Guest guest Posted January 4, 2006 Report Share Posted January 4, 2006 I'm fascinated by reading these posts. My three siblings and I have only discovered in the last six months that our mother suffers from " BPD. " Coming in to adulthood, we knew that there was a twisted problem that we could somewhat predict and we all instinctively obliged. However, none of us knew it had a name and none of us remotely suspected that there was even ONE other person in the world like her. To discover that she is not the only one behaving has she does.. means that we're not the only ones who suffer either. It has been surreal. Growing up we assumed that all mothers behaved that way. I read the book THE BORDERLINE MOTHER with awe, as our mother is a Queen Mother to a " T. " I've skimmed STOP WALKING ON EGGSHELLS and am now doing the corresponding workbook. I've joined a female support group for non-BPDs with my older sister working through Cloud's book on Healing Hurts. I'm continuing to seek counseling occasionally when things come up with my mom that need calibration. And I have a book to give my mom called THE ANGRY HEART if I ever feel like she may be receptive to identifying herself as a BPD. My primary goal is to learn as much as I can so that I don't subject my children to her and so that I don't mirror any BPD behaviors that I learned growing up. It is like starting my journey " home " from some unknown place in the world. It is hard to know where to start, what direction I should begin, etc. Thanks for your posts! Kristi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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