enabler

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I agree with most of what you said, but cannot throw stuff away in front of

her.

Pizza was my idea. She just agreed to it. She has been really good for the most

part. she just gets these ice cream cravings. I agree that she is in denial. The

ice cream cravings run in her family. One of her brothers cannot have it in the

house He is in good shape and others are not. He wants to stay that way. so he

drives about 20m to sister's house every sunday has one bowl then drives home.

The whole family is ice cream crazy.

I was doing so well but today it shot up to 192- by this evening it was down to

153. Still high! Been walking three times this last week. Increase it to four

this week.

Mike

Mike

[Guest guest]

Hi Mike,

I also have a hard time throwing food out so I allow myself a small piece then I

give it away, if I have any leftovers of something I find particularly tempting.

For example the rest of the birthday cake & ice cream. Instead I take my

scooter to the mall to get an ice cream cone when I have the urge. Sometimes by

the time I get there I'm interested in other things and forget about the cone.

Last time I hit a garage sale on my way. (Maybe you could walk together) My

husband and I find walking together very enjoyable. Even though I'm using the

scooter now, there are some nice trails along the dykes here, that we, as well

as the dog enjoy. Try using the ice cream cone as an incentive. Once you get

out and feel good again you may not want the cone.

Your wife should not be blamed or picked on because that won't help her or you.

She will do what she has to do when it is right for her. In the meantime you

have to realize that YOU are the only person that can keep YOU healthy. If she

were bringing in food that SHE didn't eat then I would agree that she was an

enabler. If she had a specific food allergy would that mean that you also would

have to give up that food?

I KNOW it is so very hard to get started, but I keep trying and eventually I

will get it right.

I can't believe how stupid I was today. I have been waiting over a month for

the Diabetic Drop-in Clinic today and I got company and forgot all about it.

I'm still kicking myself. Some might say that I forgot on purpose but honestly

I didn't. Now I have to wait until the end of September.

I am glad to hear from all of you.

~~~Faye~~~

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Mike Wells wrote:

<< ... she just gets these ice cream cravings. I agree that she is in

denial. The ice cream cravings run in her family ... I was doing so well but

today it shot up to 192- by this evening it was down to 153. Still high!

Been walking three times this last week. Increase it to four this week. >>

Usually the foods we crave the most are the ones that do the biggest whammy

on our glucose levels. Here is an idea: insist on finger-sticking her every

time she goes for one of the " problem foods " because you are so worried

about her glucose levels. That may be an inducement not to bring them home,

to tempt you. Mike, here is a sobering fact: It takes only one month of high

readings to cause you damage ... and a whole year of good control to reverse

that damage ... and not all damage is reversible. Have your wife read all

about erectile dysfunction ... that might induce her to help you maintain

better control ... :x

Ice cream doesn't have to be all that bad. I just found an Eskimo brand ice

cream that was Nutrasweetened and low-fat ... 15 grams/serving. And a local

brand sells one that is fat-free and Nutrasweetened. The trick is to be able

to stop at a small quantity. And if it is a full-fat variety, you must not

eat other carbs like cookies with it, because the fats sustain the " sugar

high " from the carbs and keep your glucose levels up there for hours. If you

do spike, better to get it over with. Now, a baked potato can be worse for

you than a cup of sugar. And the same with pasta. And the milk sugars in

low-fat milk can be very troublesome as well.

I think you would benefit from at least a week of really bearing down on

this ... get some really good readings, and drop some weight ... and then

you will be so excited about your progress that you won't want to fall off

the wagon. (If you drop all the way down into the ketogenic range, you can

shed 5-15 lbs. of water weight in the first week or so.) But you must keep

from being derailed. Some people even lock their " problem foods " up in a

trunk, etc., so they won't be tempted to blow their program. As I mentioned,

I found items in the frozen foods section that are worse than sweets - in

the 45-60 grams/serving range. If you aren't a fanatic about checking

labels, you may be having trouble from foods you don't even suspect.

Susie

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Yeah, Mike, but the below sentence is just another way of denying. See,

you're placing the blame for the " ice cream weakness " on a family trait.

When ultimately, the person responsible for putting that spoonful of icecream

--obviously a no-no-- into your mouth is YOU. ! (or HER)

We want you both to overcome this, Mike...it's serious business. Is a dish of

icecream worth the painful neuropathy Susie talked about? Or heart disease?

Or blindness? Or amputation? Please think about this! Vicki

PS: Did you check your wife's blood sugar as Susie suggested?

In a message dated 99-08-30 23:31:39 EDT, you write:

<< The ice cream cravings run in her family. One of her brothers cannot have

it in the house He is in good shape and others are not. He wants to stay that

way. so he drives about 20m to sister's house every sunday has one bowl then

drives home. The whole family is ice cream crazy. >>