Re: A note about parenting...

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That's beautiful. Thanks. Enjoy giving and receiving the love you

deserve.

One Non-BP Recovering Man

--- mkatplustwo wrote:

> There has been a lot of talk lately about our lack of mothering and

> how we still crave that lost attention and affection.

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> I am alone this week while my dh in away on business and my dk's & I

> have been housebound with colds.

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> Last night, I tucked in my little boy and settled in on the couch with

> my baby girl. I just couldn't take my eyes off her. I think I spent

> the better part of an hour memorizing every part of her face. I am

> amazed at the love I have for my kids. I just ADORE them. No other

> kids could be more beautiful to me. It feels like the one instance

> where it is physically possible for a human being to explode.

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> My point is that a love like this would have been wonderful to have

> had with a mother. I grieve the little baby I was who didn't

> experience what my kids do...BUT...I feel like this love does exist

> and it exists in and through me. It is the same love I should have

> had, just in a new form. I feel lucky & greatful to be part of an

> experience that is so much greater than myself.

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> I am not suggesting people run out and have babies to experience this

> love...I just want to reassure those sitting on the fence about

> whether or not this is something you want, or even deserve, that while

> it won't fill the whole left by nada but there is something miraculous

> that happens in it's stead.

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> We are capable of giving what we have not received. It is surprising

> to me that it took my becoming a mother to finally experience what I

> missed as a child. It is possible to bind yourself to another life

> without it being unhealthy, all consuming and irresponsible.

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> I almost didn't have this. I was very scared.

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> " ultimately we know deeply that the other side of fear is freedom "

> Marilyn Ferguson.

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