[Modoasis] speaking of PTSD and BP magnets, this ain't normal!

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Hi all, thought I would share with you my next BP like story. It's not nada,

though. It all starts a couple of years ago when we met a homeschooler over

an email group; found out they live real close to us, unusual for

homeschoolers. Well, this lady's daughter and mine seemed to get along okay

when they met. I offered that her daughter could take algebra on video with

my daughter so they could help each other out and be friends. We tried

getting closer to them, but to make a long story short, we found the mom has

some BP traits. Not to mention all she did was tell stories or lies about

almost everything. That is a HUGE turnoff for me. I did not want to get

close to this person. Apparently they figured my daughter is not good enough

material for their daughter, who quit inviting her to anything and instead

started asking other people, including one of my daughter's exfriends who

was involved with showing my daughter's mini horses that she has no contact

with any more (nada made a sob story about how she needed help with the

littlehorses and wanted them to be shown in shows still). Anywho, my stress

level with putting up with this lady and her kid got to be too much. I have

finally realized my daughter really has ADD. But this other girl got a huge

kick out of " beating " my daughter at finishing the math assignment, teased

my daughter too much - supposedly joking, but teasing in a bad way if you

know what I mean, eventually my daughter felt like she was dumb and started

believing this girl. When my daughter was doing a class at the girl's house,

the mom unkowingly I guess also belittled my daughter; when my daughter had

a question she would ask her own daughter to tell my daughter how to do the

problem.

So I figured all this was too toxic for us, not to mention I am trying to

figure out how to get treatment for my daughter for her ADD as I lost

hundreds of dollars dropping online classes she was not able to keep up with

b/c of her apparent ADD and can't get a refund on the classes. So I even

emailed to this homeschool list that mom is on mentioning my stress level is

over the hilt and I was looking for suggestions for people to go see about

treating ADD. I called my therapist today and told her I have a huge issue

with this girl and her mom and don't want to deal with them any more;

therapist agreed that cutting them out was not a bad idea, esp b/c it's

affecting daughter's self image and self esteem, and that I don't need to

give anyone an explanation. This math they were doing tog is a video algebra

course with a PROFESSOR TEACHING on video; I was overlooking the work and

grading and helping with questions. This professor does have a phone number

and email one can use for questions, and he always answered my emails before

or by the next day. He is quite helpful if anyone needs it. I have a math

major so I did not need it much.

So I emailed the mom today with this short message:

" Well, don't make any extra copies of phase II for me b/c I've decided we

aren't going to be doing math together any more after phase I is up. K____

won't be doing the logic, either. We should be finished with phase I right

before Thanksgiving from what I can tell.

Just did not want you making tons of copies and THEN me tell you that.

ok, thanks! "

Now I did not suspect this mother to be overjoyed about this decision, but

did not exactly expect this:

" I wish you could have told me that before we started this year! You are

leaving me without a teacher! I would have made other arrangements for my

daughter. I thought YOU were committed 100% YOU never mentioned it was

different. Fine.

We will stop right now. "

I will call my therapist about this tomorrow. Of course I feel guilty, but

hmmm, does someone have a boundary problem here? She read on the email list

my stress level is over the hilt, knows I took my daughter to a doc appt

tonight to try to get onto figuring out what all is wrong besides possibly

ADD, and that's all I get from her? Ya, she was a real friend, alright. Good

riddens, thank goodness!

Knowing her now she will call my nada and say how she understands what a

b* & *^ I am. This lady is one who recognized there was somthing wrong with

nada, but apparently there is something wrong with her, too.

Theresa