out?

rh -

-- In Loving-what-is , Tami wrote:

>

> I JUST DID THE WORK ON THE HOTLINE ON

> HE SHOULD BE MORE SENSITIVE TO MY NEEDS

>

> I came to see that:

>

> I shouldn't be so sensitive to my needs (especially at his birthday)

>

> And

>

> My thinking shouldn't be so sensitive

>

> So true, he is dancing on the streets

> And my thinking is so sensitive

>

> I am not ready to talk to him yet

> But I am doing the work so I could forgive him

> For harm that wasn't done

>

> T

>

>

> -- Being in others business

>

> Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

> sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is. I have been very

> angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I stay out

> of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

> conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly is in

> your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I never

> forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m there, and

> if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very peaceful.

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Beloved Tami,

I love you too, and I´m happy that I could be at any help!

Love and light,

>

> Dear

>

> I love you and I am happy that you are back, writing in this group

> I found your mail very helpful

>

> Lately I have been in my boyfriend's business thinking that he

should pay

> attention to me

> Today he called me and told me that he is a free man

> And he doesn't belong to me or anyone

> And if I can respect his freedom to do what he wants to do

> I am most welcome to stay in his life

> I told him that my ego was so hurt the other night

> While he danced in the streets, while all the people in the

streets where

> watching him

> And he didn't shown any sign of closest to me

> I wanted every one to know that this amazing dancer is my boyfriend

> But he danced with every one on the streets

> Even with strangers

>

> Now I know that if I want to be part of his life

> I need to stop controlling him to please me

> Cause he doesn't try to please my anyway!

>

> So, at the moment I am mad at him for no " good " reason

> And I need time to digest his requires

> I don't know if I can be what he wants me to be

> I love attention and it is hard for me to leave without it

>

> I just wait and see how I feel within time

> And,

> I want to do the work with you

> So please let me know when we could do it

>

> T

>

> -- Being in others business

>

> Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

> sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is. I have been

very

> angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I stay

out

> of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

> conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly is

in

> your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I

never

> forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m there,

and

> if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very

peaceful.

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

>

> Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

> sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is.

What if you loved pain?

I have been very

> angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I stay out

> of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

> conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly is in

> your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I never

> forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m there, and

> if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very peaceful.

Please respond back, I love it when people are in my busyness.

[Guest guest]

> >

> > Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

> > sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is.

>

> What if you loved pain?

I don´t know of anyone that loves mental pain. That doesn´t mean

there can´t be people who does. Anyway I see mental pain as a

reminder of that my thinking is confused. But if you don´t, and you

love it, well good for you:)!

Love,

>

> I have been very

> > angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I

stay out

> > of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

> > conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly

is in

> > your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I

never

> > forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m

there, and

> > if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very

peaceful.

>

> Please respond back, I love it when people are in my busyness.

>

>

>

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> I don´t know of anyone that loves mental pain. That doesn´t mean

> there can´t be people who does. Anyway I see mental pain as a

> reminder of that my thinking is confused.

mental pain = stressful thinking = arrow pointing to where work can be

done

mental pain = friend?

[Guest guest]

Like katie says somewhere stress or mental pain is the alarm

clock telling us to investigate our thoughts..

and in that case we could be grateful.. for the alarm..

im not though i have to admit.. i just can see how one

could be greatful.. for the alarm to do the work.

Sometimes over and over again...

love,roslyn

- In Loving-what-is , " " wrote:

>

>

> > >

> > > Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

> > > sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is.

> >

> > What if you loved pain?

>

> I don´t know of anyone that loves mental pain. That doesn´t mean

> there can´t be people who does. Anyway I see mental pain as a

> reminder of that my thinking is confused. But if you don´t, and you

> love it, well good for you:)!

>

> Love,

>

>

>

> >

> > I have been very

> > > angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I

> stay out

> > > of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

> > > conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly

> is in

> > > your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I

> never

> > > forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m

> there, and

> > > if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very

> peaceful.

> >

> > Please respond back, I love it when people are in my busyness.

> >

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Well, in the moment you realize it's just the alarm ringing, you wake

up, and the nightmare is over.

Love,

Am 21.12.2006 um 04:20 schrieb mrcitrus6:

> Like katie says somewhere stress or mental pain is the alarm

> clock telling us to investigate our thoughts..

> and in that case we could be grateful.. for the alarm..

> im not though i have to admit.. i just can see how one

> could be greatful.. for the alarm to do the work.

> Sometimes over and over again...

> love,roslyn

>

>

>

> - In Loving-what-is , " " wrote:

>>

>>

>>>>

>>>> Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

>>>> sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is.

>>>

>>> What if you loved pain?

>>

>> I don´t know of anyone that loves mental pain. That doesn´t mean

>> there can´t be people who does. Anyway I see mental pain as a

>> reminder of that my thinking is confused. But if you don´t, and you

>> love it, well good for you:)!

>>

>> Love,

>>

>>

>>

>>>

>>> I have been very

>>>> angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I

>> stay out

>>>> of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

>>>> conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly

>> is in

>>>> your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I

>> never

>>>> forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m

>> there, and

>>>> if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very

>> peaceful.

>>>

>>> Please respond back, I love it when people are in my busyness.

>>>

>>>

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i love that you wake up and the night mare is over.. thanks

..

The alarm just keeps ringing for me.. I suppose i dont investigate

enough..

I think i better meditate or read a book.. or call someone.. when i

should do the work..

