Re: I am starting to feel it

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In a message dated 11/6/2001 10:46:47 AM Eastern Standard Time,

jacquie_harris@... writes:

> But if I even get the idea

> in my head that we should go to the mountains to get a christmas tree

> Jeff will find some reason not to go or just stall until it is too

> late! I hate this.

> Jacquie H

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Oh Jacquie....I hope you get to feel better...

If you feel like going to the mountains to get a tree...GO!!!!!

You got married, you didn't give up your life...did ya?

Ron

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I guess you are right but just like evrything else in my life this is

not what I had hoped for. I wanted to be married to a man who wanted

to do family things. He always said he did but now he doesnt. I know

alot of it has to do with the fact that it can be very difficult to

take the boys somewhere sometimes but most of the time they are good

and he is still just upset that they are not normal. At least when we

go out it is a very big reminder of still looking for places to

change Alec's diaper and hoping Greggory will remember to go potty

and strollers and stuff we never planned for. It all goes back to

losing some dreams I guess~sigh~ Thanks for the advice, I am gonna

make a few more pleas to Jeff about taking us to the mountains:)

Jacquie H

> In a message dated 11/6/2001 10:46:47 AM Eastern Standard Time,

> jacquie_harris@n... writes:

>

>

> > But if I even get the idea

> > in my head that we should go to the mountains to get a christmas

tree

> > Jeff will find some reason not to go or just stall until it is

too

> > late! I hate this.

> > Jacquie H

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> Oh Jacquie....I hope you get to feel better...

> If you feel like going to the mountains to get a tree...GO!!!!!

> You got married, you didn't give up your life...did ya?

>

> Ron

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Hang in there...I have my days also...I am so glad when the kids

leave for school that I spend my 3hrs that I have alone watching TV

and just being a bum. Then when my hubby comes home he'll say 'so

what did you do today? " UUUGHGHH I just smile and say I took a time

out from life! I keep thinking if I just keep myself busy doing

other things then cleaning the house it will help. Sometimes it does

sometimes it doesn't...

I am so glad that other people understand the way I feel

Karyn

In parenting_autism@y..., " Jacquie " <jacquie_harris@n...> wrote:

> I am starting to feel my depression set in. I hate this feeling. I

> dont want to get up and really have no energy to do so. I dont want

> to see anyone and I dont want to be alone. I want my kids to stay

> home, I want them to go to school. I can't face another day of

> cleaning this damn house. Jeff makes me feel like crap! I feel sick

> to my stomache and I am getting a dull headache that I know will

> last. I love the Fall. I used to love the Fall. Now it just means

> that a long winter is ahead and we wont be able to have the same

type

> of fun I had when I was little. Jeff doesnt give a damn because he

> never did anything family-like as a child. He comes from a weird

past

> I guess and then maybe not. I dont know. But if I even get the idea

> in my head that we should go to the mountains to get a christmas

tree

> Jeff will find some reason not to go or just stall until it is too

> late! I hate this.

> Jacquie H

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Does Jeff know how he makes you feel? If not, you

need to tell him. Like Ron said, just because you are

married does not mean you gave up your life. Do

what you want to do, with or with out him!

Ginger

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Ginger,

I tell Jeff how I feel but he doesnt understand. He really has a

hard time understanding other people's feelings. He never really

means to be insensitive but he usually is. Jeff is almost diffenately

AS.The problem is I want to do these things with him and not

alone~sigh~ another dream of what life would be like dead!

Jacquie H\

> Does Jeff know how he makes you feel? If not, you

> need to tell him. Like Ron said, just because you are

> married does not mean you gave up your life. Do

> what you want to do, with or with out him!

>

> Ginger

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Ginger,

thanks! I am just in a very bad mood right now.

Jacquie H

> I am sorry Jacquie.

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> Ginger

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Jacquie,

I've been feeling the same way lately. Once the kids are on the bus in the

morning, I usually go back to bed. I don't need the sleep but I don't have

the energy to do anything else.

