Guest guest Posted February 11, 2006 Report Share Posted February 11, 2006 You go, girl! I must say that there really isn't time to forgive if you still have to watch your back. I think that I might like to " forgive " someday--but it can't happen until I feel really protected from further abuse. . .not quite there yet and I'm not sure how I want to get there-- so forgiveness for me is a long way off. When I do feel ready to forgive, I think that like said, it will be for me, for my health. And I think it will look something like Sylvia's " letting go. " It certainly will not involve a teary conversation a hug and/or any kind of reconciliation. Your chainsaw analogy made sense to me--as long as I feel attacked, I will not be able to forgive I will only be able to think about protecting myself. This whole thing reminds me of something that happened to me a few months ago. I was trying this therapy technique where you get in touch with your " child " at some point in your life and try to sooth it and explain things if possible. I tried telling my child that nada was just pathetic and that you could really almost feel sorry for her--and my child was not happy! My child is still angry at and terrified of my nada. And she is right because what I really need now is to not have to keep worrying about random acts of cruelty. So thanks for repeating yourself, because it was before my time! Trish > > > > > > Has anyone here had the guts to *forgive* what happened? Because > > > sometimes I have a REAL problem there, even though I know I > don't have > > > a choice if I am going to 'get over' Yeti. > > > > > > ……..I feel that I could forgive the past if the present and > future held > > > more promise. The thoughts of a continuing relationship with > nada is > > > so destructive to my inner core. To me the deepest sorrow is > that when > > > nada does her thing I want to really hurt her with cruel words > (just > > > like she has done to me so many times) and it would accomplish > > > nothing. And I if did say nasty crap to her, then she can play > the > > > poor me routine and go around crying to anyone that will lend an > ear. > > > I know that it does not matter if I am kind or if I am > neglectful, I am > > > still not a person in her eyes, only a possession. Still > struggling, mg > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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