I NEED SERIOUS HELP

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This was my morning:

I was getting ready for work and was told by my son that he hates

Florida and wants to go back to Ohio. I talked to him for a while

and tried to dig up some more of what he had to say and he said he

hates my fiancee!!! This was such a shock to me and I had such a

hard time concentrating at work that I had to go home to find out the

F was going on. Luke (my son) said that he hates him because he

doesn't want to stay in Florida forever. (Does he think that its my

fiancee's fault that we are here and not going back right away? We

didn't go back when we promised we would because of my mother's

outbursts.)

So I started thinking that perhaps he was just going through some

kind of identity crisis because he spent his first 6 years of his

little life in Ohio, with my mother everyday, or almost every day and

misses them. I thought perhaps if my fiancee and I planned a trip

up there to gather more of my furniture, my son's furniture and toys,

etc it would help the transition.

Then I got this email from my maid of honor:

" Your mom called me today. She was polite but told me she would not

be coming to the shower or the wedding.

She said you've been lying to everyone and excluding the family from

things ( I dunno). She said you aren't speaking to her which I

thought was odd since last time I checked she wasn't speaking to you.

She said she would be willing to sit down with the family and work

out the " misunderstanding " you mentioned. (I dunno) but she wasn't

going down to Florida too see a counselor or something.

I'm sorry babe. I love you and it will be a beautiful wedding. At

least we won't have to worry about her causing a scene.

If I may give a little advise, continue being honest with her. 100

percent honest for now on. And try not to show you're mad unless you

really are. Be careful you're not raising your voice just because she

raised hers or try to hurt her just because she hurt you. Continue to

send her pictures of Luke and the family. Eventually she will see

what she's missing out on and it will show you that you can be happy

and complete without her.

She also refused to give me pictures but said your dad has all the

pictures she has so I can get them from him. May I please have that

number again?

I sent out about half the invites for the bachelorette party and

shower, as soon as you get last names and addresses and such for the

other half, I can send out the rest. Have you collected pictures of

you, Jay, you and Jay and Luke, and luke growing up? Perhaps the best

idea is to send them straight to . The pictures of Jay growing

up too. If you have special songs I would send those to her as well

for the background music. Please send her the pics of Jay growing up

too. I'll get to you dad's soon and get those pics.

Any other news?

Tara "

Just so you know, my maid of honor doesn't know anything about BPD

and has labeled my mom " crazy " however, also feels that consistent

lying to my mother as a child has led me to this point. I hate being

accused of lying over things I DID NOT LIE ABOUT! My mom is so good

at convincing everyone that I do this!!! AND if I don't tell my mom

everything she wants to hear about every detail, then it must be

because either A) I lied about something I have something to hide.

I can't take this anymore, its driving me crazy.