1st post... help coping with bpd mother She is killing me with words

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oh ..where to begin? I discovered BPD about 2 years ago, there are

3 girls in my family. My mother can NEVER get along with the 3 of

us at the same time. One of us is always on the OUTS and she is

constantly spewing her venom about that person to the other 2. Well

it has been my turn for the last month, which means she will have

nothing to do with my children 7 & 9 who simply adore her. My sisters

tell her , You know you could at least call the kids? her response

is " when they are old enough they will see what kind of mother they

have " ...

Well i guess i should tell you what ticked her off this time...did i

look at her the wrong way? nope not this time...This time i was in

the middle.... I own a small shop, my shop is not doing well but i

have a lease so i have to make due. This means spending hours

trying to make ends meet. To say the least i am stressed out. I

have a friend who works for credit a few days a week. Well long

story short...she wanted my mom to cut her hair, (mom is a

hairdresser) well my mother called her to set up appt, and left a

message. Well my friend did not call her back to 5 days. (she never

got the message) Well for 5 days i heard from my mom " i dont have to

be treated like this!, who does she think she is! , i will not cut

her hair now...etc

I told my friend that my mom was too busy to do it, she said, i love

your mom, she has too...I asked my mom again , telling her how

uncomfortable she would make it the next time the 3 of us were

together, (probally 2x per wk), Her response? Well i never have to

set foot in your store again. Well i finally had to say to my

friend that she will not do it because you did not call her back ,

well she wanted to call and apologize even though she did not get

the message. I said , i dont think that is a good idea. But she

went ahead anyway. What happened?? Well my mother ripped her up

one side and down the other, even to the point to tell her that her

husband was rude on the phone. Well when i arrived at my shop my

friend was in tears and quiting .

I call my mother and said " was your rant worth it ma? now she is

quitting? I will have to work 6 f*%$#en days a week? " Her fist

words to me were....I will never speak to you again, you never have

to speak to me again , we dont have to be in each others lives, we

do not get along etc...

I am so hurt and now 1 sister keeps calling me to tell me things

that my mom is saying.....(i know this is not good) today she told

me that my mother is selling some assets to split with her and my 2

other sisters, i know this is all to hurt me. I am sick and tired

of my mother holding her wealth over us. Sorry to be

rambling...any help, criticism will be appreciated.

thanks for reading.........