Guest guest Posted February 23, 2006 Report Share Posted February 23, 2006 I have had a hard time coming here these past few days. It finally hit me why. My nada, dishrag and I all share our birthdays in the same week. They are all next week. I hate this time of year. It brings up so much crap. Funny - this is worse than nc at xmas for me. You know - I actually forgot my birthday last year. Seriously. Every year was the same. Some big family blow-up would cause fada to " miss " his bday (which comes first). Usually lots of fighting that nada says we ko's always started and fada would end up in his room for the night. My bday (next) was a constant battle with nada. Wrong cake/presents and such - when her passive/agressive behavior was in peak form. I know, petty stuff but it was just more power struggle than anything else. Also - because we were usually broke - it was a good time for nada to make me feel guilty about having to spend sooo much money with all our bdays. Nada's comes last. She'd complain that she got the short end of the stick because we already ate nice dinners/had cake on ours. God - what a friggin joke it all was. Sorry for the ramble. Just wanted to vent. I was too caught up in the craziness before nc to fully appreciate how much I dread the beginning of March. I miss my fada - regardless of what's happened (though not enough to go back) and hate that this is probably his last birthday. Plus my son turns 3 next week too. I didn't realized I would be this emotional. Anyway - end of pity party for one (lol), Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 24, 2006 Report Share Posted February 24, 2006 Hi , I hope you and your son both have Happy Birthdays. JMO, but this seems like a situation where starting new traditions may help you heal from this part of your past. Please make sure to take special care of yourself at this time - you are still healing from trama. Sylvia > > I have had a hard time coming here these past few days. It finally > hit me why. My nada, dishrag and I all share our birthdays in the > same week. They are all next week. I hate this time of year. It > brings up so much crap. Funny - this is worse than nc at xmas for me. > > You know - I actually forgot my birthday last year. Seriously. > > Every year was the same. Some big family blow-up would cause fada to > " miss " his bday (which comes first). Usually lots of fighting that > nada says we ko's always started and fada would end up in his room for > the night. My bday (next) was a constant battle with nada. Wrong > cake/presents and such - when her passive/agressive behavior was in > peak form. I know, petty stuff but it was just more > power struggle than anything else. Also - because we were usually > broke - it was a good time for nada to make me feel guilty about > having to spend sooo much money with all our bdays. Nada's comes > last. She'd complain that she got the short end of the stick because > we already ate nice dinners/had cake on ours. God - what a friggin > joke it all was. > > Sorry for the ramble. Just wanted to vent. I was too caught up in > the craziness before nc to fully appreciate how much I dread the > beginning of March. I miss my fada - regardless of what's happened > (though not enough to go back) and hate that this is probably his last > birthday. Plus my son turns 3 next week too. I didn't realized I > would be this emotional. > > Anyway - end of pity party for one (lol), > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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