Guest guest Posted September 30, 2007 Report Share Posted September 30, 2007 Dear Spill, All KOs (Kids of a BPD parent) find ways to deal with our stress. As you find better ways to deal with your mother, you may find that this picking will minimize, possibly go away completely. Don't berate your self because of this. It is the way your mind and body have helped you deal with your situation. Now that you have identified the cause, look for healthier ways of dealing with your mother. Keep on posting and reading. This site gives us an outlet, support, encouragement, motivation. Sylvia > > Not in the form of cutting, but if I have ablemish on my skin, I pick at it for as long as I can. > It's a compulsion that someone just recently brought to my attention as self-injury. I've been > doing it for seven years, since my adult problems with nada flourished. > > I am an in control person who is incredibly embarrassed to admit this. > > Nada has been living with me for over two years now, as many of you know. And she's > noticed them, and been horrified by them, and we've discussed the possibility that they're my > way of dealing with her " health problems. " > > Nothing changed. Nothing about her changed. What's more, she thinks it has something to > do with her bad back and other physical health ailments, and I think that feeds the BPD -- > makes her feel like the center of the universe. > > For most of my life, I've also struggled with anxiety and weight ... stress-induced asthma. > You name it. I've had it all my life. BPD nada made no changes to our lifestyle. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 30, 2007 Report Share Posted September 30, 2007 I'm embarassed to admit this, but I used to do this all the time. When I lived in the same house as nada, I think I always had a blemish on my face that i was picking at until it bled. I would scratch at pimples on my face, bite my lips, pick scabs, anything. It is a manifestation of anxiety. I never noticed it either - at one point my therapist asked me whether I pick at myself and I sort of thought 'doesn't everyone? " Anyway, I still do it once in a while. But my anxiety is a lot less after my therapist and LC, and it's under control - I don't walk around with big red spots on my face the way I used to. This sounds really tough, having your nada in the same house. ly, just a phone call from my nada is enough to get me scratching at any blemish I can find. Curiously, my nada has this problem - she used to have lesions all over her arms and legs. I can only assume that she has pretty horrendous anxiety herself. Heaven knows she spends enough time trying to make other people feel anxious. Sara > > Not in the form of cutting, but if I have ablemish on my skin, I pick at it for as long as I can. > It's a compulsion that someone just recently brought to my attention as self-injury. I've been > doing it for seven years, since my adult problems with nada flourished. > > I am an in control person who is incredibly embarrassed to admit this. > > Nada has been living with me for over two years now, as many of you know. And she's > noticed them, and been horrified by them, and we've discussed the possibility that they're my > way of dealing with her " health problems. " > > Nothing changed. Nothing about her changed. What's more, she thinks it has something to > do with her bad back and other physical health ailments, and I think that feeds the BPD -- > makes her feel like the center of the universe. > > For most of my life, I've also struggled with anxiety and weight ... stress-induced asthma. > You name it. I've had it all my life. BPD nada made no changes to our lifestyle. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 1, 2007 Report Share Posted October 1, 2007 > Not in the form of cutting, but if I have ablemish on my skin, I pick at it for as long as I can. > I have a spot at the nape of my neck that I have been scratching since about 2nd grade. I only recently started thinking of it as a form of self injury. My mother used to get so angry at me when she would catch me scratching, and she tried taking me to the dermatologist, but apparently my psychological need to tear off the skin is more intense than whatever physical condition might have started it all. I have noticed I scratch more when I am anxious, and I often even do it in my sleep. I am also a little masochistic, though it's gotten better over time...I used to mash on my bruises, and I always bite off sore spots on my tongue instead of just leaving them alone. I also have been treated for major depression & anxiety. kt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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