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nope kat you can't be the meanest mom on the planet ... I AM...

my kids are convinced i am the worst meanest and that i hate them

since i just wont let them do ANYTHING.....wont allow martha to go

to the skating rink unsupervised... but mom the cops are there...

yeah one of the cops is in jail for raping a girl ... that he was

there to protect, but mom ALL my friends go and stay all night!

guess what you dont.... but mom why cant i go to the mall? i wont

even go there its so horrid... robberies shootings ect.... mom why

cant i color my hair get fake nails EVERYONE is doing it mom.... you

are such a ... mumble jumble... and i say... yes dear and one day

you will be too when YOUR little girl wants to do this insane crap.

(son too) hes soon to be 17 and just in the last 2 years allowed

out with friends... hes 6 feet tall nearly 300 pounds quite capable

of taKING CARE OF HIMSELF BUT I STILL WORRRY... damn cap

loc...anyway... tell your gal she best be DAMN glad shes yours and

NOT mine cause you sound like the mom from heaven compaired to me...

i posted a sign on my fridge it says....TEENAGERS!!if you are tired

of being hassled by unreasonable parents NOW IS THE TIME FOR ACTION!

Leave home pay your own way while you still know everything....

ohhh tell her this... my son will be 17 in less than a month... we

have 3 vehicles... he has a drivers lisence... i am forced to pay

for insurance on him but, HE DOES NOT DRIVE, he has no job he has no

money so he DOES NOT USE OUR AUTOMOBILES! NO TIME NO WAY NO HOW!

so you my dear KAt have NOTHING ON ME I AM THE MEANEST MOM ON THE

PLANET! i have taken EVERYTHING from my kids rooms (made them carry

it) to the burn hole and set if afire and made sure they watched it

all burn, i have NOT replaced it... the LAW states i have to see

that you have a place to sleep food to eat and clothes to wear until

you are 17 but the place you sleep does not have to have a bed the

food does not have to be fancy and the clothes ARE NOT expensive...

can we say WALMART... sigh sorry i am babbeling but i hold my crown

of meanest mom on the planet very near and dear to my heart..

and KAt dont distress the step kids sound like good kids and i am

POSITIVE it will be hard but i think it will be done with style and

grace... my step son is a good man he was 10 when his father and i

got together... he is now 27... so... it does work out...

love you and bbig hugs...

Peach

>

> Ok this is a dually sided post. First, I have been fighting with

my

> 14 yr old who is convinced Im the worst mother in the world

because

> I won't buy her $15 shampoo and $20 conditioner for her hair. Hell

I

> dont buy that for MYSELF! Then she carries on to the next

> subject..her nails. She has acrylics put on..knowing full well I

> refuse to be responsible for keeping her nails up when she put

them

> on. Hell I have a house to run and can't buy clothing for us all

and

> she wants nails! ugh. Ok so in her eyes Im an evil demon. See

> tonight I bought a pizza for my son and his friends for dinner,

and

> she got mad since I could have used it on her shampoo! So what

> right? Well deep down in her soul I know she loves me but she just

> behaves like an ungrateful monster..and frankly I dont know how

she

> got this way.

>

> Then..my fiance's daughter...she is turning 13 next month does

this

> amazing thing. See he lives in Mass. I live in Cali..so we have

> spent a lot of time together but usually in one place or another.

> Ive only had the opportunity of spending ONE evening with his

> kids...all well mannered, all raised with a silver spoon in their

> mouths, kids from a father who makes a very decent living and

> supports two households..his, and his exwife and kids. They are

> happy kids and little knock offs of two very good parents.

>

> In the mail today, I received a card from his daughter. The last

and

> only encounter I had with his kids didn't go very well because he

> did not forewarn them they were meeting me on his birthday. They

> apparently were upset that he didn't talk to them first and they

> felt uncomfortable. They were still polite..just avoided eye

contact

> and conversation with me. This was a few years ago and the kids

feel

> terrible about it. I hold no grudges. I probably would have

reacted

> the same way to some stranger interrupting our family celebration.

> Anyway, tonight I get a card. In it is a broken necklace and

> earrings..Im sure weren't broken when she bought them for me but

> were very inexpensive and didn't hold up during shipping. I wish

> they could be repaired because I would wear them often but they

> can't be. With them, came a card....obviously she took the time to

> make for me on the computer...in the card this message:

>

> Dear Miss ,

>

> Merry Christmas! Happy New Year too! I honestly cannot wait until

> you and my Dad get married. ITS GOING TO BE AWESOME! I didn't know

> what you liked for jewelry, but I picked something out I thought

you

> might like. I hope you enjoy it and when you wear it you'll think

of

> me.

> Love,

>

> I am so touched by the love of this innocent child. She obviously

> knows that I love her dad and he loves me..and rather than being

> upset, or stand offish to me because Im a stranger to her, she

took

> the first step to fostering a relationship with me...3000 miles

> away. What a GIFT for the season!

>

> Then I turn around, and am reminded of my reality. If Im so damn

> smart, and lived so much crap in life, and am making the right

> choices for my family, then why do I have a daughter that is so

> ungrateful for the things she has in life? That sits and cusses at

> me because I refuse to pay for her multitoned hair, $20 bottles of

> conditioner, and $120 pairs of shoes. Where did I go wrong? Ive

just

> loved my kids the best I know how.

>

> I love my daughter to the depths of my heart, but there are times

> when she is forgein to me...and frankly I dont like her much. I

dont

> know where she gets it from..and if she picked any of it up from

> me..than Im a much more horrible person than I think I am. God

give

> me the strength to find my way with her. Merging these two

families

> has the potential of being my biggest challenge and possibly my

> biggest heartache in life.

>

> Ugh..somehow Im depressed. So much stress...so little time!

>

> Kat