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[Guest guest]

Does anyone else's nada do this?

You are on the phone with nada, and she is playing to

an audience at the other end, trying to make it sound

as if you are saying things that you didn't say, or

otherwise trying to give her audience a false

" impression. " Here is a recent example.

Nada (mournful victim voice): Sooo, did the children

EVER get those fall clothes I sent them? I haven't

heard from you since I sent those clothes.

Me: You haven't HEARD from me? What are you TALKING

about? I emailed you a week ago, the very DAY we got

them, and told you that they loved their clothes. Are

you telling me you didn't get the email?

Nada (heavy sigh): I guess... [Translation: " Yes I got

your e-mail, but I'm leading my audience to believe

that you just gave me some lame excuse about why you

couldn't let me know the clothes arrived, so when I

get off the phone, I'll cry and mourn and let them

comfort me because I have such an ungrateful

cold-hearted b**** for a daughter. " ]

She does this alllll the time, and the main payoff is,

my stepfather will then get furious and lash out at

his next opportunity. She is often waif/hermit, and

drifts into witch sometimes, but more often, she uses

HIM to get out all her witchy impulses on me. She

" sics " him on me, because he is a very rageful person

who believes I'm one of the worst people in the world

for " mistreating " her so badly. He doesn't fit any of

the husband types in UBM by the way, and isn't really

BP himself--I don't know what you would call him--he's

an extremely ANGRY person. Angry angry angry.

Convinced he's gotten a raw deal at all times.

Convinced he's been screwed over by life and everyone

in it. Hates everyone.

Here is an example of him having been " sic'ed " on me,

because of her lies. This was a couple weeks ago, when

I very reluctantly, late in the day, called to say

" happy anniversary " (which in itself is a huge

charade, because there are not two more unhappy,

dissatisfied people on the planet).

Me: Happy Anniversary.

Him (raging, off the bat): DID J---- EVER GET THAT

PACKAGE YOUR MOTHER SENT HIM?

Me (caught off guard and wondering " wtf, this was more

than a month ago " ): Uh....yeah?

Him: YOU COULD HAVE TAKEN THE TIME TO LET YOUR MOTHER

KNOW IT ARRIVED!!!

Me (realizing, yeah she's been at it again): I DID let

her know it arrived, right away, over a month ago.

Him (yelling, sarcastic, like he's caught me in some

big lie): OH YOU DID?

Me (finally raising my voice back): YES I ABSOLUTELY

DID, RIGHT AWAY!

Anyway, then when nada gets on the phone:

Me: So. You told him--again--that I neglected to let

you know a package arrived?

Nada (heavy sigh, like I'm verbally abusing her):

You've got it all wrong. (But she doesn't correct the

misimpression while he's still obviously listening,

because she's always telling everyone a different

story and a different version of events.)

LATER, she sends me an e-mail saying it was all a

misunderstanding: stepdad had asked her if my son

thanked her for the package when ds was on the phone

with her the week before. She simply said " No, " which

was technically true, because we thanked her a month

before. But this predictably enraged him because, just

as she portrays us 24/7, he continues to have the

impression we are ungrateful, neglectful, and selfish.

Just as she intended.

Then she adds, " I guess I didn't mention that you told

me the package arrived. He just asked me whether J----

thanked me. But I don't care whether J---- thanks me.

I'm just glad to know the package arrived safely.

BUT HE DID THANK HER, PERSONALLY, ON THE PHONE, THE

DAY IT ARRIVED. EVEN THOUGH HE WAS SICK WITH

PNEUMONIA, HE WANTED TO GIVE HER A CALL AND THANK HER.

AND HE DID.

So with this e-mail, even, which I'm sure she let him

see, she's perpetuating this myth of us being

ungrateful.

Her little smear campaigns are so pervasive and

nonstop, it's almost understandable that people

believe them. Except for the fact that...hasn't anyone

figured out what a huge huge huge liar she is, in

almost all situations?

She's such a nutjob. I don't even WANT PACKAGES OF

GIFTS AND CLOTHES. I keep telling her to quit sending

stuff, and I'm on the verge of returning the packages

unopened if she doesn't start respecting that. All she

does with the dang packages is act like we " owe her "

and use them to create fables about how neglectful and

selfish and ungrateful we are. We don't even want the

stuff.

Whew. Thanks for listening to that one!

Flea

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