Boundaries

[Guest guest]

Guys,

How do you know when its fleas or it's your right to assert yourself?

My nada claims to have been seeing a therapist, I'm not sure if she

actually is. Right before I went NC eleven days ago, she told me that

I was being disrespectful to my land lord by me telling her a story

and me saying " my landlord owes me money for me paying to get a new

mail " . When she said this, my head almost collapsed in itself. How can

she say something like this, after the arguments she's had on the

phone, at her office over nothing. Then a light bulb went off in my

head, her therapist is trying to get her to respect peoples

boundaries. Nada gets the advice from therapy and thinks everyone else

in the world can use this advice but her. I feel for this therapist,

he can't drive her out by diagnosing her, but has to sympathize with

her madness so he doesn't rile the beast. I don't carry the hope that

he can fix her; I've accepted my loss of her. This real messed me up

for a few days, I was scratching head saying " As I'm exploring these

new boundaries of assertiveness and loving myself, Nada's dissonance

is pushing me back into my hole. " I'm NC now, so I'm getting back to

that place of trusting myself and not scrutinizing everything I do or

say, trying to see/eradicate her legacy. It's fading fast.