[Modoasis] sort of funny update

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Hey, all!

I don't know if you guys remember me posting about how my nada was

going to go see a therapist who specialized in borderline personality

just to get testing done and all to PROVE to me and daughter (esp

daughter) that she is not a borderline. This was by the encouragement

of my sister who told nada that if she wanted to prove it to me, then

she should go to this therapist and prove me wrong (this is a trick,

of course, just to get nada over there hoping it will help all the

rest of us out in the long run). Well, before my nada went out of

town to visit sister, she told sister that this therapist was going to

be calling both me and sister to let us know she is not a borderline

(or something like that). So, when I did see this therapist calling

on my ID, just last Fri, I did not answer it b/c I freaked, and she

did not leave a message. BUT, I had emailed this therapist before mom

ever went to see her, so I went and emailed her telling her I saw she

tried to call but that I do not under any circumstances answer the

phone unless I know it's someone who is not going to be giving harmful

messages, etc, that it's tootraumatizing for me to answer the phone

around here, and that if she was calling me to tell me nada was normal

not to call me back. I went into a little shpiel about how nada had

traumatized me and daughter and now we have to back out of homeschool

groups, halfway live as hermits, etc. I did tell her it's possible

she was calling to get my perspective and would not mind that. Well,

the T emailed me back simply saying " I was just calling to get your

perspective. I did not mean to upset you. "

I mean, can you imagine? Good thing she specializes in BP or she

would think I have major issues (well, I do with the phone anyway).

She should see something wrong with my reaction right there in terms

of nada. I emailed her back saying I would give my perspective in

writing and mail it to her as she said it was ok for me to write it.

Well, I felt like such a nada in that I ended up with an 8-page

perspective (and I left out whatever I possibly could!) but I mailed

that plus the 3 articles I emailed you guys that wrere really helpful

to me, plus email and other electronic exchanges betw daughter and

ex-homeschool friends. That was 2 days ago. I guess I will

eventually hear from her agai. She is supposed to call my sister but

has not yet, so I figure she wanted to hear from me first.

Get this- my daughter sent a very angry email to one of the girls who

was helping nada out with the little horses, and it ended up that the

girl's mother thought I was the one who sent it to her daughter! I

think she got that idea from nada, of course. So that parent thinks I

am a mean idiot. Oh, well. Good thing I did not answer the phone

when I saw their name on the ID b/c it probably was her wanting to

chew me out.

Now daughter's confirmation sponsor claims he wants to try to meet

with her this weekend. Daughter is happy, but I am just thinking he

may be doing spy/reporter etc work to report to granny. But I did

tell him to keep everything daughter and I say, email, or whatever

confidential. Well, he did tell nada I had emailed him (not what I

want, either) but I don't think he told her what my email said. He is

a physician, so he should know plenty about confidentiality. Will

see how that one goes.

So far we have missed 3 horse shows; this last one nada tried to

hoover us in by stopping by the house on her way out of town with the

horses, stating she had no one to show them so we could come drive

there the next day or two and daughter could show them. Major hoover.

Why would she spend all that money with no one to show the horses at

the show? Just a hoover attempt, I guess.

Things may eventually get better with this therapist she has; I sure

hope so! DAughter is dying being in no contact with her little

horses. CAn't find anyone around here who will let her ride or work

their horses or just be around them, either. It's either they want

her when I am working and the place is 45 minutes away or b/c she is

15 I have to stand around with her (not my cup of tea. She likes being

out in the heat with horses, but I sure as heck do not!) STill

trying to find a way, though. She wants me to buy a mini horse for

our back yard, but I told her I think she needs to get a job and earn

plenty of money for that, just even getting its hooves trimmed and the

shots and stuff! Eeek! I hope school can keep her busy when we

start up again as it's killing me she suffers but I can't save her

from it, either.

Theresa