Guest guest Posted December 31, 2004 Report Share Posted December 31, 2004 Chelle It's a sign that it's time to get yourself together and GONE. You did the right thing by not caving in. I think you would have regretted it later. All you can do is work toward what you need to be gone. Your husband can blame whatever but if he was a true husband he'd work with you on your problems--not use WLS as the excuse. Good luck in whatever you decide! > I know this is probably going to sound a bit cheesy but as most of you know I've been MAJOR STRESSED and a big chicken about starting a new life. So much so I almost just gave in and decided to stay married because of my fears and lack of confidence in myself and my abilities. The past few days I have spent a lot of time in prayer and just asking for guidance. So last night I tossed and turned couldnt sleep.....finally did and had a dream about what life would > be like out of this situation. And I woke up smiling and very much at peace and knew I was making the right decision. Does that sound totally crazy?? Or was it really the guidance I was asking for. I'm sure I'm still going to have those moments of total panic show their ugly heads every once in awhile. My husband also sealed the deal for me in my head. Get this.... we are talking about how and why things arent working for us. He completely blames the surgery. > I have absolutely no sex drive and dont want it or to be touched. So yesterday he says to me. I tell you what I'm going to be so pissed in two years if you meet someone and make him happy. It wont be fair that he gets the skinny you and didnt have to go through any of the hard times when I was the one who took care of you and I was the one who loved you while you were fat. What the !@#$% is that???? I just dont get him!!! Is that suppose to make me want to stay? Oh well what can ya do? So I'm definately looking forward to 2005!!! > > Keep your fingers crossed for me too, 1 more pound until I reach the Century > Club!!! Woohoo!! > > Have a good one. > > Chelle > 355/256/140 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2004 Report Share Posted December 31, 2004 Men are so weird!!! I think they just don't know how to communicate!! Maybe he meant it as a complement??????? I'm glad that you are at peace about it Chelle. I truly hope it all works out for you. BIG HUGS!!! > I know this is probably going to sound a bit cheesy but as most of you know > I've been MAJOR STRESSED and a big chicken about starting a new life. So much > so I almost just gave in and decided to stay married because of my fears and > lack of confidence in myself and my abilities. The past few days I have spent a > lot of time in prayer and just asking for guidance. So last night I tossed > and turned couldnt sleep.....finally did and had a dream about what life would > be like out of this situation. And I woke up smiling and very much at peace > and knew I was making the right decision. Does that sound totally crazy?? Or > was it really the guidance I was asking for. I'm sure I'm still going to have > those moments of total panic show their ugly heads every once in awhile. My > husband also sealed the deal for me in my head. Get this.... we are talking > about how and why things arent working for us. He completely blames the surgery. > I have absolutely no sex drive and dont want it or to be touched. So > yesterday he says to me. I tell you what I'm going to be so pissed in two years if > you meet someone and make him happy. It wont be fair that he gets the skinny you > and didnt have to go through any of the hard times when I was the one who > took care of you and I was the one who loved you while you were fat. What the > !@#$% is that???? I just dont get him!!! Is that suppose to make me want to > stay? Oh well what can ya do? So I'm definately looking forward to 2005!!! > > Keep your fingers crossed for me too, 1 more pound until I reach the Century > Club!!! Woohoo!! > > Have a good one. > > Chelle > 355/256/140 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2005 Report Share Posted January 1, 2005 LMAO you crack me up girl!!!!! Thanks for your input. And yes I normally need something to hit me over the head. LOL It's called red headed stubborness. Chelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2005 Report Share Posted January 1, 2005 Thanks sweetie. I really dont think it's hormonal. I think that he's treated me the way he has for so long and finally as my new self immerges I just know there is better out there. Make sense? Chelle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2005 Report Share Posted January 1, 2005 Thank you .......I'm just a bundle of weird emotions and I know alot of it is learning and meeting my new self as it emmerges. Have a Happy New Year!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 1, 2005 Report Share Posted January 1, 2005 Chelle, <<finally as my new self immerges I just know there is better out there. Make sense?>> Makes total sense. We pick the same kind of person over and over depending upon how we feel about ourselves. The better our self-esteem and self-worth, the better the self-esteem and the self-worth of the person we choose. It's like some kind of cosmic karma <g>. When I look at what I used to date before I got married, I would tell my former self to run as fast as she could before getting involved. When I made a conscious effort to feel good about me, I found my husband of 20 years. Rather, I allowed him into my life. It is not an easy process or a pain-free one, but you are so on the right track. I loved your dream and definitely think it was a sign <g>. Hugs to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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