I admire mary she is really going in for the answers.. and says she

feels katies presence.. i believe it. on rare occasions i hear her voice.

happy holidays , roslyn

- In Loving-what-is , wrote:

>

> Well, in the moment you realize it's just the alarm ringing, you wake

> up, and the nightmare is over.

>

> Love,

>

>

> Am 21.12.2006 um 04:20 schrieb mrcitrus6:

>

> > Like katie says somewhere stress or mental pain is the alarm

> > clock telling us to investigate our thoughts..

> > and in that case we could be grateful.. for the alarm..

> > im not though i have to admit.. i just can see how one

> > could be greatful.. for the alarm to do the work.

> > Sometimes over and over again...

> > love,roslyn

> >

> >

> >

> > - In Loving-what-is , " " <skogsnuvan@> wrote:

> >>

> >>

> >>>>

> >>>> Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

> >>>> sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is.

> >>>

> >>> What if you loved pain?

> >>

> >> I don´t know of anyone that loves mental pain. That doesn´t mean

> >> there can´t be people who does. Anyway I see mental pain as a

> >> reminder of that my thinking is confused. But if you don´t, and you

> >> love it, well good for you:)!

> >>

> >> Love,

> >>

> >>

> >>

> >>>

> >>> I have been very

> >>>> angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I

> >> stay out

> >>>> of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

> >>>> conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly

> >> is in

> >>>> your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I

> >> never

> >>>> forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m

> >> there, and

> >>>> if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very

> >> peaceful.

> >>>

> >>> Please respond back, I love it when people are in my busyness.

> >>>

> >>>

>

>

>

>

>

>

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> i love that you wake up and the night mare is over.. thanks

> ..

Great!

> The alarm just keeps ringing for me.. I suppose i dont investigate

> enough..

don't worry, the alarm will just ring louder, so that eventuall you

will hear it!

That's built-in! ;-)

> I think i better meditate or read a book.. or call someone.. when i

> should do the work..

Sounds to me like you protect yourself from something you are afraid

of when you do the work.

What's the worst that could happen, when you investigated, instead of

meditating of reading a book or calling someone? Pay attention next

time you are in that situation, and see if you can get a hold on your

fears, if any.

> I admire mary she is really going in for the answers.. and says she

> feels katies presence.. i believe it. on rare occasions i hear her

> voice.

> happy holidays , roslyn

Happy holidays!

And lots of love,

> - In Loving-what-is , wrote:

>>

>> Well, in the moment you realize it's just the alarm ringing, you wake

>> up, and the nightmare is over.

>>

>> Love,

>>

>>

>> Am 21.12.2006 um 04:20 schrieb mrcitrus6:

>>

>>> Like katie says somewhere stress or mental pain is the alarm

>>> clock telling us to investigate our thoughts..

>>> and in that case we could be grateful.. for the alarm..

>>> im not though i have to admit.. i just can see how one

>>> could be greatful.. for the alarm to do the work.

>>> Sometimes over and over again...

>>> love,roslyn

>>>

>>>

>>>

>>> - In Loving-what-is , " " <skogsnuvan@> wrote:

>>>>

>>>>

>>>>>>

>>>>>> Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

>>>>>> sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is.

>>>>>

>>>>> What if you loved pain?

>>>>

>>>> I don´t know of anyone that loves mental pain. That doesn´t mean

>>>> there can´t be people who does. Anyway I see mental pain as a

>>>> reminder of that my thinking is confused. But if you don´t, and you

>>>> love it, well good for you:)!

>>>>

>>>> Love,

>>>>

>>>>

>>>>

>>>>>

>>>>> I have been very

>>>>>> angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I

>>>> stay out

>>>>>> of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

>>>>>> conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly

>>>> is in

>>>>>> your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I

>>>> never

>>>>>> forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m

>>>> there, and

>>>>>> if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very

>>>> peaceful.

>>>>>

>>>>> Please respond back, I love it when people are in my busyness.

>>>>>

>>>>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

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[Guest guest]

.. i dont know what i am avoiding.. thanks for asking..

i suppose my mind wants to be right and i like the innocent victim role..

but i will try to notice .. thanks and happy new year.

love, roslyn

> >>>>>>

> >>>>>> Lately I have been a lot in others business, my mom, my dad, my

> >>>>>> sister, Hans... And you all know how painful that is.

> >>>>>

> >>>>> What if you loved pain?

> >>>>

> >>>> I don´t know of anyone that loves mental pain. That doesn´t mean

> >>>> there can´t be people who does. Anyway I see mental pain as a

> >>>> reminder of that my thinking is confused. But if you don´t, and you

> >>>> love it, well good for you:)!

> >>>>

> >>>> Love,

> >>>>

> >>>>

> >>>>

> >>>>>

> >>>>> I have been very

> >>>>>> angry and demanding. But there is one person whose business I

> >>>> stay out

> >>>>>> of, my daughters. I truly want for her to be happy, without

> >>>>>> conditions. What I have come to realize is that when you truly

> >>>> is in

> >>>>>> your own business, boundaries for others become unnecessary. I

> >>>> never

> >>>>>> forbid my daughter to do anything. If she wants my help I´m

> >>>> there, and

> >>>>>> if she wants to be left alone, I leave her alone. It´s very

> >>>> peaceful.

> >>>>>

> >>>>> Please respond back, I love it when people are in my busyness.

> >>>>>

> >>>>>

> >>

> >>

> >>

> >>

> >>

> >>

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