A visit to Nada turns sour.

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Oy, My fiancee and I decided to make a visit to my parents again.

They had been bugging me about coming to pick up some christmas

gifts. I figured the only way to get rid of them is to go there and

then disappear again. Anywho, the evening was going as well as can

be expected. In fact, I was more comfortable this time. Then my

nada asks when I am going to see my niece. I say I will make some

time for it next week. She then goes into attack mode and asks why I

need to schedule time and whether I would do the same thing when my

fiancee's sister had her chold or would I go to the hospital. I went

into my protection and said nothing. I did not wnat to bite into

it. She then turned to my fiancee and asked what she though. I knew

that was just an attempt to start a fight. Thats when I jumped in.

I stated that I found it ironic that they would be so concerned about

me seeing her now, when they felt no need to tell me my sister was

ever pregnant. Of course, this could be easily explained by stating

that since I had commented on how I felt I was being attacked but my

nada's multiple calling, that she was afraid to call me and tell me.

I saw that as strange. I mean, you could, oh I don't know. Leave a

message or write an e-mail, or whatever. Yet that seemed to be

missed as opportunity. I finally got up and said we were leaving and

stated that I wanted them to never contact me again and just leave me

alone.

When I went to leave, my ndada grab my arm...much in the same way

back last january. my fiancee turned and yelled at her to let me

go. My nada then wwnt to yell at ther to let her talk to her son,

Thats when I stepped in her face and yelled at her to talk to me and

leave her out of it. We went back in forth a little a bit. I got an

addmitance of mistakes, yet it was for mistakes SHE felt SHE made and

not the ones that alienated me. How convienent, eh? We ended

quietly. I said I would send her an e-mail with my grievances and

call my sister about my niece. I may still do that.

To see her react the way she did when I tried to leave was a

lightbulb moment. She seemed litterally terrified at me leaving the

family for good and never coming back. I know I have read similar

stories, but actually expericing that part was " WOW. " She was afraid

of being abandoned and was just about willing to admit guilt to keep

me around. It was amazing to see.

Oh yeah, one thing that bugged me abut the whole things was when my

nada was talking to me, she keppt looking over my shoulder at my

fiancee. She couldn't even look at me when we talked. It was always

towards her. My fiancee and I figure my nada is afaird her of her.

who knows. All I know is that I am glad I didn't get my hopes up

this time about a possible mending.