Re: Thanks everyone

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From one to another - ((((((hugs))))))

thanks everyone

Thanks everyone for repsonding to my " what to do " Very very helpful. I

set my

boundaries, after two days of attitude at work and huffing and puffing and

slamming

things down, my mum left work again early saying she really wasn't in the

mood to be as

flexible as I'd like her to be, she's leaving. (?) I e mailed her saying

it seemed she was very

angry at me, small work space with other people and clients is probably

not the best space

for this. Take a few days, mum, to feel better and when you're ready,

come back and I'll

have plenty of tasks for you to help with (she complains there's not

enough work for her to

do) - which is because I rack my brains creating it for her. I mailed her

that I loved her

heart and soul. I'm sorry she's hurting about my brother and my niece.

there are some

issues that need to be addressed between us all. I understand and will

honour the fact

that she does not want to hear what they are or ever want to address them

(she's told me

she would rather die) but in turn it makes it difficult to bridge certain

gaps in connection

with each other.... She showed up minutes later and starting verbally

attacking me with the

same old sh@# that I've always heard...won't bore you with it now. on and

on how selfish,

cold, patronizing, etc I am. I had so say....shhhhh please, there are

clients in the rooms,

lets take this outside......so we did...please stop it mum, calm down etc.

she's saying Who

do you think you are? I'm leaving for good, I should never have had

children, I should

know better than to trust you and your brother, you're all nuts. I had to

go in to see a

client and she sat on the stairs wailing and crying...like a wounded

broken little child. My

e-mail apparently was the most disgusting thing she ever read and grounds

for never

seeing me again....why do you want to hurt me ? Why why? Why are

you so cruel?

Well folks, my heart split in half hearing my mother's cries on the frot

step of my center,

but I went inside and worked on my client. She's been callng my husband

and my borther

saying I don't understand! I'm so loving and compassionate and giving and

gentle -

everyone tramples all over me like I'm dirt. I've had enough, I shall be

victim no longer, Im

going to cut everyone out of my life.

Oh dear god in heaven. Exhaustion today and a little too much wine last

night for me.

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Tanbuzzca, that sounds like ALOT of work. Good for you on holding

your ground. My nada typically tells me I'm selfish, cruel and

condescending when I set a boundary or make a request--can definitely

understand your pain. It was FAR worse when I started than it is now,

because I kind of did a double whammy where I'd 1.) make a reasonable

request or set a limit and 2.) walk out and refuse to deal with her

when she was raging, being abusive and screaming.

It may sound ugly, but you might consider setting a boundary where you

do not allow her to come to work or stay at work when she is behaving

that way--just refuse to deal with her at those times. That probably

sounds like a HUGE step, but I personally have realized that some of

the steps I've taken successfully once seemed huge at first.

Whatever you do, good luck.

Trish

>

> Thanks everyone for repsonding to my " what to do " Very very

helpful. I set my

> boundaries, after two days of attitude at work and huffing and

puffing and slamming

> things down, my mum left work again early saying she really wasn't

in the mood to be as

> flexible as I'd like her to be, she's leaving. (?) I e mailed her

saying it seemed she was very

> angry at me, small work space with other people and clients is

probably not the best space

> for this. Take a few days, mum, to feel better and when you're

ready, come back and I'll

> have plenty of tasks for you to help with (she complains there's not

enough work for her to

> do) - which is because I rack my brains creating it for her. I

mailed her that I loved her

> heart and soul. I'm sorry she's hurting about my brother and my

niece. there are some

> issues that need to be addressed between us all. I understand and

will honour the fact

> that she does not want to hear what they are or ever want to

address them (she's told me

> she would rather die) but in turn it makes it difficult to bridge

certain gaps in connection

> with each other.... She showed up minutes later and starting

verbally attacking me with the

> same old sh@# that I've always heard...won't bore you with it now.

on and on how selfish,

> cold, patronizing, etc I am. I had so say....shhhhh please, there

are clients in the rooms,

> lets take this outside......so we did...please stop it mum, calm

down etc. she's saying Who

> do you think you are? I'm leaving for good, I should never have had

children, I should

> know better than to trust you and your brother, you're all nuts. I

had to go in to see a

> client and she sat on the stairs wailing and crying...like a wounded

broken little child. My

> e-mail apparently was the most disgusting thing she ever read and

grounds for never

> seeing me again....why do you want to hurt me ? Why why? Why

are you so cruel?

>

> Well folks, my heart split in half hearing my mother's cries on the

frot step of my center,

> but I went inside and worked on my client. She's been callng my

husband and my borther

> saying I don't understand! I'm so loving and compassionate and

giving and gentle -

> everyone tramples all over me like I'm dirt. I've had enough, I

shall be victim no longer, Im

> going to cut everyone out of my life.

>

> Oh dear god in heaven. Exhaustion today and a little too much wine

last night for me.

>

[Guest guest]

I agree about the doctors and also the people working with SSDI.

Lots of hugs and kisses to everyone.

Lyncia

 

 

From: abijann <no_reply >

Subject: Thanks everyone

To: livercirrhosissupport

Date: Thursday, May 14, 2009, 9:09 PM

Thank you all for being so concerned about me.

I think we need more doctors who truly care, like the people in this group.