Guest guest Posted March 6, 2006 Report Share Posted March 6, 2006 (The moderator / owner of this group / love of my life) Asked me not to write here personal messages for him. Who's business what ask / want? 's Who's business is what I do / want? Mine. ok, I will stay in my business and just say: ((((((((( , I love you )))))))) Now I wait and see if I am in trouble... T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 6, 2006 Report Share Posted March 6, 2006 Tami, the contents of this post seem to be a continuation of a thread you began more than a year ago. Below I copy it: --------------------------------------------------------------------- " we all know that it is best to stay in our own business for our own peace of mind when I give someone an advice I am in his business. simple... BUT ( - all for you) If someone ask me for my opinion wants me to help him by asking me: how do I see things or ask me: " what I should do " my question is: is it still a bad idea to visit his business a little? " --------------------------------------------------------------------- *****I struggled with these questions for several years. What I have learned is that there are no absolutes here. Attempting to make a dogma of Byron 's words (or anyone's) merely obscures the nature of the fluidity of Life. When it is Seen (by no one) that separation is an illusion, taking care of another's business is taking care of one's self. Sometimes we take of ourself; other times we don't because we're just not able to at that time. And so it is with others. When one is taking care of another, when being in that other person's business is warranted and desired by the other, then there is a distinctly different *feel* than when one is " butting into " someone's else's business, forcing the issue. It takes sensitivity to self and other to notice the difference, but a difference there is. I walk by a colleague who is crying, head down. I sit down at the desk, inquiring with my hand on the person's shoulder, " Is everything all right? Can I do anything for you? " Is this being in that person's business? Just the open, caring, inquiry? What business is it of MINE that this person is crying, upset? Am I not in this person's business? After all, I wasn't invited over in an act of seeking counsel. I .... butted in. Or did I? What I would suggest is each situation is unique: the time the place the circumstance never happened before and never will again. There are simply no rules for how to behave apriori. There may be some vague, general, guidelines, but, ultimately, right (i.e., appropriate) action arises out of a sensitivity to the nature of that particular, individual and unique moment. Ultimately we all do the best we can. > > > (The moderator / owner of this group / love of my life) > > Asked me not to write here personal messages for him. > > Who's business what ask / want? > 's > > Who's business is what I do / want? > Mine. > > ok, I will stay in my business and just say: > > ((((((((( , I love you )))))))) > > Now I wait and see if I am in trouble... > > T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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