what would you do?

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Hi everyone,

I just received an email from an old friend. Someone I went nc with

the same time I did with nada. This isn't the first time she has

reached out to me but it has been a while.

She was one of my closest friends but I wonder if my fleas were

responsible for attracting me to her. We were very tight together but

my biggest issue was her uncanny ability to drop out of sight at the

worst moments. Ie: When I got married she dropped out of being a

bridesmaid because the dress cost too much. I offered to pay for it

but she declined. No real reason. Then I found out she was planning

a trip across the country. Not during my wedding but after ???? She

attended the wedding but sat in the back and we didn't talk much.

Then, she came back in to my life for a while until I got pregnant

with my ds. Not even one phone call after he was born. I called her

and she barely mentioned my kid. She had a habit of calling just when

she needed her best bud to lift her up.

Sometimes she would just say the most inappropriate things too. Like

after she had laser eye surgery I said maybe i'd look into it too.

Her response was I'd be 50 before I could afford something like that.

WTF?

I don't really think it was purposeful. I think she has had issues of

her own. I was very angry at her at the same time all the sh** hit

the fan with my nada and foo. I couldn't deal with her jealousy or

resentment or whatever it was!

Would you reconnect with an old friend like that? Maybe just to tell

her why you no longer wish to remain friends. Or even give her

another chance (on my terms of course)?

Am I being petty? I feel bad for even remembering all the things she

did " wrong " in such detail. Like I've been waiting and cataloguing a

list of how she did me wrong - LOL. Maybe that's another one of my

fleas. Nada would hold on and carry any little thing she thought had

been done against her and pulled it out in every rage. I feel silly

like maybe I am holding on to a grudge.

Thanks,