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dear andy, Im letting down my husband and so i feel guilty because he

works and doesnt like his job.

When he walks in the door he hopes i have gotten a job and i

havent hardly looked yet and so i feel guilty.

My sons are adult and left home.

Uvie.. my husband and i have been married 28 years and i like to be

alone a lot as well.

As soon as he walks in the door i feel guilty.He loves to go over our

bills and his salary and say I need to work some day NExt week i might

go back to work. after passover. Im giving up work for lent

love,roslyn

>

> Why not?.. be in my business.. Im unemployed and feel somewhat guilty

> for not looking for work yet. I dont want to work

>

>

> *****Who WANTS to work??!! " Work " is a four-letter word to most

> people (this writer excepted as he genuinely enjoys teaching and

> spending time with people). Unless there is a passion driving one to

> do some form of work, work is just that: work! :-)))

>

> Guilt is a feeling. Underlying it are beliefs, and underneath those

> are Core Beliefs. If the sensation of guilt is unpleasant, you may be

> moved to explore, inquire, discover what are the beliefs which are

> driving the sense of guilt over not working. And I'm not suggesting

> that the guilt is not well-placed: if you are a mommy with two kids

> and by not working you're not feeding or clothing your children, then

> it seems guilt is a sound motivator (the kids are DEPENDENT on you).

> But if it is only about you, then, where is the guilt? Who are you

> letting down by not working?

>

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>

> and speaking of work. I am avoiding doing the work.. but since you

> said Ill do the work when its time.. thats good.. Ill also get a job

> when it is time.

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> *****Right! The innate conditioning-in-the-moment which IS Rosyln can

> do no other than what is dictated by the programming. If you need $$

> to pay the rent or feed or cloth yourself, then, maybe, you will seek

> out work.

>

>

> Thank you i wont beat myself up for that then.

>

>

> *****If you can, it sounds more peaceful a way to be: unemployed and

> serene about it.

>

>

> Happy being at home keying emails, I wish I was funny like tami and

> mary but oh well.. its not my choice,

>

>

> *****If you REALLY get that (or if it gets you!), you won't wish to

> funny or beautiful or charming or... you may still experience those

> wishes but they will be empty of any emotive value. Sure they cans

> till appear. At one moment they arise, pop! into consciousness.... " I

> wish I were... " This kind of thing will happen. And, like a doorbell

> ring, ping! you'll notice it.

>

> The difference is that instead of being carried away by waves of

> associated thoughts that build on the feeling and deepen the sense of

> entification (creating more of a " me-network " ), the thought will

> just...die, having been seen through as exactly what it is: a thought.

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