Guest guest Posted April 21, 2001 Report Share Posted April 21, 2001 I have a 1cm beezer. They wanted me to go in for the big " H " but I chickened out...They did not mention any other options. Andi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2001 Report Share Posted April 27, 2001 Goodmorning.... I wrote you a nice long letter yesterday and was just about to finish and send when we lost electricty...Damn...lost everything...and by the time it came back on I was too busy doing many other things...so I will try to get this one out.... I certainly hope that you never have to experience such a scene again....must have been terrifying for everyone....Unfortunately I have no real smart ideas for you situation though...My mind just seems to come up with these things when we are in a crisis....I think it works better under pressure....maybe not better but wierdier..if that is even a word.... I was talking to on Wed...his 23rd birthday...and I asked him if he remembered the event.....He said it is something he will never forget..Said it is strange how tramactic things stck in your mind...and then we started to laugh about what I had done so many years ago and how we still find humor in something that could have scarred him for life...instead we laugh together over it....He then asked me about the neighbors thinking I must have been nuts or something...I told him my concern is not what they thought of me but to save him....We all kind of have a sick sense of humor...My daughter is the only one who really has a hard time with both the boys having health problems...I think in one way its because from a young age she has watched both her younger brothers go thru so much and being a female (like us moms) feeling lost at how to help...and I think some might be from guilt that she has none of their problems....My husband and I used to joke about the fact that Thank God she was not one of the ones who had to go thru all this...She is a real chicken when it comes to doctors....once she had to get her finger pricked..for a blood test...She didn't cry but she so freaked that she would not bleed....the doctor was doing everything to make her bleed....was really pretty funny...But now she wants to be the live donor for Ty....I know in her heart which is sweet and pure that is what she wants to do...but I am not sure how she will do with the actual surgery and recovery....She has never been really been sick....just the common stuff.... I also don't know how I will handle both of them in the hosp with such serious stuff going on....Hopefully it will not have to come to that..... How is this weather for your allergies....The only thing Dani..(my daughter) has is alleries to oak trees when they are budding...She lives in Chicago so I figured she wouldn't have a hard time...But both her apartment and her office are aon tree lined side streets...so she is having some congestion....once the leaves are out she gets better.... Well I want to send this before something stupid happens here again....and I loose this.... Take care.... Luanne Ty's mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2001 Report Share Posted April 27, 2001 Something just came to me....for the hopefully NOT next time.... grab small child or cat and place in your lap...Blame it on them....LOL Not great but better than nothing.... If they are not available...get your husband to sit on your lap....blame him....anything but you.....LOL... Luanne Ty's mom PS...don't tell your husband I said this.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2001 Report Share Posted May 1, 2001 Hey Maureen... All these Taurus sons....and my husbands birthday was the 28th...what a bunch of BULL....... Dani has decided to finally get to the doctor....she is still feeling bad and her job is very demanding...so hopefully they will be able to give her something to make her feel better.... I have a counsin who as a kid lived in Florida and suffered from asthma...when she got older she became a "Dead Head"...follower of the Grateful Dead....when she got out to Denver area she couldn't believe how great she felt...she is now 30 and has lived out there for a couple of years....and really has no problems....Not sure why because they still have flowers and trees but maybe the high altitude has something to do with it.... No surprises from you.....stay feeling good and breathing.... By the way how is Jim....we get carried away sometimes and forget all about poor Jim...just don't tell him....LOL.... Have a nice day... Luanne Ty's mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2001 Report Share Posted May 23, 2001 Maureen, I am neither- wise or kind. You said, “if one uses the marriage bed as the measuring stick. i don't.” Ok, if you don’t use the marriage bed as a measuring stick why Are you constantly complaining about it? For crying out loud the guy has a fatal Disease, he’s facing death, he doesn’t feel well, and all you do is bitch cause your Not getting any! I think you should rethink the vows you took. “For better or worse, In sickness and in health.” And you better damn well think about all the spouses In this group who have lost their partners. Spring, Steve, Lynn, Denver. I dare say They would give anything to just “see” their soul mates one more time. Sex is important But you better get off the pity pot by yourself and start thinking about someone else for a change. Grow up! He’s sick, and doesn’t feel like it. And yes, this is Barb in Texas. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2001 Report Share Posted May 23, 2001 Barb, I think you are being harsh. It isn't about sex. Its about reciprocal appreciation and recognizing and meeting your partner's emotional needs. Reaching out and holding hands - a hug - a hand on the shoulder are surely things that a person that can remodel a house is still be capable of doing. These little things can be very uplifting when there and a real downer when they never seem to come. Tim R __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2001 Report Share Posted May 23, 2001 >Sex is important not always. dd Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2001 Report Share Posted May 24, 2001 >>it HAS to be that he's dealing with so much mentally, how he withdraws into >>himself, chooses the silent road... and let's not forget he probably feels >>pretty rotten physically, pretty much all of the time. i wouldn't want to >>be in his shoes. Maureen Yes, this is exactly what you should be thinking, (guess my post helped!) why didn’t you say that first? Don’t you think he knows that he is letting everyone down? Don’t you think he regrets not being able to do things around the house like he used to? Not be “up” to doing things for and with you and the kids? Not earning as much money? How many times has any person with PSC said: “I’m sorry?” I’m sorry you have to wait while I have these tests, sorry you have to drive me. Sorry you have to take care of me. Sorry I can’t stay up and watch TV with you. Sorry you worked so long on this meal and I don’t feel like eating it. Sorry you have to sit with me for hours in the E.R. Sorry you are so worried. Sorry I just don’t feel like it. You may of course feel any way you like. For me, I don’t feel like I have a right to complain about one single thing. How can I when it is THEY who are going through so much more then any person should? Someone telling you to pull yourself up by your boot-straps is not the end of the world. Sympathy didn’t work the last time. >>> because i spend a great deal of my time in this support group trying to encourage others, (something you are loathe to do, it seems... Your 100% right. I never have a kind word, I’m never supportive, so now what? I am as always Barb in Texas. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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