Re: She found us!!!!!!!!

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I checked with an atty and the Department of Family Services prior

to going nc. In my state, grandparents have certain rights....but

they are only granted in exceedingly rare circumstances. They will

have to prove that dd would suffer without a relationship with them.

Hmmm....don't see that happening!

> > > > Hello everyone.

> > > > As the phrase goes, " calm comes before a storm. " I

should

> > have heeded that. After months of nc, and after having blocked

> > nada's e-mail address, I was finally starting to feel relieved

> and,

> > dare I say, safe. Well, not after today.

> > > > About 45 minutes ago, there was a knock at my front

door.

> I

> > was rather shocked to find nada, stepfada, and my nephew

standing

> > there. She whined, wheedled, and even pulled out the, " I don't

> > understand. Why are you punishing me???? " Eventually, she even

> > claimed that in the last few months of nc, she had almost

> committed

> > suicide. She begged to see dd, and said that I was hurting dd by

> not

> > allowing them to see her. I told her that if she wanted to see

her

> > in a supervised situation, I had no problem with that. But that

> > evidently wasn't good enough, and they wanted to take her for a

> > weekend. I stood my ground, and said no. Then stepfada

threatened

> me

> > with suing for gp rights. I still stood my ground. nada started

> > crying, doing the typical BP nada things...saying she loved me,

> just

> > wanted what was best for me, and that she wanted to see " Her "

> > grandchild. I still stood up for myself. She tried to hug me,

and

> I

> > said that I didn't want a hug. She tried to make me feel guilty

> for

> > everything

> > > > that I have done in order to keep my family and myself safe

> > from her. I still didn't falter. I told her that I do love them,

> but

> > I cannot have a relationship with them as long as there is this

> kind

> > of tension and stress, and that I have to do what is best for

me,

> > and my daughter, and my husband. In the end, she and stepfada

gave

> > up, without seeing dd, and left, calling me coldhearted, and

> saying

> > that they now have other recourse. Well, I guess I am

> > coldhearted...or maybe they are mistaking coldhearted for

> something

> > else. Strength, perhaps? I am feeling so much stronger now than

I

> > ever have before in regards to nada. I do, however, expect to be

> > served papers because they will try to sue. Hmmm....wonder if I

> can

> > get an attorney and subpoena nada's psych records? And...will

the

> e-

> > mails she sent me be allowed as evidence? I have some serious

> > questions that need answers. Hopefully I can get them soon.

> > > > I am sure you are wondering how they got my address.

> Well,

> > they had been listed as a reference at one point on our car loan

> > application. Evidently, the car company was trying to get ahold

of

> > us, and they called nada and stepfada...and the two of them

asked

> > for our address. Guess what? THE CAR COMPANY TOLD THEM!! So, it

> > looks like someone broke privacy laws. If I am not mistaken, it

is

> a

> > $150,000 fine for a HIPAA violation. Wonder how that will sit

with

> > them????

> > > >

> > > > Anyone have any advice on how I can avoid further nada

> > blindsides??????

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

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