Old offlist letter to acsnag

[Guest guest]

Way back on 12 June, I wrote to acsnag, because I thought I saw trouble

brewing, and wanted to head it off. I initiated a correspondence with him

to this effect, with the subject line, " What is you're trying to do? " It

should

be noted that at the time, I had had no online correspondence with him,

good or bad.

Hi A.

I don't wish to offend you, and I hope you won't feel that I'm attacking you,

but I would like to bring something to your attention. You're a new member

of the Treehouse, and I get the impression that you're relatively new to the

idea of having Asperger's. That you hadn't heard of " perseveration " was one

clue, and your misinformation about ABA was another.

In the short time you've been with us, you've managed to ruffle a few

feathers,

and I fear that you will get into an argument with someone about something

you don't really understand, and then you or the other person will get upset

and leave. It doesn't have to come to that, and I hope it doesn't, because you

have much to gain by sticking around and learning from people who have been

dealing with these things for a long time. I really hope that you will like

hanging

out at the Treehouse and will make friends there.

So, I want to ask, what is it you're trying to do? Do you want to teach us

all

how to post correctly, so as not to cause confusion, or impress us with your

learning, or make friends, or learn about Asperger's, or what? If I may make

a suggestion, I think you should write a bit of an introduction, tell us a

bit

about yourself and how you came to be diagnosed, whatever you wish to share,

and then lay low for awhile, and get to know the people and the issues so

that

you may then dialogue with us all in a constructive way. I hope you'll take

this

suggestion in the spirit it was offered.

Clay

We wrote back and forth three or four times, and I saw it was useless to try

to explain things to him, so I stopped. I really don't like to argue, and

there

seemed no point in continuing the correspondence.

What do you say, Ahab, do I have your permission to reprint here your

responses to my effort to help you fit in?

Clay

[Guest guest]

adamsCLAYADAMS@... wrote:

> What do you say, Ahab, do I have your permission to reprint here your

> responses to my effort to help you fit in?

>

No you do not. Those were private message. You chose to make them that

way and it would simply be stupid as well as unethical to print old

private conversations to the list.

There is no longer any question in my mind regarding my hesitance in

giving my name here. The way several people have already unethically

copied what I wrote in one place to other places. Thank God I have never

met you and will never meet you.

[Guest guest]

acsnag@... wrote:

> adamsCLAYADAMS@... wrote:

>

>

> > What do you say, Ahab, do I have your permission to reprint here

> > your responses to my effort to help you fit in?

> >

>

>

> No you do not. Those were private message. You chose to make them

> that way and it would simply be stupid as well as unethical to print

> old private conversations to the list.

Umm... it's not unethical to do it if he has your permission, which he

just asked for. Had he just reposted private email, it would have been

unethical. It's not unethical to ask, and it's not unethical to reprint

them if he has your permission.

> There is no longer any question in my mind regarding my hesitance in

> giving my name here. The way several people have already unethically

> copied what I wrote in one place to other places. Thank God I have

> never met you and will never meet you.

What does that have to do with giving your name?

[Guest guest]

assnag wrote:

I wrote:

> > What do you say, Ahab, do I have your permission

> > to reprint here your responses to my effort to

> > help you fit in?

> No you do not. Those were private message. You chose

> to make them that way and it would simply be stupid

> as well as unethical to print old private conversations

> to the list.

Yeah, that's what I figured. I didn't think you'd like

reprinted your surly responses to what was a genuine effort

to help you understand and fit in here.

> There is no longer any question in my mind regarding my

> hesitance in giving my name here.

I don't see that there ever Was a question in your mind about

that. All you told us about yourself was your initial was " A " ,

and I think that was because all you planned to do here was to

criticize, complain, and argue with people.

> The way several people have already unethically copied what I

> wrote in one place to other places.

I didn't see anything " copied " here. Paraphrased, maybe.

> Thank God I have never met you and will never meet you.

Put that in your prayers, bub.

Clay