What would you do?

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Hi:

It's been a while since I posted here...I have a question I hope

some of you can offer insight on..

About six years ago, I bought my first house and my mother gave me

my grandmother's china cabinet, along with some of her crystal and

knick knacks. These items mean a lot to me, as my grandmother

passed away several years ago, and I loved her very much. My

mother, on the other hand, has always made it very clear that she

hated my grandmother (her mother), even after her death. These

items are not really for use, but for looking at and remembering.

I am now NC and I have not spoken to her in almost a year. I have

let her know that I want no further contact, yet she continues to

harass me with letters and emails, asking for old pictures, dishes,

money that she feels I owe her (and I don't owe anything). I know

that this is a tactic to hurt me and I am tired of it. I just want

her to leave me and my family alone.

Recently, she asked for the return of the items in the china

cabinet. I consulted with an attorney and was told that legally, I

am not obligated to return them, which is a relief, but he said that

getting a restraining order would probably not be possible.

I have blocked her phone number so I don't get calls from her. I

have returned most of the mail I have received or I have thrown it

away although now I am keeping copies in a file just in case she

decides to " get legal " . Her notes and emails pretty much paint a

picture of someone with BPD. I am pretty sure that her disorder was

documented in her chart about two years ago during a hospital stay

for a surgery she had. My brother told me that the last time she was

admitted to the hospital for her hip replacement, that she asked the

check-in person to " please remove that 'BPD' from my chart - I don't

have that " or something to that affect, so I know that she's been

informed one way or another that she has the disorder.

Have any of you ever written a " legal-like " letter stating that you

want no further contact? If so, what exactly did you say? Should I

mention the fact that I know of her diagnosis of BPD? Can any of

you share the " template " of your letters (omitting dates, names,

etc)?

Thank you for any advice,

cb