Re: Teen reaction to nada

[Guest guest]

Faith,

That's beautiful. I'm happy for you and your family. Stories that

illustrate the BP cycle being broken are especially helpful for my healing

and are such a joy for me to read. Thanks for sharing.

One Non-BP Recovering Man

--- faithopefarm wrote:

> DD got a card from nada this week for her bday. I was curious how

> she'd react as she received a card the same day from another

> grandparent. She opened 1st card from grandparent it was a cute card

> and grandparents wrote a cute little note to her, she loved it and

> hugged the card. She opened nada's card, saw a check and said I'll

> keep the money and threw the card in the garbage. I talked w/her

> later and she is so upset w/nada because of how nada treated me and

> the rest of the family and how nada acts like nothing ever happened.

> I told her nada believes she's been forgiven by God and I cannot

> question that. I can only tell dd that everyday I struggle with

> forgiving nada and all the he** she's put my family through. But I

> also won't put my family in the situation nada's has put us in ever

> again. She wanted nada to stop acting so sickening sweet as it

> scares her after she saw and heard all the lies, and screaming and

> threats toward me from nada. I told her this is why we aren't

> visiting nada and why we won't invite her over for holidays etc.. I

> asked her if that's okay with her and she said YES I really don't

> want to be around her or her new husband. I told her I highly doubt

> nada will ever apologize for her behavior and that's hard for me to

> swallow, but I can count on a blessing from this. DD said what

> blessing. I asked her if mom & dad ever treated her like nada

> treated us. She said no thank goodness you don't. I promised her we

> would not do that to her or her siblings, and I am so thankful our

> eyes were opened to what was happening and we do not have to put up

> w/nada behavior. It's sad it has to be this way but I am finally

> finding peace in this whole situation.

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