Cam was like Jeff too. He never liked the family outing stuff. I assumed

it was because he came from such a crappy family. He came to help out on

Halloween and he wanted to come back to the house long before either of the

kids did. Party pooper.

Amy H

Kepler 4 ASD and Bethany 6 NT

" There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of

us, that it behooves all of us not to talk about the rest of us. " ~

Louis son

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Amy,

Jeff gets bored too easily. He can stay interested in his crap

for days but when it comes to listening to me or the kids he glazes

over. He did have a good time with the kids this halloween this year

though. He loves halloween. He just never wants to go somewhere

unless the whole day is planned out and we dont stay too long

anywhere. ~sigh~

Jacquie H

> Jacquie,

> I've been feeling the same way lately. Once the kids are on the

bus in the

> morning, I usually go back to bed. I don't need the sleep but I

don't have

> the energy to do anything else.

>

> Cam was like Jeff too. He never liked the family outing stuff. I

assumed

> it was because he came from such a crappy family. He came to help

out on

> Halloween and he wanted to come back to the house long before

either of the

> kids did. Party pooper.

>

> Amy H

> Kepler 4 ASD and Bethany 6 NT

> " There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the

best of

> us, that it behooves all of us not to talk about the rest of us. "

~

> Louis son

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Poor Jacquie.... you probably just need a whole lot of sleep. Not sleeping

a straight number of hours for 6 years is just impossible.

Is there ANY way that you can maybe get 2 days off ALONE and just hole

yourself up in a room and SLEEP?

As for the tree..... well, if he doesn't take you, then MAKE HIM!!

Grace

I am starting to feel it

> I am starting to feel my depression set in. I hate this feeling. I

> dont want to get up and really have no energy to do so. I dont want

> to see anyone and I dont want to be alone. I want my kids to stay

> home, I want them to go to school. I can't face another day of

> cleaning this damn house. Jeff makes me feel like crap! I feel sick

> to my stomache and I am getting a dull headache that I know will

> last. I love the Fall. I used to love the Fall. Now it just means

> that a long winter is ahead and we wont be able to have the same type

> of fun I had when I was little. Jeff doesnt give a damn because he

> never did anything family-like as a child. He comes from a weird past

> I guess and then maybe not. I dont know. But if I even get the idea

> in my head that we should go to the mountains to get a christmas tree

> Jeff will find some reason not to go or just stall until it is too

> late! I hate this.

> Jacquie H

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Grace,

I am feeling better today. I decided that since I actually only

get back to sleep for a very little while after Alec leaves on the

bus then I would just stay up. It seems to help. But the winter can

be tough. As for the tree, WE ARE GOING! He can give me that much,

and he will pretend to like it damnit! LOL

Jacquie H

PS I wish I could get away so I could rest but right now is not a

good time. Maybe after the holidays.

- In parenting_autism@y..., " Grace Keh " <gracekeh@h...> wrote:

> Poor Jacquie.... you probably just need a whole lot of sleep. Not

sleeping

> a straight number of hours for 6 years is just impossible.

> Is there ANY way that you can maybe get 2 days off ALONE and just

hole

> yourself up in a room and SLEEP?

>

> As for the tree..... well, if he doesn't take you, then MAKE HIM!!

>

> Grace

> I am starting to feel it

>

>

> > I am starting to feel my depression set in. I hate this feeling. I

> > dont want to get up and really have no energy to do so. I dont

want

> > to see anyone and I dont want to be alone. I want my kids to stay

> > home, I want them to go to school. I can't face another day of

> > cleaning this damn house. Jeff makes me feel like crap! I feel

sick

> > to my stomache and I am getting a dull headache that I know will

> > last. I love the Fall. I used to love the Fall. Now it just means

> > that a long winter is ahead and we wont be able to have the same

type

> > of fun I had when I was little. Jeff doesnt give a damn because he

> > never did anything family-like as a child. He comes from a weird

past

> > I guess and then maybe not. I dont know. But if I even get the

idea

> > in my head that we should go to the mountains to get a christmas

tree

> > Jeff will find some reason not to go or just stall until it is too

> > late! I hate this.

> > Jacquie H

> >

> >

> >

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> >