Guest guest Posted July 11, 2007 Report Share Posted July 11, 2007 Something interesting that helped me with the feeling like a bad person sutff was my husband laughing about it. I would think I had all that stuff downpat - and handled lots of things much better. Yet still - if something happened to shake me all the way to my foundation - I would tap back into the " OMG. I am a bad person. " stuff. Again, I think that foundation repair takes a long long time. Sometimes my husband would argue the case that I was NOT a bad person. Or he would point out all the good person traits about me. But once, after doing something to him, that was making me feel particularly bad -- he just laughed. Not at me - but about the very idea that I could be a bad person. He just chuckled and said " you couldn't be a bad person if you TRIED. " He wasn't treating me as silly for thinking that. He was just letting me know that he thought the very idea of me being a bad person was so unlikely that the whole idea of it was humorous. There was a lot of power in that for some reason. That this man who knew me through and through - the good, the bad, and the ugly - in the midst of an argument with me - had found humor in the idea that I could really be bad - even if I tried. I still find strength in that - and carry that voice with me. So if something comes up that makes me start sucking all the blame my way - I can still hear his laughter and voice saying " you couldn't be a bad person if you TRIED! " Free Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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