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I don't know what to say as an introduction of myself. I'm 45

(birthday the other day), and self-diagnosed Aspie. More full-

blown Autistic traits in my youth, and I was (as I recall)

diagnosed with " minimal brain damage " in about fourth grade or

so.

I recall, after my one day in Special Classes, my Mom telling me

" they said you're Brain Damaged. Do you think you're brain

damaged? " " No, Mom, I'm not Brain Damaged! " " Then you must be

Just Fine, then. " Or words to that effect. I seem to have read

that Minimal Brain Damage is now called Dyspraxia, whereas

Minimal Brain Disfunction is now ADHD, but I don't really

understand all that.

Don't think what I've read about Dyspraxia fits me much. They

didn't have Aspergers as a diagnosis in the '60's, when I was a

kid, I wasn't low-functioning Autistic, and hyperlexia made me

seem a lot smarter than I (probably) actually am. So, given my

apparent brilliance and potential, and total lack of educational

progress, I was just " Lazy, Stupid or Crazy. "

Anyway, not what I intended to write about.

I have seen in the ADD groups the description of ADD as " hunter "

style behavior -- constantly scanning the environment, catching

little details of movement, pursuing a " target " intensely for an

extended period, and so on. This does suggest a way in which

ADD could be a pro-survival set of traits, explaining the

preservation of ADD in the gene pool of primitive humanity.

I wonder if Aspie traits might similarly be considered " herder "

traits. A shepherd needs to be effective in a quiet, unchanging

environment, quick to respond to change -- which often indicates

danger. Comfort in the dark and quiet rather than bright light

and noise would be a plus. Temple Grandin's gift for

understanding the perceptions of cattle may be part of a larger

pattern, an AS gift for " reading the herd " which may apply to

the rest of us somewhat -- or maybe I'm pushing the metaphor too

hard...

Some of the more inconvenient aspects of AS make sense in this

context, too. Being uncomfortable in noisy, boisterous crowds

is natural to one predisposed to working alone out in the

wilderness with the herd. Sensitivity to sudden, loud noises

would be a survival trait where such noises indicate oncoming

trouble, out in the quiet of the open range.

A while back, a friend was suggesting a way to deal with an

attractive young lady I'd met, and he said, " but I know that's

not the Cowboy Way. "

Reflecting on that, I was struck by how consistent AS is with

the Cowboy Way, at least the movie version. Being a loner who

doesn't talk much. A strong adherence to clear rights and

wrongs. A tendency to plainly stating one's truth. " Them that

don't know him don't like him, and them that do, sometimes don't

know how to take him. "

A tendency to jump into a fight with both feet when right and

wrong are at stake. A tendency toward literalism fits in, too.

Say what you mean, and mean what you say -- that's the Cowboy

Way, isn't it?

The facial expression thing works, too -- Clint Eastwood could

very easily play an Aspie, and arguably, he does, doesn't he?

Ever seen some of the expressions he gets in his movies?

Even rocking back and forth is reminiscent of ambling along on

horseback -- one could stim like that on a long ride and

nobody'd know the difference. <grin> Ditto with a bit of hand-

flapping, up to a point. Git along little doggies & all that.

That " Mommas, Don't Let Your Babies " song by Waylon & Willie

sure does have some AS traits in it, now doesn't it? " Cowboys

ain't easy to love, and they're harder to hold... " Further

comparisons are left as An Exercise For The Reader.

How much more responsive do you suppose folks might be to The

Cowboy Way, which they've been brought up to understand and

respect, than to the Aspie Way, which they don't understand?

I am mostly serious about all this, but I dunno if it all proves

anything. Interesting thought, though, huh?

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>How much more responsive do you suppose folks might be to The

>Cowboy Way, which they've been brought up to understand and

>respect, than to the Aspie Way, which they don't understand?

Hmmmm. How responsive would folks be to a short, middle-aged,

gray-haired female claiming to represent " the cowboy way " ?

Welcome, . My mother's pre-marriage last name was .

Maybe we're related. ;-)

Jane

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Hi Cowboy.

You don't have to prove any thing, here, as you said in your

introduction. I am near your age, 39.

I uh, wanted to say welcome. Welcome.

I'm Kim.

>>>>How much more responsive do you suppose folks might be to The

Cowboy Way, which they've been brought up to understand and

respect, than to the Aspie Way, which they don't understand?

I am mostly serious about all this, but I dunno if it all proves

anything. Interesting thought, though, huh?

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