Guest guest Posted May 11, 2004 Report Share Posted May 11, 2004 Dear Cheryl, You said: <<I've noticed over the past two or three days appears to be more depressed than usual. (He's been on the liquid paxil since Saturday). He's also mentioned the feelings and thoughts of paranoia have become more frequent. I thought the " paranoia thing " had completely resolved itself, but yesterday he said that it still comes and goes, just not with the intensity we've seen before.>> ** Saturday was the day that he got 50% more of the Paxil than he was taking. This could cause any of the symptoms mentioned above. You said: << He' worried that he doesn't " feel " anything. He gets very frustrated about his future, feels he has absolutely nothing to live for and almost refuses to consider the very real possibilty that one day he'll have this behind him and will be much better. >> ** It's normal not to feel anything when on a drug like this. That is precisely what it is intended to do. The longer he is on it, the more chance there is that he will also be somewhat emotionally numbed even after discontinuing the drug. was depressed originally for the reasons you cite. That is why he began taking Paxil. That problem has not been resolved. It is something that wil require some work. At least 50% of the people who come here, and at least 90% of the males, are discouraged and don't see their lives as worth living. That changes as they interact with the group. I am concerned that with not interacting with the group and you ac5ting as his proxy, he will not get the opportunity to make the shift that others do. He has a set way of interacting with his parents and is much younger emotionally with them than he would be on his own with friends or in a group. My concern is that he will not develop what he needs to make it through all of this until he becomes more invested in the process. At this point, you're more invested than he is. He's going to have to get much more emotionally mature and tough if he is going to make it through this. He is going to have to be willing to experience some of the things he is experiencing in order to make it through this. The withdrawal and recovery from these drugs is a difficult journey. There will be times of deep depression, anxiety, hopelessness, and despair. It can't be taken away. For most people, it's also a rite of passage, an opportunity to mature. The people who peddle the drugs hold out the promise of removing all discomfort for people. Some people find this happening for them; but look at the cost. I reallly wish we could figure out a way for him to be more directly involved. We stand a better chance of engaging him and teaching him a way to regard alll this that will help him through it. You said: << I brought up the " reading thing " to him as a " positive " in the middle of all this mess and his comment was, " that wasn't real...it didn't last " . It was late when this came out, so I didn't try to pry any further, but I'm hoping he was drawing a wrong conclusion. Will let you know..>> ** I look forward to hearing more about this. Regards, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2004 Report Share Posted May 13, 2004 > and goes, just not with the intensity we've seen before. > He' worried that he doesn't " feel " anything. He gets very > frustrated about his future, feels he has absolutely nothing to live > for and almost refuses to consider the very real possibilty that one > day he'll have this behind him and will be much better. > I brought up the " reading thing " to him as a " positive " in the > middle of all this mess and his comment was, " that wasn't real...it > didn't last " . It was late when this came out, so I didn't try to pry > any further, but I'm hoping he was drawing a wrong conclusion. Will > let you know.. > I know alot of what he's feeling is just part of the healing > process and what he has to go through....but should you have any > suggestions that might help him along at this point we'd appreciate > it. > > Healthy, Happy Blessings~~ > Cheryl Hey Cheryl, thats almost exactly how i felt a year ago. I took me a while till i could see some hope. I hope justin gets there faster than i did. when you said " the reading thing " were you talking about reading the posts on this board? i think it would help him alot. -joe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2004 Report Share Posted May 13, 2004 > > At least 50% of the people who come here, and at least 90% of the males, Interesting thought, i also noticed that it seems like its hard for the guys to deal with whats happened to them than the ladies, who can somehow take it in stride. -joe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2004 Report Share Posted May 13, 2004 Hi Joe.. Yes...I agree that coming into this group and corresponding with everyone would help tremendously..and he does sit here with me from time to time..but...even that's not the same as him being here alone and exchanging his thoughts with everyone. The problem is this... was diagnosed with several learning disabilities when he was very young...dyslexia and ADHD. He's never been able to read very well and his writing/spelling abilities are even less. I'm going to keep on encouraging him to try (cause he could do it, if he'd just get determined). I've told him no one here cares how well he spells! The reading thing is a rather odd. Several weeks back, when he was going through one of the worse times yet, he quite suddenly realized that he could read. It was quite a moment in time for all of us...like a dream come true...he could REALLY read. 's problem never was " word recognition " . He knew individual words..but putting them all together, one after the other into sentences was impossible for him...he couldn't do that. But somehow, while paxil was scrambling his brain chemistry...it apparently unscrambled that portion that kept him from reading. Strange but true. Anyway, we're hoping he can retain that ability, he's been in such a down mood I've hated to even bring it up again. He's so negative about everything. Hopefully today will be a better day for him. Blessings, Cheryl > Hey Cheryl, > > thats almost exactly how i felt a year ago. I took me a while till i > could see some hope. I hope justin gets there faster than i did. > when you said " the reading thing " were you talking about reading the > posts on this board? i think it would help him alot. > -joe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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