Guest guest Posted May 3, 2006 Report Share Posted May 3, 2006 Dear T, This man shouldn't look at me at all! Whose business is it where this man looks? TA: This man should look at me! So, Tami, men should not look or stare at attractive women, Is It True? Where did you hear that lie? On what planet is that true? What is the reality of it? Do men stare at attractive women? Duh! Love, Steve D > > I need your advice > > > I am sitting in a coffee shop and there is this guy who looks at me > With this penetrating look > > I hate it when man (that I have no interest in) do it! > Here goes my peace of mind. > I want to go to him and tell him: > " Read my lips, you and me, it will never happen, so stop staring at me " > But you all know meI am shy and reserved. > > SO instead I write to you. > > Every time our eyes cross each other > I feel a knife in my heart, I feel raped. > And I don't even know if he want me or she just stare at me > Cause I sit right across him. > > Lets do the work > > This man shouldn't look at me at all > > IIT? > > Wow, I can be bossy > Now I decide what other people can and cannot do. > What next, T? > > CIAKTIIT? > > No, it is not true > > HDIRWITTT? > > I hate him I want to go to him and teach him a lesson > > WWIBWTT? > > Well? > I don't know who I would be? > > > WHy am I so sensitive to man staring at me > > > ANy ideas? > > Hurry up, it is urgent! > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2006 Report Share Posted May 3, 2006 Dear old / ancient man I know that I am holding a lie thinking that man shouldn't stare at me. However, I wonder why (sometimes) I am not comfortable with that I experience it as being raped. What do you think, oldy? T > Dear T, > > This man shouldn't look at me at all! > > Whose business is it where this man looks? > > TA: This man should look at me! > > So, Tami, men should not look or stare at attractive women, Is It > True? > Where did you hear that lie? > On what planet is that true? > What is the reality of it? Do men stare at attractive women? > Duh! > > Love, Steve D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2006 Report Share Posted May 3, 2006 Dear T, I understand what you mean, but I do not have your answer. I suggest that you do The Work on : Someone staring at me should not feel like rape. And let me know what you find out. Love, Steve D. > > Dear old / ancient man > > I know that I am holding a lie thinking that man shouldn't stare at > me. > > However, > I wonder why (sometimes) I am not comfortable with that > I experience it as being raped. > > What do you think, oldy? > > T > > > > > > > > > Dear T, > > > > This man shouldn't look at me at all! > > > > Whose business is it where this man looks? > > > > TA: This man should look at me! > > > > So, Tami, men should not look or stare at attractive women, Is It > > True? > > Where did you hear that lie? > > On what planet is that true? > > What is the reality of it? Do men stare at attractive women? > > Duh! > > > > Love, Steve D > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2006 Report Share Posted May 3, 2006 Dear Tami This isn't exactly quick but here goes... If it feels like rape... What is rape and what is happening to you in the type of situation you're talking about? Be care-ful and pay attention to what you are feeling. Someone who stares at you LIKE THAT (and you know what I mean) doesn't have your best interests at heart, to say the least. Warm Regards ph > > > > Dear old / ancient man > > > > I know that I am holding a lie thinking that man shouldn't stare at > > me. > > > > However, > > I wonder why (sometimes) I am not comfortable with that > > I experience it as being raped. > > > > What do you think, oldy? > > > > T > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Dear T, > > > > > > This man shouldn't look at me at all! > > > > > > Whose business is it where this man looks? > > > > > > TA: This man should look at me! > > > > > > So, Tami, men should not look or stare at attractive women, Is It > > > True? > > > Where did you hear that lie? > > > On what planet is that true? > > > What is the reality of it? Do men stare at attractive women? > > > Duh! > > > > > > Love, Steve D > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2006 Report Share Posted May 3, 2006 Another way might be to just focus on you and clearly ask: - what I am feeling? - what do I want? - what can I do? And, then if you find that the man or his stare is making you uncomfortable, you can simply ask him: Sir, I don't like you starting at me, could you please stop this? Or, You can simply move to a different place and ask him to stop if you see him following! Who knows... the man may not even know that he is making you uncomfortable! Or, it might even bee his *successful* way of 'picking up' girls or 'finding sex'! In which, case this might be a *working* way for him and he is likely to stop doing it to you only after you inform him! You might be a 'desirable' object for him and he might think he will 'get' you 'this way'! If that is not true, you might need to let him know! He might even be thinking " bad " things about you and might be in fact, trying to " do things " via his 'eyes' without bothering to ask for your permission! This will be somewhat similar to a 'rape'. Yet, only real option I can see is to inform him, ask him to stop or leave the place! Now... I will ask you about your *understanding* of one of my situation... [ NNB ] > > > > > > Dear old / ancient man > > > > > > I know that I am holding a lie thinking that man shouldn't stare > at > > > me. > > > > > > However, > > > I wonder why (sometimes) I am not comfortable with that > > > I experience it as being raped. > > > > > > What do you think, oldy? > > > > > > T > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Dear T, > > > > > > > > This man shouldn't look at me at all! > > > > > > > > Whose business is it where this man looks? > > > > > > > > TA: This man should look at me! > > > > > > > > So, Tami, men should not look or stare at attractive women, Is > It > > > > True? > > > > Where did you hear that lie? > > > > On what planet is that true? > > > > What is the reality of it? Do men stare at attractive women? > > > > Duh! > > > > > > > > Love, Steve D > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2006 Report Share Posted May 3, 2006 > > > > > > Dear old / ancient man > > > > > > I know that I am holding a lie thinking that man shouldn't stare > at > > > me. > > > > > > However, > > > I wonder why (sometimes) I am not comfortable with that > > > I experience it as being raped. > > > > > > What do you think, oldy? > > > > > > T > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Dear T, > > > > > > > > This man shouldn't look at me at all! > > > > > > > > Whose business is it where this man looks? > > > > > > > > TA: This man should look at me! > > > > > > > > So, Tami, men should not look or stare at attractive women, Is > It > > > > True? > > > > Where did you hear that lie? > > > > On what planet is that true? > > > > What is the reality of it? Do men stare at attractive women? > > > > Duh! > > > > > > > > Love, Steve D > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2006 Report Share Posted May 3, 2006 Dear It seems that The Work works on thoughts arising from the rational mind but is not meant for intuition, or as I like call it, the heart. When my heart/intuition tells me that someone is up to no good in regards to me I listen to that and be aware because my experience has proven to me that the heart/intuition does not lie. That's along the lines of what I was attepting to point out to Tami. That when there is a genuine feeling/intuition that something is amiss that one would do well to listen to that. As far as thoughts and projections of rape... a sign of extreme insecurity. I noticed recently in myself a huge fear of being dominated or controlled. In my fear of being dominated or controlled I end up trying to dominate or control others in an attempt to feel safe or powerful. Warm Regards ph > > > > > > > > Dear old / ancient man > > > > > > > > I know that I am holding a lie thinking that man shouldn't > stare > > at > > > > me. > > > > > > > > However, > > > > I wonder why (sometimes) I am not comfortable with that > > > > I experience it as being raped. > > > > > > > > What do you think, oldy? > > > > > > > > T > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Dear T, > > > > > > > > > > This man shouldn't look at me at all! > > > > > > > > > > Whose business is it where this man looks? > > > > > > > > > > TA: This man should look at me! > > > > > > > > > > So, Tami, men should not look or stare at attractive women, > Is > > It > > > > > True? > > > > > Where did you hear that lie? > > > > > On what planet is that true? > > > > > What is the reality of it? Do men stare at attractive women? > > > > > Duh! > > > > > > > > > > Love, Steve D > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 2006 Report Share Posted May 3, 2006 > Dear Tami > > This isn't exactly quick but here goes... > > If it feels like rape... What is rape and what is happening to you > in the type of situation you're talking about? > > Be care-ful and pay attention to what you are feeling. Someone who > stares at you LIKE THAT (and you know what I mean) doesn't have your > best interests at heart, to say the least. Actually I don't see it that way I don't think he had bad intentions This man could just cross my accidently and my mind started to " sing " . I was hurt from my story I was telling that he thinks that we share a bond And that we have something going on. I was arguing with an imaginary thought: We have nothing going on. Grr! My mind is a drama story teller. T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 4, 2006 Report Share Posted May 4, 2006 My mind is a drama story teller. *****That is one of the actions of localized consciousness, or mind, if you prefer. Out of it, stories arise, some of which qualify as " drama. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 4, 2006 Report Share Posted May 4, 2006 > > > > > > > > > > Dear old / ancient man > > > > > > > > > > I know that I am holding a lie thinking that man shouldn't > > stare > > > at > > > > > me. > > > > > > > > > > However, > > > > > I wonder why (sometimes) I am not comfortable with that > > > > > I experience it as being raped. > > > > > > > > > > What do you think, oldy? > > > > > > > > > > T > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Dear T, > > > > > > > > > > > > This man shouldn't look at me at all! > > > > > > > > > > > > Whose business is it where this man looks? > > > > > > > > > > > > TA: This man should look at me! > > > > > > > > > > > > So, Tami, men should not look or stare at attractive > women, > > Is > > > It > > > > > > True? > > > > > > Where did you hear that lie? > > > > > > On what planet is that true? > > > > > > What is the reality of it? Do men stare at attractive > women? > > > > > > Duh! > > > > > > > > > > > > Love, Steve D > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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