What was the best thing you did for yourselves?

[Guest guest]

It seems every time I turn around, I realize how growing up with BPD

in the family has affected me--usually negatively-- and how I have

things to work on.

I've found I needed to teach myself to care for myself physically in

the face of stress because my nada would make me keep going/working

whether I was sick or whatever and I was just keeping up the pace on

my own--even without her around.

I've found I need to learn new social skills because in regular

families, people talk and listen--it's not just a competition for

attention.

I've learned that my fear of asserting myself to normal people is

unfounded because regular folks will usually not attack you

verbally, physically or professionally when you disagree or stick up

for yourself.

I've learned that people who really love each other do not purposely

try to hurt one another because they are angry (although I really

suspected my poor husband of doing that on several occasions because

that is what I expected him to do.)

I'd like to know what you all have learned from yourselves that you

didn't get from your BP parents. What things did you do to make

yourselves better and happier? What do you wish you had learned?

Trish